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Mental Game : 4 Intriguing Attitudes Of Successful Entrepreneurs

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5 Lessons (24m)
    • 1. Mental Game Intro

      1:25
    • 2. Attitude #1 :- A Sense of Mission

      5:33
    • 3. Attitude #2 :- Beyond GOALS

      3:25
    • 4. Attitude #3 Seperate Emotion From Intellect

      8:06
    • 5. Attitude #4 Better:Stronger Under Pressure

      5:06

About This Class

- Do You Know the Most Interesting Attitudes of Successful Entrepreneurs?

In this Class, You are gonna learn 4 such attitudes which differentiates most successful Entrepreneurs.  

  • A Sense Of MISSION
  • Beyond OUTCOME Based Goals
  • Separating Emotion From Intellect
  • Better/Stronger Under Pressure

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Transcripts

1. Mental Game Intro: Hi. Welcome to our presentation today called the Mental Game. No. In this presentation, we're gonna be covering four intriguing attitudes of successful entrepreneurs, and you may not even want to call these attitudes. You might want to call them characteristics or traits or behaviors or even habits. But that would be cool to look at four things that are not necessarily covered in traditional business books or courses or seminars things you may have seen before but maybe didn't get all that much attention that I personally believe can help you. And if you implement even some of these ideas can maybe help you get to that next level in your business, even in your life. So let's actually take a look at what we're gonna be covering for mental attitudes of success. And the floor goes as follows. The 1st 1 is successful. Entrepreneurs carry themselves with a sense of mission. Second is that they go beyond outcome based schools and they focus on something a little bit different that we're covering next. A big one is successful. Entrepreneurs are very proficient at separating emotion from intellect, especially when it comes to decision making. And then finally, when the pressure is on the best Entrepreneurs actually get stronger, get better at what they do, how how they carry themselves. So let's dive into this. 2. Attitude #1 :- A Sense of Mission: does. So let's dive into this with the 1st 1 here, which is the sense of mission. Now you've probably noticed in your life I've known assistant mind that you can usually bucket people or group them into two different categories one of two categories. There's people who are of the achiever mentality vs. There's other people who are just sort of the going through the motions type of people. And hopefully you're more of the achiever type. But I'm sure you've met people that fall into both of these categories. And I guess to say, I'm gonna venture to say that some people are born more of in more of this achiever mentality. They're you know, they're highly driven people just by their very nature of there being. But there's other people who have become very successful who are not like that to begin with. But they were infused with a sense of mission, achievement, purpose and so on, and they developed that characteristic over time and what I'm saying here on the slide, the second point is that successful entrepreneurs choose to operate from a sense of purpose . They have a sense of mission behind everything they do And it's not even just from a business perspective here, this goes to and bleeds through to every other area of their life. No matter what action or what goal there is they're pursuing, there's a sense of mission behind it. There is a dry there's a purpose. There's a link back to, um, they're worth as a person, and they're reaching their own potential to do more with their life. So there is this drive, the sense of mission, that all successful entrepreneurs having the best way I can kind of get you to think this way or move you into this state of being or operation is illustrating an example of a few years ago when I was at a shopping mall on experience. I don't like to begin with. I think it was holiday season. So shopping for my wife and getting some stuff done. Ah, and I go go back out to the car. I'm thought I was finished my activities for the day to the horror that my wallet was missing. It wasn't in my pocket. I had no idea where I had left it. Ah, an instant shift, right? Suddenly a sense of mission to find this thing because I want to lose and on all the horrible things that go with it. At least they seem horrible with surface. I'm sure there's worse things in life, but you know what I'm saying, right? You you lose your wallet or something. Crazy happens even if it's not a wallet related situation. You're on a sense of mission to find this thing. So without thinking, you know, put the bags in the car and back into the mall. I go to retrace my steps and figure out, Can I find it or am I out a lot here? And every single action has a purpose. Every movement I take, I'm walking basically running, trying to solve this problem. Ah, and I'm not going to stop until I've done everything in my power to find it now to give you the closure of the loop here. I did end up finding my wallet. I was super lucky that some good submitted him happen to see my wallet had fallen out of my pocket, I guess when I sat down on a bench for a drink and they returned it to a help desk are lost and found whatever and thankfully, at my wallet was returned Me, which was awesome. But I'll never forget this. This instant shift. I was suddenly on a mission to find the thing. And I did everything in my power without stopping until I reached a logical conclusion there. And this is sort of the mode of operation for sex successful entrepreneurs all of the time . So ask yourself this question. Do you run your business? Do you operate your business and the activities and projects inside of your business with that sense of purpose and mission because you are driven to achieve? Or are you? Are you falling more and more into these type of people that are just going through the motions? You don't like it anymore? You've lost your passion for what you do. How do you get that back? What I'd like to do right now is suggest to you a 15 minute mo mentum builder. If you ever find yourself slipping out of the mention of the achiever mentality and that is basically find anything in your life, it could be something as simple as tidying your office. Cleaning your desk could be something more sophisticated, like completing a project or starting a project. Maybe you're a writer and you need to begin the next chapter of your book. Whatever it may be for you set an iPhone clock or oclock on your computer, even just whatever some kind of timer and 15 minutes you give yourself from 0 to 15 to do nothing but force yourself to operate from a sense of mission and purpose on whatever that task is that you choose to do so you give yourself the goal and you say for the next 15 minutes I'm going to do everything in my power to get us deep and far and high quality into this task, as I possibly can, to regain that sense of mission and purpose mentality that I want to operate with and what you're gonna find. This works very well for me, and I've seen it work for others as well is that at the end of the 15 minutes you'll have gained so much mo mentum in what it is that you're doing that if you're not done, you're gonna keep going until that particular tax that you chose is finished. Ah, and if you are done, you'll feel so good about the achievement that you've just made that you want to move it, Move on to the next task and this is where the power of momentum kicks in. I'm sure you've been on a mo mentum, a positive momentum swing at some point in your life, and you realize how beneficial that could be for you. This is how you create mo mentum. This is how you generate a sense of mission in your life and ultimately in your in your business. And you can become one of those successful entrepreneurs by developing this characterised. 3. Attitude #2 :- Beyond GOALS: all right. Moving on to mindset number two, attitude number two, whatever you wanna call it thinking beyond outcome based goals, and this is very, very important. And it's also quite subtle if you're not paying attention. And the main thing I want to illustrate here is that successful entrepreneurs, people that are just generally successful in life are not Onley focused on external achievement. So external ist treatment isn't everything. It's not just about making that next sale. It's not just about achieving the next salary level or receiving that promotion or completing the book or selling a certain number of units or whatever it may be for your business. Those things are important there, measuring sticks. When you reach those outcome based goals, you feel good about yourself. But if you get stuck in the loop of Onley measuring your worth and Onley feeling happy when the outcome based goals are being achieved, you can lose yourself. And what's very important here is a second bullet point on the slide, which is the question you want to ask. Is the goal of what kind of person do I want to be or kind of person? Do I want to become, so outcomes are great, but becoming goals are just as important. Successful entrepreneurs take time to not only set up the measuring sticks like their outcome based goals financially. Maybe it's in their health fitness world, but they also ask themselves, How do I want to be? What kind of person do I want to be with my family, with my employees with my partners? Do I want to be an inspiring leader or to want to be somebody that everyone lives in fear of? And of course, the people that want to be most successful want other people to be magnetized to them. And you'll notice that that most successful entrepreneurs, whatever their personality type, is they could be, you know, just horribly introverted people, not horribly introvert. It's fine, but they could be very, very introverted or extremely extroverted. Or somewhere in between doesn't really matter what the personality types are. They have this quality, this magnetic style about them. They're inspiring, and generally the rest of us want to be around them because they're not just focused on the next goal. The next measuring stick there also focused on those who do I want to become type of questions, and another important thing to realize here is that those successful entrepreneurs it we're talking about, realized that both things are possible. It's not an either or scenario. You don't have to just focus all your life on same going to be and just experience life as a being. You can also have a lot of worthy, outcome based goals that drive you while at the same time focusing on the kind of person you want to become. So it's very, very important. I encourage you to do this in your own success. Planning is in addition to whatever revenue targets you're setting, whatever health and fitness targets you're setting, maybe there is relationship goals that you're setting, that you set the becoming goals as well. How do you want to operate in certain situations? How do you want to treat other people? How do you want other people to treat you? And what would what would you want other people to say about you if they were giving a speech about you? Let's say right, these are very, very important questions to ask, and this will move you from working on just outcomes to working on who you want to be, and going beyond those outcome based school is that control far too many of us and often makes us lose ourselves in the process. There's a very powerful characteristic. 4. Attitude #3 Seperate Emotion From Intellect: all right. Now let's talk about number three, which is the idea of being able to separate emotion from intellect. Huge, huge concept, especially in the business world. I'm sure you've seen far too many business owners who will just fly off the deep end in a rage for things that really aren't all that worth it. And they lose days or sometimes weeks of productivity because they're so wrapped up in the emotions of what's going on in their business. Instead of taking a step back and handling the situation logically and from a more success oriented perspective, the very first bullet on the slide I talk about or I'm referencing the concept of feelings versus principles. This comes from ah, popular speaker named Eric Thomas, and he talks about how he never listens to his feelings because his feelings will alter and change on a day by day or hour by hour, even minute by minute basis. And sometimes he'll forget what it's true principles are if he just responds and reacts to the world around him based on how he's feeling in the situation. So what this means is that whenever he is involved in something going on, especially if it's an emotional situation. He takes a pause. He takes a step back and steps back and evaluates what his true principles are and makes his decisions how to react to situation based on what his principles dictate. That he does versus how he's feeling in the moment. How well do you handle this in your business? How well do you handle a surge of, let's say, negative emotion to allow? Do you allow that to throw you off course? Ah, and become less productive and may be lash out at people, cause evening further damage in your business? Or you ableto weather the storm and actually make educated, intellectual productive decisions, despite the fact that you may be angry or upset or insulted, or whatever else is going on with you right now I would like to do at the moment is switch over to another recording that I've made from a previous program where I dive into this topic a little bit, and I just like you to think on this from the perspective of how well you're able to separate emotion from intellect and hopefully some of the sticks with you and gives you something you can work with in your life. Let's go over there now. Family, friends, you name it. There is many times where we bump up against other people and our ability to examine and understand what's happening in the world and what other people are doing and what their intentions are looking at that intelligently and separating. What are emotions are telling us about that situation because sometimes by the nature of how our world works and how we work as humans ah, our emotional reactions to situations may cloud our ability to actually effectively deal with what's going on and effectively examine what's really happening so that we can make an appropriate response. And I think this is best summed up in a book by Robert Green called the 50th Law, which is all about the rapper 50 Cent and how he obtained his power Phenomenal book. You should read it, but it's a quote in that book that I often have been looking at recently, and it says when you look at people through the lens of your emotions, this will cloud what you see and make you misunderstand everything. Now I really want you to think about that for a second. When you look at people through the lens of your emotions, it'll cloud what you see. How true is that? How often have you been in a situation where somebody may have been forceful or aggressive or accusing when they shouldn't be? And you immediately want to be defensive and explain yourself or you're being attacked and they're trying? They're trying to pull you into a situation that you really don't even want to get into. Um, if you immediately go with the emotional reaction, you will lose that situation. I mean, you know it for sure you're gonna lose the situation. Whereas if you intelligently learn how to step back and almost interrupt that natural reaction that where emotion takes over and you take a moment to examine where they're coming from and what is causing that person to behave in this way, Usually it's some kind of fear. It's some kind of personal issue that's going on in their life, and it's manifesting in their interaction with you. And so if you're able to take a pause like I'm talking like 1/2 of a second pause to just interrupt your emotional reaction and give it a second and then examine what exactly is happening here. You might change the way you react and respond to the situation. In some cases, it's gonna be totally natural. But if you refuse to emotionally respond, but instead respond intellectually, get to the heart of the matter in and maybe address the real issue of what's going on here . So as an example, I remember a couple of years ago in one of the products I was involved in, we were selling basically a done for you type of service, and it was fairly cheap. I mean, let's say it was around $50. It wasn't like we were breaking the bank for people when they bought this thing from us. But for whatever reason, this guy that purchased had an issue. He was trying to access his purchase, and there were problems with the system. First of all, he couldn't download his information. Then he tried to open up a support ticket and something happened where our support team didn't get his message and a series of things went wrong. And considering we had thousands of customers, this is gonna happen from time to time. and some people are going to get angry. But this guy insisted that even though we were legit company and their Israel people and we're trying to solve this problem once he got a hold of us when you realized what was wrong, we were trying to fix the problem. But because it took so long, he was convinced that we were scammers and we were out to steal his money. And no matter what we said, we we were just the horrible people and and we were just out to steal everyone's money. And at that point I kind of realized that if I tried to explain myself or get defensive and say, Well, look at us, I have my picture here and we have our website up. How could you possibly be scamming people and try to explain myself? That's a losing battle, And so when it came to this guy, I just eventually decided to not even go down that path. We just simply issued a refund and he had no no legs to stand on anymore because if we were trying to scam him, then why would we issue a refund? And we just walked away from the business altogether. We didn't try to right the situation. We didn't try to explain what right wrong or why it happened. We realized that there was no changing his mind, and all we could do was wash your hands clean of that situation and move on. And I handled it very transactional. Me. I was lucky in this situation because we have been dealing with thousands of customers and many, many support tickets, and I was sort of heading up how we were handling all of this stuff. So I had seen my fair share. Now, if that had been my first interaction with a negative customer or customer period, I probably would not have had the wherewithal to do that. I probably would have been sucked right down into that rat hole of defensiveness or arguing or getting into a heated battle, or who knows what it would have been, what it would have ended poorly for me again. Luckily, I had sort of been exposed to enough of these types of situations to know that emotion is absolutely the losing game here. And so I separated through. I did not. I did not examine this person through a clouded, emotional Latin's. I separated the two, and here's the thing that this is kind of the important part of all of this. I'm not saying that you will not feel the emotion, and in fact, that's a big hiccup for a lot of people. You're still going to feel the emotions of defensiveness or of upset or of anger, of hurts. When people are attacking, you're coming at you in a way that you don't think is justified. And I want you to remember that feeling the emotions is not wrong, and in fact you should come to expect it. But what you should also come to expect is your ability to interrupt the need to react emotionally and just react out of intelligence. Even if you feel the emotional hurt or defensiveness, you can still act in spite of that and act in a way that's more appropriate to winning in the situation. So that's the key thing here is to not react to the emotions, but also don't judge yourself if you have the emotions. Even if you've dealt with the situation 100 times, you still may not be able to turn those emotions off of feeling upset or angry or defensive because it's human nature. I mean, we we want to make sure that people understand us and we can explain ourselves, but doesn't mean you have to physically do it. You can make amore intellectual decision. Wow, feeling those most. 5. Attitude #4 Better:Stronger Under Pressure: All right, let's move on to the fourth and final point here, and that is successful. Entrepreneurs are actually better and stronger when they're under pressure, and this is a tough concept for a lot of people to wrap their heads around. Most really successful entrepreneurs, especially as they're climbing the ladder, the pressure increases. There's a higher demand, their businesses building. There's a bigger customer base. There's more. There are more customers, partners, staff, you name it. The level of pressure in general at all levels increases. There's more demands on their time, their arm or cash flow considerations. You can imagine all of the stuff that starts to happen. Here's one thing that I've noticed. Successful entrepreneurs, the ones that really take off to the next level have literally trained themselves to respond positively to this type of pressure versus negatively. Ah, person that handles this negatively would see an increase in demand like this and immediately fold into a shell and say, Oh my goodness, I can't handle this. There's too much coming at me. What am I gonna dio versus? The successful entrepreneur has trained themselves to realize that an increased demand means an increased level of success. In my business, it means an increased opportunity for me to be able to handle more. It's a higher capacity and really what it is. The third point of the slide says it here. Clearly, it's a rite of passage for more success. You cannot obtain a higher level of success if you can't handle the current amount of stuff coming at you, the current amount of pressure is coming at you. So what I've noticed is the most successful entrepreneurs can can withstand incredible amounts of pressure because they've trained themselves to actually decompress and become calm, even when the situation appears to be chaotic and hectic around them. So this involves. There's a number of different strategies that come into play here, but this involves a lot of self control, self introspection and, actually physical manipulation. So, first of all, one of the tips they like like to recommend to people is as soon as you begin to feel pressure in your business, whether it's demands from staff, clients, partners, whatever take that moment to automatically interrupt whatever your natural reaction is and study it, what do you do by default? Do your shoulders get tense does your breathing increase do you start sweating? Do you feel a general sense of anxiety? List all of it out and understand how you kind of default when these situations occur so that you know what to expect in the future. Second, you want to decide what to do instead. So if your if your default is to suddenly feel a sense of anxiety and to get tense in your shoulders and your back in whatever in your posture, you can create your own exercise. You go to YouTube for all I care. You create exercises to immediately counter act that physical reaction that's happening in your body. One of the one of the tips I learned in Navy Seals books is Aziz box breathing technique where you breathe in a certain pattern, deep breaths over and over again, until you naturally forced your body to calm down physically. When you calm down physically, the rest of your being goes along with it and you suddenly begin to feel better. Nothing else has changed around you. All of the existing pressure still exists. The demands air still on you both mentally and sometimes even physically. If their people are there in person, but you yourself have changed. You've change your body chemistry to become more resilient to those demands. Now it's a matter of habituate ing that so you can handle it over and over again in the future. This is just one tiny little example, but the point I'm making here on the slide and in this point is that the most successful entrepreneurs realize and accept with open arms the fact that pressure is going to increase as success increases. The only thing that's left to do is be ableto handle yourself and keep yourself calm, relaxed and prepare to take on the next challenge so that whatever is going on around you will not impact your productivity, and you can stay strong on the road to success. Take a few minutes right now to uncover and identify the situations where you feel the pressure and what you're gonna do instead so that you can make your rite of passage for more success. And you can handle more pressure so you can grow further. And this will be an unbelievably powerful experience for you when you learn to implement it . So I hope these four topics these four ideas have maybe shed some light on stuff you haven't thought about before. Maybe you can go and examine some successful entrepreneurs that you really respect and admire and see some of these characteristics. See the parallels that ive uncovered today. And even if you just take one idea and run with it, I would hope that you consider this a successful investment of your time. So thanks very much for watching. I appreciate it, and I look forward to hearing from you very soon.