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How to Get Along with People: Top Ten Tips

Fiona MacKay Young, Handwriting Analysis & Personal Growth

How to Get Along with People: Top Ten Tips

Fiona MacKay Young, Handwriting Analysis & Personal Growth

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11 Lessons (34m)
    • 1. Introduction

      0:57
    • 2. #1 Smile

      2:21
    • 3. #2 Speak to People

      3:58
    • 4. #3 Use People's Names

      3:16
    • 5. #4 Be Willing to Help Out

      2:20
    • 6. #5 Don't Criticize, Do Praise

      4:22
    • 7. #6 Be Friendly

      3:41
    • 8. #7 Be Considerate of Others Feelings

      4:25
    • 9. #8 Be Pleasant and Good Natured

      2:38
    • 10. #9 Be Genuinely Interested in People

      2:53
    • 11. #10 Show a Sense of Humor

      2:59
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Getting along easily with others makes life so much more enjoyable. These Top Ten Tips will help you see how to be at ease in the company of others and how to cope with some situations you may not like. Human Relations is one of the most important life skills for everyone to have and these tips will show you how to acquire them quickly and painlessly.

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Fiona MacKay Young

Handwriting Analysis & Personal Growth

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I've been involved for over 20 years in helping people move ahead with their lives through identifying their gifts, strengths and overcoming blocks or limitations. It is my goal to inspire those I meet to develop their potential to the fullest.

There are a wide variety of ways to do these things, and I love to explore, adapt and create new ways.

As a Graphologist and Grapho-Therapist (Handwriting Analysis),

And also as a Career Counselor and Personal Development & Law of Attraction Coach,

I love nothing more than to help people be the very best they can be, to realize their hopes and dreams and love their lives. 

I also love 'techie' things, and have worked as a Graphic Designer, creating websites (WordPress) and creating videos fo... See full profile

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1. Introduction: I'm feeling a Michael Young, and this is how to get along with people. The top 10 tips There are various ways that you can adapt your behavior to get along with almost anyone a lot more easily. Some of these you'll probably be doing already on if you find these of the course will hate . That's confirmation that you're doing the right thing, but the chances are you're not doing all 10. Very few people do, but they can really help. So by going through all these Tennessee, how they work and why they work and how to put them in action that can help you feel a lot more confident and only actually helps you get along better with people. But it increases your confidence for guessing along with people. You'll know that the way you're behaving will produce or should normally produce at least ah, positive outcome. So please join how to get along with people that top 10 tips 2. #1 Smile: number one smile, smile in the wild world smiles with you. It may be a businessman. Exaggeration, however smiling at people you meet, does have amazingly beneficial results, both for you and for them. For them, it's obvious they feel happier that someone has taken the trouble to smile at them. It makes them feel good, and hopefully it will then pass the smile along to someone else. For you, you get in part the warm glow that comes with being nice to someone. And if the smell back atyou, you get that floor, too. But the other benefit to you is that your body language affects your feelings just as your feelings affect your body language. So when your body language is a smile, you make yourself feel happier, too. Even if you just smile at yourself in the mirror when no one else is around, you will feel happier. The old saying that it takes 72 muscles to frown on only 14 to smile has been proved wrong . It actually only takes 11 muscles to frown and 12 muscles to smile. But since more people smile more often than they've thrown, the spiral muscles are much stronger so easier to use. So smile at people you meet and take the first step to getting along well. Here's a lesson. Project. Smile at at least five people today or tomorrow if this is last second point coming up next number to speak to people. 3. #2 Speak to People: number to speak to people. Most people are not mind readers. You have to speak to them if you find small talk difficult Google A list of small talk questions to some you like. Memorize them and use um, next time you with someone. Here are a few to start with for people you don't already know much about. What do you do for a living, or do you enjoy your work? Have you seen any good movies recently, or have you read any good books recently? What's your favorite restaurant in town? Where is your favorite place that you've ever visited? Are you from here originally for people you already know but are having trouble thinking of something to talk about with? Have you heard from then name a mutual friend or acquaintance recently? Have you tried the new specific type off restaurant gets what kind of winter or summer do you think we're in for? Or bring up any local piece of news and just say I was reading about whatever it waas the other day. What do you think of that? So that the next time you meet someone you you'll have some topics to introduce to make speaking easier to each other with people you already know. Just think about what you know about them, perhaps about what was talked about last time you saw them, or even just something as simple as How are you? But at least talk about something. If your silence, people are not sure if you don't want to talk to them for some reason. Or perhaps they think you're just unsociable. Of course, it goes without saying that you should not monopolize the conversation. Listening is part of Converse E. On. You should listen with genuine and trust and what your conversation partners are saying if you meet someone just momentarily, a server in a restaurant, a cashier in the supermarkets, the mail carrier always just have a few cheerful words for the I have a friend who is he walks into Walmart before the greeter could say anything to him, he says to the greeter. Welcome to Walmart, which usually causes a bit of initial confusion, since that's what the greater is meant to say. But it always gets a smile or a laugh as well. So get in the habit of speaking to people you never know who you're going to meet at when lesson project. Next time you go out shopping, make a point of speaking to the cashier onto the person next in line to you or the person sitting beside you on the bus to work Anyone you meet my chance. Just have a few friendly words for them coming up next. Number three. Use people's names. 4. #3 Use People's Names: number three use people's names. What other things Benny people have trouble with is remembering other people's names. And yet hearing ourselves be addressed by our names is very important to most of us. The first step to remembering people's names is to make a conscious decision to do so before you arrive anywhere you know we'll meet new people. Remind yourself of your commitment to remember names as you hear them. Listen carefully as you hear a name. If you're not sure you've heard it correctly repeated back to the person or ask them how it's spelt. If it's an unusual one, repeat the name to yourself. Comments on it. If appropriate, use it immediately and conversation back to the person and use it again. As you leave that person. Write it down immediately that you have a chance to keep a list of people you meet where you met, um, at a few characteristics to remind you if appropriate, you can use your phone's content lis toe. Add this person and also take their photo as most contact. APS allow you this. If you can associate the name with something in your mind, then do so. For example, James Brands might be memorized by similarity to James Bond. Or Sandy could be memorized by imagining her on the beach with Sands between her toes. But if all else fails, just admit you for gotten and ask their name again. It's not as good is remembering it. But it's better than going through an entire conversation, avoiding letting it show that you have no idea who this person is. I heard of one man who could never remember the names of his business associates. So what he was after business function with his wife, he would say to the other person, This is my wife, Stephanie. And then he would wait. Of course, the other person temp retired. The hand had introduced themselves by name to Stephanie and her husband. Also. Now I knew their name as well. Here's a lesson project with the next five people you meet. Employ one of the ideas from this lesson. Toe help you remember their name. Don't check if it's worked. Find the one that works best for you and use it all the time. Coming up next. Number four. Sure willing to help out 5. #4 Be Willing to Help Out: number four be willing to help out. We all need help sometimes. So be lady ready to lend a hand. You may or may not get the appreciation. It's too. But the chances are the person you helped appreciate since a great deal. More than you know. It also put you in a much better physician for when you need help. One good deed deserves. Another is a well known phrase, and usually when you've helped others, there will be help for you two. But even if there's no possibility off gassing ard eating, help in return still be willing to help. It's just what people who get along with people, too. What comes most in life is what we do for others without expectation, off reward or a return favor. Just help where help is needed. If someone shares a problem with you, even if you can't come up with any offer of assistance, immediately, take time to think about it. And if you do think of something later, you can always contact them again until the we've been thinking about it on offer your suggestions and even if you never come up with any idea off offering help the next time you see them inquire as to how it's going that if things were getting better, here's the lesson project. Look for opportunities to offer assistance, then give it with love and care. Expecting nothing in return. Coming up next. Number five. Don't criticize Dupree's. 6. #5 Don't Criticize, Do Praise: number five. Don't criticize. Do praise. No one likes to be criticized. It's not a pleasant experience to have someone tell you what you did wrong or what's wrong with you. Sometimes it's necessary. But even then there are ways to go about it that are less hurtful than others. If it all possible, use praise instead if something, if someone does something that's not appropriate but giving them a really genuine praise on things he did that were appropriate, they often get the message that the unmentioned things were not approved off. If you feel you must point out something that needs changing, try sandwiching it in between two positive things. So there's a sandwich part on the top, which is praised and positive. The middle of the sandwiches negative change needed on the bottom of the sandwiches, praise and positive by which I mean tell them something positive mentioned the negative, something that needs changed and finish with another positive or a repeat off the previous positive. That way, although they're still hearing your criticism there, also hearing your appreciation and more appreciation. Thank criticism, Sun says, by think, even alternative to the unwanted behaviour and presenting that as a suggestion, they will understand that you consider their behavior undesirable. I may go along with your suggests to change. However, if they ask if you're suggesting this because you didn't like what they did before, be ready for this. You can explain gently why the previous behavior wasn't a good fits. Our didn't work too well or whatever other gentle way you can think off to explain that. Yes, indeed, you didn't like the previous behavior without actually saying that Quite so baldly. Remember, it takes 10 compliments toe undo one insult. Even then, the insult is unlikely to be completely for gotten. For some big tactful comes easily. For others, it takes conscious thought. But either way is worth it. To quote Sir Winston Churchill Tak to see ability to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip. Be kind. Recognize that everyone, no matter how tough their me appear, has feelings and try to criticize in a way that will Seymour like gentle redirection. Here's a class project. I think your time when you were criticized by someone, a criticism that hurt. Now put yourself in the other person's shoes. The person who criticized you put yourself in their shoes. Meaning? Do you really think that something has to be said? How could you say what needs to be said in a gentle way that would not have hurt you? And then next time you feel you have to criticize someone, So I think, How could you do it in a gentle way? So it won't hurt. I keep thinking that way every time the occasion arises. Coming up next, number six, be friendly. 7. #6 Be Friendly: number six B frenzy. Do you talk to people you meet, or do you wait for them to make the first move? If both wait for the other to make the 1st 1st move, then nothing happens. So be the one to say hello first, then follow up with some comments that gets a conversation going. What would you like to have a friend do or say before you go on to the rest of this lesson policy video on Right down in the very best of worlds, What would you have a friend do be, say, glossy Tell Don. Great. Now here's what to do with the list whenever you meet someone you think you'd like to be friends with or people you already have met on like but don't know well, choose items from that list. You just vote and do the yes do for others what you wrote that you would like to have other sue for you. Why? Because as Ralph Waldo Emerson said, the only way to have a friend is to be one. And if your list describes what you would like to receive from a friend, then the chances are that the people you would like to be friend would have very similar lists, so just pick one item and go from there. You could always start any time if you find this person is not friend material or for any other reason, but start making friends by being one. Dont hang back on weight to befriended, even in the real world. Get out there and be the one doing the friending and remember that not all friends were created equal. So you'll find some you want to farm close bonds with and others. Although you enjoy them, you'll prefer to keep us more casual friends, and that's okay, too. Here's a lesson project. If you pause the video earlier on when it was suggested in the lesson, then you've already done the project for this lesson. If not, do it now. Write out a list of all the things you would like a friend to do in the process of becoming on, then being your friend. Then, as you find or already have found people you would like to be friend. Just go down your lists on do what seems the most appropriate item for the moment coming up next. Number seven. Be considerate off the feelings off. Others 8. #7 Be Considerate of Others Feelings: number seven be considered off. Other's feelings. If you find yourself with a difference of opinion from someone else, are even in conflict, realize that although you feel you're in the right, the other person is coming from a totally different perspective. We all filter our opinions on our entire lives through our past experiences on no one else . This past experiences are the same as yours, so no one will see things quite the way you do. That said. Of course, there are many cultural norms or ethical, truthful, values based opinions that we expect most people to hold. And if someone is crossing those lines, then perhaps it's time to do something about it. But most of the time, conflicts are just differences of opinion. So try and it's heart, even when you're upset or angry to understand that the other person has every right to feel the way they do. Justus, you have the right to feel the way you do try to understand where they're coming from, because if you could do that and talked them from that point of view, you have a much better chance of finding a solution that doesn't leave either of you feeling hurt or upset, and this doesn't just apply to conflicts in any relationship off any kind, emotions are involved, and how you feel may not be how the other person feels. So talk to them and find out how many feel and try to work around it so that neither they nor you end up hurting. This may involve a scary process of having to reveal how you feel, which sometimes it's fine to be doing, but at other times it can feel very risky. But justice, you don't know what other people are feeling. They don't know what you are feeling. You can t expect them to act with your feelings in mind if they don't know what your feelings are, so be considerate of others. Feelings be kind and help others be considered off your feelings by sharing enough about them to make that possible. There are, of course, times was someone will either deliberately hurt. You are not care that they're doing so. These are things you can't prevent and can only do what you can to protect yourself from and let go after they've happened. But this lesson is focusing on in it for Inter ting of feelings when neither you or the other person wants to cause upset. Here's a lesson project. Consider a time when you know or believe that you hurt someone's feelings. What could you have done differently? Based on Justin knowledge, you have the time. And if you can think off a time, someone hurt your feelings. Is there any way, in retrospect, that you could have helped that person understand what effect they were having on you and prevented that? Just give these points some thoughts on that. See less the project for this lesson coming up. Next. Number eight. Be pleasant on good natured. 9. #8 Be Pleasant and Good Natured: number eight. Be pleasant and good natured. Who would you rather talk to? Someone who is continually complaining, or someone who finds a positive and situations and comes across as happy and contented. The chances are you chose the person who finds the positive in situations and comes across is happy and contented Most people would. So if you want to get along with people, this is a good way to be. Being happy and positive doesn't mean pretending things are not as they really are. Bad things happen to everyone at some point, but positive people pick up and move on, always looking for the good. Looking for this sun behind the clouds, while dealing is necessary with the problems, and they subscribe to the thoughts in this quote from our for March and Walsh. When you look for the good in others, you discover the best in yourself and we're talking to other people. They're polite and considerate. They share other people's joy even when times are hard for them personally, the image, joy and positive energy which makes others love being around them, and they managed to be polite in the face of others. Witness to which is never an easy thing to do. Here's a lesson project. The challenge for this lesson is to practice being cordial, polite and joyful. No matter what is coming at you. Treat others with courtesy and let it show that you're enjoying life and when you're not, When things get tough for a while, keep quiet. Suppose it and try to participate in others. Joy with them coming up next. Number nine. Be genuinely interested in people. 10. #9 Be Genuinely Interested in People: number nine b chan. You only interested in people. There's a saying, If you want people to like you, all you have to do is listen to them that the best conversationalists. Actually, the people who listen the best people love to tell their story, especially to an interested audience. So ask questions, not probing nosey questions but questions that showed genuine interest in what the other person is saying. The minute you enter the conversation telling something about yourself, even if it's just to tell about a time when you experience the same thing, you're no longer listening. Of course, you don't just have to listen, never speak. But when someone is speaking, give them the floor and listen with interests and concentration, even if you find someone is not really a person you could ever be close to or really like, very much. Still, listen on, look for something interesting, something good in that person. Most people do have something good about them, and, of course, some have many, many good things about them. So look for the good. You can also, where this appropriate gapping conversation ask a question to which you're trying to find an answer then listen without criticizing to the answer. So you ask. You listen and you learn. Don't explain why the other person's idea won't work. Just thank them for the suggestion with real appreciation because, after all, they probably just done their best to help you. Whether or not you consider it a success, Here's the lesson project. For the next few days. Make a point of finding at least one good thing about each person you talk with. It could be something big. It could be something small. It doesn't matter. Either way. You're focusing on and looking for the good. Coming up next. Number 10 show a sense of humor. 11. #10 Show a Sense of Humor: number 10 show a sense of humor. A good sense of humor is one of the things that come most endear you to people we all love to laugh, and if this is your gift, then make the most of it. But making people laugh is not all a sense of humor does. You may have a great sense of humor and never crack a joke. Perhaps you're more into appreciating other's humor as showing that appreciation. A sense of humor can even be nothing to do with anything that is meant to be funny. Perhaps something undesirable happens, and you can laugh at it. Perhaps you lose it something, and you have the ability to laugh at yourself as you congratulate the winner. A sense of humor is a smudge about good humor as it is about things being funny. Humility is part of humor as it allows you to laugh at yourself on people love people who can laugh at themselves and not take either themselves or life too seriously. And here's a quote. When I'm sad, I just sing. And then I realized my voice is worse than my problems. So be patient with life, laugh at yourself once. No, while enjoy the humor off each situation where appropriate, and you will find life a whole lot more fun. And here's the lesson project. This last lesson project is just to laugh. Find the humor in situations of which you find yourself on. Have a good laugh here together, all in one lists are the top 10 tips off. How to get along with people Number one smile to speak to people. Three. Use people's names. Four. Be willing to help out. Five. Don't criticize Dupree's six. Be frenzy seven. Because Citrus of others eight. Be pleasant and good natured. Nine. Be genuinely interested in people, and 10 show a great sense of humor. The best of luck. Getting along with people even better.