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How To Overcome Your Public Speaking Fears

Lekan Ahmed, Speaker / Author / Coach

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13 Lessons (53m)
    • 1. Public Speaking Myth Course

      2:41
    • 2. Public Speaking Myth Course

      4:58
    • 3. Public Speaking Myth Course

      3:47
    • 4. Public Speaking Myth Course

      3:32
    • 5. New folder 3 psm

      4:45
    • 6. Public Speaking Myth 5 1 1

      5:33
    • 7. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 2 1

      4:34
    • 8. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 3 1

      4:29
    • 9. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 4 1

      4:21
    • 10. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 5 1

      3:37
    • 11. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 6 1

      4:19
    • 12. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 7 1

      3:41
    • 13. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 8 1

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About This Class

In this class, you will learn the skills that would help you to overcome public speaking myth that might be preventing you from developing your speaking abilities.

Transcripts

1. Public Speaking Myth Course: I know. I'm very excited again to be with you. I hope you have enjoyed the first calls. The public speaking mastery how to turn your shyness to board Nissim, present Berta how to be an effective speaker. And I hope that you've learned one or two things from that course. Now, in this course, we are going to talk about the myth of public speaking. What are those myths that prevented people from actually taken that step to improve their speaking quality? Because there are a lot of myths about public speaking. And I believe that is why when a sorbet was conducted among thousands of people on a simple question was act that What would they rather do between dying? Oh, speaking. What do you think? The ends It WAAS majority said they would rather die, then stand in front of a group of speak people and deliver a speech. Can you imagine that? I couldn't even comprehend when I heard that statistics You would rather die than to speak ? No, I would rather speak than to die. So that just shows you how difficulties for people to present for people to express this themselves, for people to be confident when it comes to public speaking ability. So my ingo in this cause is to share with you the myth off public speaking skills, the myth about how to effectively develop published speaking confidence. Now it's possible that some of this made something that you also have, which in 11 another have prevented you from taking that next step. Jukic common. A very, very powerful speaker. I hope that at the end of this course you would be able to speak without any meat in mind. 2. Public Speaking Myth Course: So let's get started. I have about 50 myths that we are going to address that we are going to talk about in the schools. The fresh myth that I believe have has prevented people from really taking that next step to develop their speaking ability is risk of rejection and embarass mate, risk of rejection and embarass mint. A lot of people think that public speaking is a way not to avoid being rejected. All is away toe be rejected either way. But the simple church of s public speaking has nothing to do with being rejected. I would repeat that public speaking has nothing to do with being rejected. It's a myth. Now let's forget about published weekend. Let me ask you, in your own personal life, how often do you get rejected? How often do you get rejected? How often do you feel and arrest? Now you don't get rejected all embarrassed because you presented an idea all because you spoke all because you provided representation? No, it just happened because being rejected its part off leaving regardless whether you speak or not being rejected is part of leaving, regardless of whether you speak or not. But unfortunate. Unfortunately, people are about past that to public speaking on it became a myth, then the probably speaking a rainer and as a result, prevented people from trying to improve their speaking excuse. Now, the next thing I want to talk about off the second myth is public. Speakers have natural abilities. Public speakers have natural abilities. That is a meat. Now I'm not sure if you're Red. The Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. Now he said something about your ability to improve your skills and the narrative walls that it takes 10,000 hours of deliberate practice in order to be an expert in a particular area. It takes about 10,000 hours off deliberate practice for you to master a particular area of expertise. What those that tells you that means it as not into do with your natural biology. Because think about this. If you have a natural ability, but you never practice, you never walk on improving that natural ability. What do you think would happen off course? You're gonna lose it off course, the natural ability will become ineffective. So you are burn. It'd to speak effectively has nothing to do with your natural ability If you practice well enough, your speaking skills will develop. So when you think about public speaking, forget the myth that you know it's natural. Oh, this speaker is a better speaker because he has or she has in that drivability. No, that's not true. He was a better speaker or she is a better speaker because they took the time to practice their craft. They spend hours understanding what it takes to be an effective speaker. So if you're thinking of being a better speaker, that is a kind of thinking you have to be obsessed with. It's never natural, but it of course, if you have a natural ability, it can support your practice. 3. Public Speaking Myth Course: but not the idea that just relying on your natural ability alone will help you to become a better speaker. That is a myth. Now, the nest myth that we're going to talk about is, if you are a good speaker, you shouldn't be nervous. Did you hear me? This this meat about that. If you are a good speaker, that you should not be nervous, That's not true. You know, I've been speaking for about nine years now. I started in this small town in Africa, and I would tell you that every single time I am on a platform, I still feel bumps. I still feel nervous in my body. I feel some bought of flies. So no matter how good you are, it has nothing to do with being nervous. You asked. You going to be Nevers? And guess what? Being Nevers is actually good for a speaker because it shows that your conscious of your message it shows that you're concerned off what you about to tell their audiences. It shows that you're worried that you have to make sure that your words I'm very, very susceptible to the audience. Because if you know, nervous that means you don't really care. So I was the speaker. Being nervous is good to become an embedded speaking. So that is another myth. I want you to always remember. So whenever you try to speak or present to other people and you feel that border fly don't worry. Is pat off being a bed? Just speak. Just go out there and just crush it. And you wouldn't You would notice something that if you had practice well enough, the nervousness would go away immediately. You begin to speak the knave isn is that your experience in would subside immediately. You open your mouth and you begin to speak. Now some of the things that you can do to reduce that nervousness is you can actually acts the audience. That question I called that leveraging on the audience energy. Now, for example, if you feel nervous and you felt that you cannot control it when you get on the platform inst instead of you going stretch your speech when I got to the audience that how many of you I think, how many of you believe? How many of you can share with me what you think when your accident audience. The question on the responded to your question. What that means You are creating a very natural conversation between yourself on the audience. On the more question you ask at the beginning of your speak immediately reduces the nervous is that you're experiencing very easy to overcome. So being a good speaker has nothing to do with being nervous. Whether you've been speaking for one day or you've been speaking for 10 years, you are going to Friel nervous. If you don't, then you are not a good speaker. 4. Public Speaking Myth Course: the fourth speaking myth that we're going to talk about aids. Introverts can't be a good speaker. Can you imagine that? This this made about introvert, that because you are an introvert, then you cannot become a better speaker. That is like that is not true. That is a me. Because if you believe that and you consider yourself an introvert, what happens? You will not develop your speaking our villages. So if you believe that an introvert, if you follow through with this made that an introvert cannot be a good speaker that you were never practice on improving your speaking. Our villages and a lot of people have felt have felt. And this trump because they considered themselves an introvert because introvert spend more time with themselves. And as a result, they fell into this trap and they never developed this weekend abilities. Now let me tell you a secret. I uninjured. I love to spend time with myself. However, I am a great speaker. You can see him speaking with your right now. I do this for leaving. I speak to groups. I speak to the different organizations. I help people become better through my speaking apologies So if this myth waas true, then I shouldn't be doing this. I shouldn't be speaking to you right now because I am an introvert. So being an introvert has nothing to do with developing your speaking our villages. It has nothing to do with that. So regardless of whether you are an injury but are not, you can become a better speaker. If you put in the work that practice, you can become a better speaker. The next myth is extroverts, maybe a good speaker, but talk out off point extra. Bert could be a better speaking but they talk out off point. That means they talk too much. Estrogen talk too much, you know, Now that is true. Extroverts can talk to my but that does not correlate to be in a better speaker on that. It has nothing to do with being a better speaker or not, for the fact that you talk too much has nothing to do with being a better speaker. If you talk to match, if you talk out off point, that means you lack the fundamentals, the principles of effective communication. It has nothing to do with being an instrument because even an introvert. Sometimes I found myself as an introvert. When I ain't the labour presentations, I found myself. When I'm too excited about what I'm delivering, I found myself that I speak out off the point. 5. New folder 3 psm: Hello. This is like an arm ed, your public speaking coach, some very excited that now we are going to go into the second lessons off the public speaking myth. We're going to share with your ideas that I believe are responsible for some individuals not pursuing that. Probably speaking. Go because you know, when you hear about me, when you hear about things that people have said that if you don't, then you cannot become a public speaking. My goal. It's up to these lessons. After the strains, you would believe more in yourself on begin to pursue your public speaking skills. Now I've always shared my story. How I started my own speaking career about a decade ago in a small town in Africa. I wasn't a good speaker. I was timid. I like courage. I was scared. You know, sometimes I have problem with my pronunciations. I have problem with words. I even have problem with verbal subject agreement. It will, up to this moment I studio, but I overcame all of those meat and I speak regardless. Even when I make mistake, I make fun of myself and keep going. So my hope is to inspire you to continue to pursue your speaking, go on, become a better communicator and become a better presenter and become a better public speaker. Now we should. Now let's continue from where we stop. In the last video, the last video, we stop out the idea that extroverts, maybe a good public speaker, but they talk out of point. Wow, that's not true, because evil, though extra birds talk a lot, they talk a lot, but for the fact that they talk a lot. There's not correlate to whether being a good speaker on that. If you talk a lot, these probability that you might over talk you mind over talk to extend that your audience might begin to wonder. When are you going to stop? But that has nothing to do with what are you a good speaker or not? What that means is, all you have to learn is effective communication technique when you know when to stop when you give your speech. So regardless, whether you are on a extrovert or introvert has nothing to do with being a better speak or not, the nest idea is a good speech. Is all the word a good speech is all the words. That's it means basic research. We have found out that when you delivery speech 93% off your delivery. I your body movements are your body language is are your body communicating to your audience how you use your voice inflection, how you use your eyes, how you use on gestures, how you move on the platform, how you use your whole body, how you use your emotion. All of these can be categorized as your body language on 7% are the words that you use, So let's put it in it. Let's put it in an example if you are delivering the speech now, everything that you're saying, the words the content are just 7%. But how you say those words, the exaggerations you used the body movements you used are what contribute to these 97% I mean 93% off what you delivered. So I don't want you to think about these idea that you have to be a master in content creation for you to have a good speaking ability. No, it doesn't matter. The goal is to continue to deliver speeches. The goal is to continue to speak whenever you can. And as you do this on a consistent basis, you were improved. Your speaking ability. 6. Public Speaking Myth 5 1 1: The nice idea is you have to memorize your speech. That's not true. Off course, you can decide to memorize you speak. You can decide enough to, but that has nothing to do with what are you a good speaker on that? Actually, memorizing your speech can sometimes affect your delivery. Because if you memorize this speech, you can be very cautious because you don't want to forget what you have memorized. I remembered back in college, I always memorized my exams. I memorized efforts, nations and I would wait onto the very last mean it to the exam beginning before I showed up. Because I don't want to talk to any of my friends, because if I do, um, I forget my definitions because all our dawn was to memorize all of those definitions I didn't really understand on the stewed what I read, I just memorized them. So sometimes, depending on what you're trying to accomplish as a speaker, you have different ways of delivering. You speak. You can either deliver your speech based on memorize speeches based on memorization. You can either deliver your speech using manner stripped deliverance style. That means your read your speech. You have type. Just reach out and you begin to read them to the audience. Or you can speak Esther Parini. Inslee, like my own style of speaking ability is to speak extemporaneously like now that is exactly what I'm doing. The only thing I have with me at the point that I am going to speak about just to guide me in my thinking process. So depending on what you want, you don't have to remember. I just speak for you to become a better speaker, whatever works for you. And the only way you will know what worked for you is when you begin to practice your speaking. The more you practice, the more you deliver your speech. You would realize your best style. The best idea is as periods speaker no longer gets nervous on stage experience. Speaker no longer gets nervous on stage. That's not true. No matter how many years you have been speaking, whether you've been speaking for two years for 10 years for 20 years off for a day, you will still be nervous no matter how long you've been speaking for me. I've been speaking for almost a decade now. I still get nervous every single time I step on state. Even before I started speaking with you now, I was a little nervous. But the good thing about that is when you're nervous, it shows that you you're very careful. It shows that you're concerned about your audience. Actually, it's a good thing when you're nervous about your speech. It's a good thing. It shows that you care about your audience. It shows that you want to make sure that you deliver your best. Now the problem is, you don't want to be so nervous that eat incapacitates you from not doing what you needed to do. Because when you never to match too much of never since is not good because you won't be able to speak. You won't be able to deliver your speech, while so one of the things I do to overcome my nervousness is sometimes I use what I called audience dialogue audience dollars. That means before I begin my speech, I asked the audience question, especially when I'm speaking to a small groups off people. I could set my speech by saying, How many of you believe that? And I make the statement I could say how many of you can share with me? What you think about that? I named the subject. So by doing that, I can leverage on the energy off the audience. Because once the audience began to speak, I'm more relaxed. All I'm doing is just listening. And the more conversational the speaking style is, the more relax I am because I'm not really delivering any speech. All I'm doing is listening to the audience. I'm accent question on the audience are giving me feedback, and when you do that with a fresh few minutes, maybe two minutes of your speech or five minutes before you begin your speed, you would notice that your nervousness disappeared and you would gain a lot of vitality. Energy and you like you go straight to your speech. So nervousness is good and flung girls, you're able to control it 7. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 2 1: the nest idea is you must be a serious when you give a speech. You must be serious when you give a speech. That is also me. Now you can be serious if you want to. You can be funny if you want to. Whatever is comfortable with you. That is what matters the most for me. I like to before me, but I don't faucet. If it doesn't come, I'm still gonna deliver my speech the best who I can. I don't force myself to be funny. I don't force myself to be serious. I just deliver based on how I feel based on how the audience are responding to my lines basement my speaking ability. So being serious has nothing to do with being a better speaker. The next idea is you have to be an excellent speaker before you can speak. Now that is also in me. You have to be an excellent speaking before you can speak. That is ironic. How do you become an excellent speaker? If you don't even try to speak? You have to try to speak first. Then you will become an excellent speaker, but not the other way around. Not the other way around not trying to be an excellent speaker. Then you begin to speak. Now you have to begin to speak on chill. You become an excellent speaker. The best idea is I am not a public speaker. I am not a public speaker. Now that is also inmate Everybody, Everybody read my lips. Everybody is a public speaker again. Read my leap. Everybody is a public speaker. Whether you speak with your cause in whether you speak with your parents, whether you speak with your friend, that is public speaking probably speaking our conversations that we have either with one person, either with groups off people either with large population it doesn't matter. Each time you open your mouth you are a public speaker. So the idea that you're not a probably speaker, it's not true. You are because if you keep that mind set, if you keep that idea in your mind you will develop your speaking abilities. You're ballin it'd in how you can speak while so that is me. You are a public speaker. The nest idea is stat with a joke. Start with a joke. Now a lot of professionals speaking. I believe that you should be funny. They believe that you should stop your speech with a joke. But that's not true. That is not true. You don't stop. They speak with a joke just for the sake of making your speech sound funny? Whatever joke you're trying to make must beer relevant to the speech. If the joke is not relevant to this speech, why should you start? They speak with a joke. He doesn't really imagine what matters most is to be yourself. If you think you have a joke that is relevant to the speeches that is relevant to the speaking, begin with the junk. If you think your job does not had any value to what you're trying to speak on, don't start with a joke. Whatever is comfortable with you. That is what you should do. You don't have to begin. You speak with a joke. I have never begin my speech with a joke. I have never done it off course you can begin. You speak with something funny. Maybe on your way to your speaking place. You saw something that was funny all Maybe at your speaking invent You saw something that was funny or you make fun of yourself. That is OK, but you don't have to start with a joke. 8. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 3 1: the nest idea is Look at the ends of your audience. Look at the ads off your audience. That's a me. Now you have speaking with you. Of course I'm not gonna keep looking at your ad. I'm going to look at your eyes. I want to make connection with your eyes. Now, if you're speaking to a life group of people, I'm not even looking at your head. I'm looking at your eyes. I'm looking at your high so you don't have to look at the ends off your audience. Rather, look at their eyes, look at the eye. So that's another meat. The nest idea is you must grab people's attention immediately. Use that speaking. You must grab people's attention immediately. You start speaking. That is also a meat. Now it's a fantastic thing to do. If you can grab the audience attention immediately, you begin your speech. But that does not make you a better speaker on that. That does no stop you from becoming a better speaker. Doesn't that does not stop him from learning how to become a better speaker? Actually, some of this least hear things that you can develop overtime as you speak Often you begin to master the skills because all of these meat can be taunt to skews that over time you would develop as you speak. More often, the ness me is. You must adapt to the learning style off your audience. You must adapt to the landing. Start off your audience that also in me now it's a good thing to adapt to the Lenny style of your audience. But if you don't know how to do that, that is fine. You don't stop yourself from speaking, but because you failed to lend the style off your audience, you don't stop yourself because you couldn't figure out the lending style of the audience. No speak the best way you can in overtime. You will lend all of these skills because, like I said, Major, which of this meat can be tone to skills, But for you to have those skills, you have to begin to speak. Now. You don't weight onto you, have them to speak. You have to begin to speak. And, as speak more awful, you develop into these skills. Another idea is fear of public speaking is bad feet off. What we speaking is bad. Just As we said when it comes to being nervous, fear, probably speaking, is actually good is not bad. Like I said, when you fear something, it shows that you're concerned about that thing. It shows that you're not trying to fail. It shows that you're being cost shoes. So fear of public speaking is not bad, is good. All you have to do is actually sell. How can I overcome this fear? What do I need to do? And you can do this by leveraging all the audience? Some of the exercises I do Before I begin this speeches, I talk to myself. I give myself pep talk. I visualize myself speaking, and I visualize myself speaking that the audience gave me a standing ovation. I do a visualize agent. I prepped myself. I talked to myself the lake, and you could do this or the best speaker that ever came to this universe. I talked to myself. Sometimes I jog. I jumped. I do things to release my emotional fear. So whether you feel probably speaking are not. That should not stop you from developing your skill. Actually feel probably speaking, that can help you to become a better speaker, 9. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 4 1: The next idea is every word in your speech as Taubate. Perfect. Every word in your speech has to be perfect. That's another myth. That's not true. If you look at most of my videos, I make mistakes. Whether it could be very been subject agreement mistakes, it could be word pronunciations. I make mistakes, but I don't really think I could have added those mistakes. But that Ismea am being better every day. I'm challenging myself, Toby. Vulnerable. I'm not stopping myself from speaking because I was supposed to say they. Then I said there, I'm not going to stop myself. It's okay to make mistakes. It's OK to pronounce the word wrong. It's okay. There's nothing wrong. It's better to before normal, because the more vulnerable you are, the bob better you will be. You will be comfortable with yourself, and the more you are vulnerable, the more better the more good the more raw you are. People will love you because you are more authentic as a speaker because that issue like me , that it's me. This is me speaking to you. This is raw. I make mistakes. Leave it like that. That's me. I'm not perfect English is my second language. Now. If I speak in my local language, I would never make mistake. But English is my second language. It doesn't matter. Even those who English is the oppressed language still make mistakes. So don't worry about that. All the words must not be perfect. It's OK if you butchered some words. It's fine. The nest me is I am not good enough as it public speaking. No one is good enough when you get in started for you to be good, you have to begin to speak. I remembered my breast speech. I sounded funny. I sounded like I didn't know what I was saying. But now I'm better. I'm better every day. I chided myself to be better, to speak more often to be better. So it's OK. You don't have to be good. Actually, most times you know, stacks being good, you start and develop into being good. That's how it goes. The less idea is no one will listen to you. That is just another mate. Now you're listening to me. I also have this meat. When I began my speaking career, I thought no one would ever listen to me. but that's not true. Actually, you would be surprised. People are willing to listen to you after they're willing to learn from you. They're willing to learn from your experiences. They're willing to lend. From what you know, even if you make mistakes, they're all here with it. People are willing to support you. What? You have to get yourself out. You have to speak more often. The next idea is you have a bad grammar. Yes, that's what I just said. Now I make mistakes, but that does not stop me. That did not stop me. You can see a change. I don't I'm not sure which one is right or wrong, but I'm primed with it. That's me. I learn every day. So this meat should not stop you. Whether your grandma is good, your grandma is good or bad. Just make sure you speak more often. And as you speak more often, you've become comfortable with yourself. That is the most important thing to becoming a great speaker. 10. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 5 1: the nest idea is, your accent is thick. Yes, my accent is thick. I remember when I give my fresh speech at a post Masters club. That's a speaking club. No one heard what I said. They couldn't understand my accent. My action was so thick. Then I just arrived in the United States. But I smoke regardless, and I thought maybe they would never listen to me again. But that's it wasn't true. They actually encouraged me to speak more often because the my speak the mall better. I sound so whether your accent is thick, all light, whatever it is that should not stop you from speaking. That should know stop you from speaking. The more you speak, the more better you will sound the next year. The next myth is women are not good speakers. That's not true. Option. A lot of grades speakers, women speakers, fantastic speakers, phenomenon speakers that are women. So if you're a woman, don't worry you. I good speaking you. I probably speaking so gender should not determine who is a public speaking or not, regardless of your gender, you are a speaker, the nest mate is People will laugh at me if I make mistake? Why speaking? It's OK. It's OK for people to laugh at you. I have a sane that if you're not ready to be laughed at, then you're not ready to be successful. If you're not ready, Toby laughed. Art, Then you're not ready to master your skill off course People will have that. You people laughed at me. They even bullet me. But that did not stop me from speaking from expressing myself. When I do it every day I challenge myself to speak. No one would stop me from sharing my gift, my ability to speak. And that is the kind of mentality You must have the kind of attitude that I'm not gonna let all of this myth People can come in with all the least they like. They can come in with all the least. It was a matter. Do what you want to speak. The more you speak, the more you become better. When people laugh at you laugh of them too. You can laugh at you If the last what? You laugh of them and you would see that the more you do that, the more you sometimes I deliberately make fun of myself. So before you laugh at me, I'm laughing at myself. Now, if you see me as a speaker, that makes fun of himself. What is? Because I'm already laughing, lapping up myself before you even started laughing at me. So become, too. But the whole point is. Be comfortable with yourself and speak more often, and as you do this, you will become comfortable with yourself. 11. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 6 1: now. The next idea is I have to give my audience tones of information to look credible. As a speaker, I have to give tons of information to my audience in order for me to look credible as a speaker. That is also meat. Whatever you know, it's OK. Whatever you know, it's OK. Like I said that public speaking, it's a skill. It's like a Joan and you don't get through the destination the day you started or you don't get to the destination that gave you. Don't get to the destination the day you start you, Johnny. It's a process. So whatever you know, it's fine. Yes, Sometimes I speak to my audience and I tell them, Well, you know, I'm not very good at this subject, but I would try as much as I can to provide it with what our land, that's it. So be incredible has nothing to do with the information you provide. Actually, sometimes when you provide more information, you look stupid. The goal is not to provide tons of information, like I said earlier, that your words are creep A 7% like in 3% how you deliver those content so It's not about providing tons of information because sometimes if you provide too much of information, the audience feel bored. The audience feel tired because you're bombarding them with information you're giving them too much information's and they become tired. They just want to leave. So it's OK if you don't have the information that you want to show with the ordinance, tell them that I am a new speaker. Oh, I have new in this job subject area. I am new in these subject area, but I'm gonna try as much as I can to provide it with a base that I have learned. That's it. So it doesn't matter whether the information is a lot or is small. Just give them the best that you have. Of course, these doesn't mean that you don't have to study. Of course, you After study, you have to find out what you need to help you audience out. But whatever you have, it's OK. And the more you do it, the more you become better. That is the most important aspect. Another myth is probably. Speakers are very educated and well read. Probably. Speakers are better educated and well read. That is in me. I've seen a lot of speakers that only had few education absent a lot of speakers that only have a few education because, remember, education is related. What you define as education. My, but different. So what others define as education. Your own education might be that you went to university. You have a M D or Ph. D. Some other people's education might be their live experiences, so you are educated. The only different is we are educated differently. The where we get our educations are different. It could be from your own life experiences. It could be from what you've seen in your own life. It could be from your own failures. It could be from your interview with others. It could be from your conversations with others and for all the people he might be just They went to school or the alive. It doesn't matter. You are educated, every single one is educated, so I don't want you to stop. I don't want that to stop him from practice in your speech. I don't want you that to stop it from speaking more often 12. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 7 1: another. Meat is I have toe please everyone in the audience that it's funny. You cannot please everyone in the audience. If you're trying to please everyone in the audience, then you're bound to fail. You cannot please everyone in the audience. If that's what you're trying to do, you are bound to fill. This lock is just like when you look at your own life. If you are the time that always concerned about pleasing other people, you are not going to be successful. If you are the time that always think about pleasing all the people, then you're not gonna be successful. You have to place yourself off course with the intention of recognizing the contributions of others. But you must place yourself so as a speaker. Your job is not to please everyone in the audience. Your job is to deliver the best that you have. Because no matter what, you deliver us to have some people in the audience there won't like you no matter what you say. You will still have some ages in the audience, so the goal is to focus on people that are responding positively to you. Just give your best not to try to please everyone. The less idea which another meat is, everyone must like you. Like I said, that's not true. You cannot. You cannot have that. Everyone can know like you, no matter how brilliant you have, no matter how handsome. Yura, no matter whether you're tall, you're shot. Whether you speak Queen's English, whether you have the best speaker than ever came to this universe. No matter all of those qualities, everyone, we're not like you. Someone like you, someone dislike you that is irrelevant. Just do your best and give your best. Another myth is there are certain rules and guide lines I have to follow. When speaking. There's certain rules and guidelines I have to follow when speaking. Now that's also a made off course, their techniques that you can learn over time, maybe out to use your body out to your voice inflection. How to connect with which I I out. You are communicate better, how to walk on the platform, how to pause all of this or techniques. But you don't se because you don't know how to use these techniques, then you're not going to speak. That's in me. Don't do that actually do the opposite. Whether you know how to use this techniques or not, whether you know the rules or not, whether you know the guidelines or not speak, the more you speak, the morning developed into all of the skills you will discover many skills yourself. I discovered many skills myself, like presently now write in the book called Probably Speaking in Action, where I shared my own experience on the ideas and a thought about probably speaking. So the goal is to continue to speak, and over time you will develop your own skills, guidelines, rules, so don't get cut up off that. 13. Public Speaking Myth Course 5 8 1: the nest idea which another meat is I have to address. Well, I have to really dress well off course it Z that that's a meat. It's a normal thing to dress. Well, it's a normal thing to dress. Well, now, if you don't have, it's flying. You don't break the bank because you're trying to dress really well. Just wear your best clothes, whatever you have. Where the best look neat, but the best you can. I'm sure you've seen Steve Jobs. He only had sweating Gene Mac, Zika Buck of Facebook. Big dress, casual. So whatever is comfortable with you if you think you just have to put on a shed and Jane, that's why you think you have to put on suit. That's fine, whatever is comfortable with you. Like I said, as you speak, you would develop your own star. You would develop your own clothes and lines you would develop what get you comfortable? What brings out the best in you? That is the most important aspect. Just speak and develop into all of those criterias. Now the last off the meat is I have to assume that people wouldn't listen to me, and I'm not going to get involved because they don't. For everyone else, I don't even understand. Let me read that again after assume that people would not listen to me because people are not going to get involved because they don't get involved with everyone. I don't know what that means about the idea based on that statement east that you afterwards zoom that your audience would not listen to you. That's also a meat. I don't know what came up with that, but that's a minute off course. You have to assume that your audience will listen to you. You have to go there with a mindset that you will give your best and your audience will listen to you. You have the positive. You don't go there with negative mentality that my audience are not gonna listen to me. No, rather go there with the positive mentality that I'm going to give it my best and my audience will listen to me. So I hope all of this me would help you do release that energy that you might have buried that's que that you might have buried that interest, that you might have bared that talent that you might have buried RL, is it and begin to work on Improving you're speaking on my go is to help you to achieve that goal. My goal is to walk with you to provide you with all that I have earned for the past decade to help you to become a better speaking.