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How To Do a Life Reset and Set Goals for 2021

Sarah, Certified Yoga Teacher & Makeup Artist

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8 Lessons (29m) View My Notes
    • 1. Introduction to the course

      1:05
    • 2. 2020 Reflection

      5:25
    • 3. Self Reflection

      4:53
    • 4. Ideal Life Reflection

      4:13
    • 5. Wheel Of Life Exercise

      2:26
    • 6. Start, Stop and Continue Exercise

      2:40
    • 7. 2021 Goal Setting

      3:37
    • 8. Tips and Final Thoughts

      4:58

About This Class

Happy new year! As the new year has arrived, I thought I would create this class to help you reflect on the past year, reflect on yourself and set new goals for 2021. 2020 was not an easy year, and I hope that your 2021 will be much better! 

Get a few sheets of paper, a pencil or pen, and start jotting down your thoughts and ideas! You can also download the PDF attached in the resources and fill in your answers there. I've compiled my own Chart Your Journey Workbook (which I sell on Etsy) into a PDF version for you and you can download it for free!

This class covers: 

  • 2020 reflection
  • Self reflection 
  • Ideal life/day reflection 
  • Wheel of Life exercise
  • Start, Stop and Continue exercise 
  • 2021 goal setting 
  • Tips for taking action and achieving your goals 

I apologise in advance for the video quality; I'm not sure what went wrong this time and will strive to improve for my newer classes. I wish you all the best for the new year! Take care! 

Transcripts

1. Introduction to the course: Hi everybody. Welcome to today's class. So in today's class we are going to be reflecting on the year 2020 and thinking about, you know, what we would like to achieve in 2021. Now in this course, feel free to grab a few sheets of paper and pencil or pen, so that you can jog your ideas down, jot your reflections down as well as your goals. And it will help you kind of, you know, form a little journey of what you would like to achieve makes yet. So it's kinda like, you know, building up kind of like a rough idea of where you want to be in the new year. And especially after the really challenging year that we've had in 2020, right? So I think that we all face challenges, we all adapt it in various ways. But it was also a great way for us to kind of take a step back and just reflect on our lives, the things that we've taken granted for, as well as, you know, the things that we should really be more appreciative of. So in this class, that's what we're going to be reflecting on as well as kind of, you know, breaking our lives down into different categories and we're going to set goals for each of them so that we know exactly what to work on in 2021. So thank you so much for joining me and let's begin the class. 2. 2020 Reflection: So we're going to begin with our 20-20 reflection. Now we do have quite a bit of reflection to do. I think after the year that we've just had. So let's take a look. The very first question that I want to ask you is, what went well in 2020? So it can be things like appreciating the people in your life. It can be anything small, basically, like being able to get up and just go day despite all the different challenges that we all face. So take some time right now I just think, What are your wins in 2020? It can be really baked things. Maybe you pushed yourself out of your comfort zone to try something new. Or maybe you know, you overcome certain challenges that you're really proud of. Or it can be anything small that you know, you picked up a new habit. You found a really good book that you enjoy. Or maybe you just managed to overcome a personal boundary when you decided to speak up for yourself or to give yourself a little bit more time to take care of yourself, have self-care. So it can be anything there's no right or wrong. So think about that and we're going to move on to the next question. The next question I would like to ask you would be, what steps did you take towards your ideal goals or your ideal life? So many times I feel that we always kinda look at the macro perspective and we rarely have a look at the micro. But we always tend to always kind of like ignore all the little steps that we take in everyday life. So for example, if your goal is to be healthy, maybe just making a small change, such as swapping soda water for clean water, for example, is definitely a step towards your ideal lifestyle. What I want you to think about is it can be anything small, but recognizing yourself all the many steps that you take is very crucial because it helps you to keep going. So no matter how small the steps are, you asked to taking the step towards your ideal goal. And that's something you should celebrate and just be proud of yourself for. So I want you to think, you know, what is your ideal state? What are the goals that you set in 2020, if you had any, and you know, what steps did you take towards those particular goals? So take some time to think about that. Now, that thing that I would like you to think about would be a memorable day or memorial event. So it can be anything. The year has 365 days and, you know, despite the lockdown and all their social distancing and all the mask wearing, there probably would be a wonderful memory of yours. And I want you to think about, take some time to think about all the good times you've had and this yet. And choose one very memorable day of very memorable event and write it down so you can relieve it all over again, right? How you feel maybe came when US five senses describe how you, what you saw, what you hear, you know, and things like that, and just brings you joy. And it also helps you and all the many things that make that day or that event extremely memorable. So take some time to write that down. Moving on to the next question. The next question would be, what challenges did I faced this year and how did I actually overcome them? Now, we definitely faced a lot of challenges this year. Challenges that were a little bit different compared to the years before. So I want you to think in terms of your personal capabilities of actually overcoming them. How did you overcome those challenges? What did you do? What did you learn about yourself from all the steps that you've taken to overcome them. So I'm pretty sure all of us face numerous challenges, things like working from home that locked down just social distancing and general and things like that. So think about what you did to overcome these issues. And I want you to also think about, you know, what did you learn from your process of overcoming them? What do you learn about yourself? Maybe learning about problem-solving skills that you've had, or maybe you learned more about your resilience, your character, and things like that. So think about that and jot it down and then we'll move on to the next question. The last question I would like to ask you for the reflection of 20-20 is, what is one thing you are proud of? Now? This can be anything. Again, it's a very personal question, but I want you to just really think about, you know, what's one thing that you're proud of your, you're proud of yourself for achieving off were doing in 2020. It can be as simple as I got up every single day and did what I had to do despite the world entering a pandemic and every, almost every country entered lockdown and things like that. Getting out from bit is consonant. Pretty amazing already. So again, there's no right or wrong. There's no big or small kind of scale to it. I just want you to think about, you know, what's one thing you really proud of this? Yeah, write it down, congratulate yourself, you know, and just give yourself a pat on the back. I feel like sometimes we can be a little bit too hard on ourselves and, you know, we always overlook whatever we do because we feel that we're never good enough open are doing enough. But sometimes just taking a step back and thinking about, hey, you know, I actually did that and I'm quite proud of myself for doing that. It kind of gives us a little bit more of a motivation, I suppose, and to give us the credit that we actually did something. So think about that for a little bit, write your ideas down and we're going to move on to the next section of the class. 3. Self Reflection: So before we actually start to set goals, so 2021 and reset to o, Yeah, I think it's very important for us to actually do a reflection of ourselves. Now, after the year that we've been sure, I'm pretty sure we all evolved. I mean, we evolve every single day, but especially after 2020, I think we probably discovered while things about ourselves and we should definitely jot them down and see how we can actually incorporate that into our daily lives. So the very first question I would like to actually ask you would be what your values. Now values can be anything along the lines of, you know, it can be things like honesty, perseverance, security, comfort, social interaction may be, it can also be things like freedom, friendship, relationships. So the list goes on. So I want you to think about what are your top three values, especially after 2020 where Colbert basically put everything into perspective, right? So what are your top three values? Because when you set your goals, you probably want to make sure your goals are aligned with your values. So for example, one of the values of mine would actually be freedom. I belly of freedom quite a bit. And I guess one component of freedom would probably be financial freedom to ensure that, you know, I'm not working all the time just so that I can earn a paycheck to support my life. That is one big key for me and I what I definitely would like to set goals next year for me to ensure that, you know, I'll earn enough passive income, for example, to ensure that our b, I'll get closer to financial freedom as the year goes by. Alright, so take some time to write down your values and we're going to move on to the second question. The second question I would like to ask you now would be what are some of your passions now? Especially with the lockdown and, you know, just all the free time we've had, you know, just being stuck at home because we are not allowed to go anywhere during 2020, maybe you discovered some newfound passions of us. So when I was stuck in lockdown, I actually started baking. And I started baking a lot, to be honest. And I actually realized that baking brought me a lot of joy and I really enjoyed it. And now it has become one of the, one of my passions. And I definitely plan to incorporate more baking mix you're in 2021. So take some time now, think about your passions. It can be from 20-20 you discovered it, or it can be from long time ago since you were young, but just jot them down because you always want to make sure that you're always incorporating a little bit of fun and you know some time for yourself to deal with your passions in everyday life. So take some time to do that now and then we'll move on to question number three. Question number three would be, what are some of your strings? Now this is a very interview like question where the interview goes, you know, what are his strengths and weaknesses? But here I really want you to think about, you know, what did you discover about yourself, especially after the challenges we faced in the past? Yeah. Maybe you've found some unknown strength that you've never realized you've had that this yet it definitely brought up, brought it out, right? Maybe your adaptability, maybe your initiative, your creativity in dealing with all the various problems, dealing with the space constraints and locked down and things like that. So take a little bit of time to reflect on your strengths because you can also think about how you can use your strengths to help you achieve your goals and the next year. So take some time to do that. Now, before we move on to the last question, the last question would be, what are some of your fears? Now? I think with Kobe and putting a lives into perspective, it makes you actually really think about the fears that you've had and whether they are actually real and others substantiate it. Many of our fears, our limiting beliefs basically hold us back in life. Maybe we're afraid to step out of our comfort zone sometimes. And you know, we kind of short sell ourselves, right, because we don't get to do it. But I think after the year of 2020 where death and you know, ill, like sickness was all around, I guess it's sometimes can make you think, hey, my fields really real, the substantiate it. Do they really affect my life? Like if I were to speak in front of a 100 people and I did Bentley and they laughed at me. Does that is that going to affect me as badly as I thought it would. So I thought that, you know, thinking about this would be really important after 2020 because I feel that the idea of the pandemic where people are dying, the governments, we're dealing with a virus, you know, and things like that. It really does help us kind of reflect on our fears. And maybe you're gonna realize that most of your fears not as fearful as they should be and we shouldn't let it let them hold his back anymore. So take some time to reflect on your gears and we're going to move onto the next section of class. 4. Ideal Life Reflection: So the next section of today's class we'll be talking about your ideal life. Now I think many of us, we kind of always set goals fall selves, but we don't really have like a final destination that we would like to arrive at. If you understand what I mean, it's like for example, if I set a goal to let say, earn a set amount of money in a particular year or ten years or whatever. That is, a very kind of short-term goal because then I can't really plan, you know what I actually want to do. I've earned all that money if that makes sense. So sometimes I feel like goals when we set goals is a paving the road, but we don't really know where we want that wrote To go to exactly. But when you think of an ideal life, it's like a projection into the future, maybe 101520 years time. It kind of gives you a destination like a direction of where you want to pave your road to it. And I think that it's very helpful when it comes to setting goals. So take a bit of time now and I want you to write down what would your ideal life be like if it's easier for you? I would also like you to write down what would your ideal day be like? So what would you do when you wake up in the morning all the way to before you go to bed, right? So think about that. What would you enjoy doing? What would you incorporate more of? Imagine you had all the time in the world, what would you do? One question that I stumbled upon while reading a book, I just can't remember which book. The book basically asked something along the lines of, if you had a $100 million in the bank, what would you do? Now? This is a good example of kind of taking a step back and thinking about, you know, hey, I didn't actually have to work for many, if all the actions that I'm doing right now is to earn money, I actually didn't have to do that. What would I actually do with my time? So that gave me a really good perspective to think about because, you know, I do spend quite a bit of time at work, right? And, you know, a lot of other times I'm thinking about my investments and things like that. But if I had a $100 million in the bank, I'm set for life, right? What would I do with my time? So that's also a good question for you to reflect on. So take a bit of time to reflect on those questions. They fell coming back. Now that you've planned out your ideal Dana, ideal life, I want you now to think about, you know, current, basing it on your current lifestyle. What do you want to incorporate more of in your day? So for example, if your ideal day involved a lot of self-care time, maybe you gave yourself a time in the morning to read, to exercise, to take a walk, you know, what? Can you do more off in your current daily lifestyle to incorporate more of that, right? So think about what you can add in, where you can add it in. Think about planning your time to ensure that your current daily lifestyle incorporate things that you like and you enjoy. That takes some time to do that. Now, the last thing we're gonna talk about in this section would be a vision board. Now, many people have, you know, many people do support the idea of a vision board. Many people don't. Now, in my personal opinion, I do think that when you see images supporting your goal, it's a very kind and friendly reminded of the destination that you would like to go to it. Now, some people do believe that when you see the images, it kind of helps to bring in the idea of the law of attraction where whatever you see you'll be able to manifest in your reality. Now whether you believe in law traction on, on, I still do thing of vision board is extremely useful in kind of giving you, you know, like the, the overall vibe, the overall feeling, and the goals that you would like to set for the future. So I'm just going to show you an example of mine. Now. This is an example of my vision board that I think I did in 2018 and things that you can kind of see. I just took some magazine clippings, pasted it on board here. Things I just kinda want to feel what I wanted my life to be like. And, you know, whenever I walk past it, it's a good reminder of what I would like in my life. So that's what I hope you would try and do it. You can either do it on paper like I did it, or you can definitely do it digitally way. You can take images of Google Pinterest and put it on your lock screen is screensaver or your home screen off your laptop or your computer or your laptop or your phones. So take some time to do that now and then we're gonna move on to the next section. 5. Wheel Of Life Exercise : So the next exercise we are going to be doing is the Wheel of Life. Now this has been inspired by Tony Robbins. So if you Google the wheel of life, you're going to see various examples on the Internet and there'll be various, uh, wheels with different categories. So for today's class, we're going to focus only on six categories. And a six categories are health, personal growth, fun, and recreation than we have money, Korea, and then relationships. So these are the six categories we're going to focus on today. Now, when you do the Wheel of Life, you're basically going to draw so-called if you don't have any templates with you and you're going to break it up into six parts. Each part will be one aspect, and you're gonna read each aspect from one to ten. Now when you actually read all of them, you can kind of see in your wheel, right? So it's like a visual representation of how much time or how much effort you're actually spending in each aspect of your life and which one you feel you need to work on. So this is a really great way for you to kind of analyze the different aspects of life and help you get a better idea of your kinda like your quality of life. So while you're doing the wheel of lime, I would also like to ask you certain questions to help you feel reflection. So the very first one is, how important is this aspect to me? How would I rate my quality of life and this aspect? Am I happy with the amount of time I'm spending on this aspect of in my life. How do I feel when I think about this aspect? So when we neglect a particular thing in our lives, sometimes we feel dread. Maybe we feel guilt when we think about it. So how you feel about that aspect could also be assigned a, whether you're spending too much time on too little time on something. And my too busy to focus on this aspect, spending too much time on this aspect and neglecting the others. And lastly, should I put in more effort into this aspect in case I want you to think about all those questions that I just mentioned as you analyze each aspect of the six of them, if you want to add more, feel free to do so. Ok, and as you do it, take a look at your wheel and kind of see which aspects you know, you're doing really well in give yourself a pat on the back and which aspects I'm doing not so well in. And hopefully you're going to dedicate more time to dealing with those in 2021. So take a bit of time now to do your wheel of life, and we're gonna move on to the next section. 6. Start, Stop and Continue Exercise: The next exercise we're going to be doing is to start, stop and continue. Now, I believe this is inspired by Michelle be on YouTube where we basically look at our habits and we've got to decide which habits we would like to start, which habits we would like to stop, and which habits we would like to continue in the new year. Now, it's always, again, easier for us to break our habits into the different categories that we've done into wheel of life. So that way it's a little bit more systematic and easier for us to kind of pinpoint which habits we would like to work on. So take a bit of time now and think about the habits that you've done. You have currently, for each of these categories to six categories of the Wheel of Life. You know, you need to think about, you know, which habits you're really, you feel that will benefit you, which habits you feel are not benefiting you. And think about which habits you would want to start the need in the new year than you is always a fresh site. It somehow gives us quite a bit of motivation to start new things. So think about what are new habits that you like to incorporate in your daily routine. Now, habits are something that will compound. Whether it's going to give you a positive effect. On negative effect, it will compound. So I remember reading Daron hotkeys to compound effect and he actually talked about, you know, like compound interests, whether you like it or not. The habits that you do every single day will basically give you a benefit or a horrible disadvantage depending on what habits you're actually doing. Because your habits basically make up your routines and your routines make up your day and hour days basically make up ala, giving you an example, if let say I decide that I'm going to eat a mini chocolate Mars boring because I loved Mars bars. I'm going to, if I eat a mini chocolate MP has every day, maybe in my personal opinion on that, I oh, it's so small, it's not gonna do anything maybe. Right. But if I do it every single day, it's going to add up. The calories will add up. And the next thing I know, I probably put on a few more pounds than I would like to. Right. I mean, that's just one example. Another example can be if I woke up every single day, maybe just 15 minutes earlier, just 15 minutes. But if you think about it, 15 minutes for one every day, for one whole week, that's 15 times seven. That's how much more minutes you already got in your life, right? So every many habit that we have will compound to, you know, whether to give us a positive effect on negative effect. So I want you now to think about what are some habits that you really feel you should continue doing? What habits you should really stop doing, and what habits you want to start in the new year. Take some time to do that now before we move on to the next section. 7. 2021 Goal Setting : Now that you know the different habits that you would like to start stub and continue. We're now going to set actual goes to 2021. Now again, it's always wiser in my opinion to set goals for different categories of the Wheel of lines. So there'll be six different categories that we're gonna be setting goals for. So that way, I feel that when we set our goals, we have a more overall, kind of like overall impact on our lives versus a particular aspect that we just keep working on and neglecting the others. So when you come to set goals, the acronym that I really like is smart. So I think you've probably heard of smart goals before, but I do think they are very useful when it comes to, you know, setting goals and helping us achieve them. So what exactly are smart goals? Now, first of all, need to make sure that your goals are specific, meaning that you know exactly what you need to achieve. So for example, don't see things like my goal is to lose weight. For example, be specific, how many pounds or how many kilograms Do you plan to lose? Okay, so that's an example. And then M stands for measurable. So how do you know that you've actually achieved your goal? So keeping to the example of weight-loss, maybe you can say that it's measurable because maybe by the end of the year when I step on the weighing scale, I'm going to be deducted Adele wheat. So that's up to you again, but make sure it's measurable. So you need to know that you've actually achieved it. A sense for achievable, Are you able to achieve at thinking about, you know, your personal situation and your personal capabilities, do you think you can achieve it? So make sure you know that it ties into R. R stands for realistic so as to goal realistic for you to achieve. Now sometimes I guess we set really, really big goes. We overestimate how much we can actually do in one year. And when we actually do not reach the goal, we do feel a little bit like defeated and we lose. Kinda like a motivation. So I want you to thank, you know, is the goal that you setting realistic for yourself based on your current personal situation. And T stands for timeline. You need to have a timeline for your goal. So be it the end of 2021, It can also be the end of February, it can be the end of June. So you must set a timeline for yourself so that you know that you have this amount of time to work on this particular goal. Because if you don't have a timeline, we always tend to procrastinate it, just kind of how human beings work. We basically fill up the amount of time we have with the work. So if we have one arrow, we will do it in an hour. If we have a year, we will do it in a year. So think about, you know, what timeline you need for that particular goal. And maybe don't set too many goals. I know sometimes the New Year makes us very, very enthusiastic and we sent my 20 goals all at once. But it can be very overwhelming sometimes when you think about all the things that you want to achieve. So maybe this is my personal recommendation, but feel free to alter it whichever way you prefer. Maybe to goals per each category would be pretty good. So that gives you a total of about 12 goals for 2021. Maybe you can work on one goal per month. It's something that you can think about. Yeah, but definitely try not to overload yourself with too many goals because it can cause you to be overwhelmed and can cause you to lose motivation really fast if you feel that you know, what's the point of doing it when there's so many things to do in the first place. So take a bit of time now maybe Sat two goals per each aspect of the Wheel of Life and make sure you try to set it in a smart way, meaning specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and have a timeline. So take some time to do that now. 8. Tips and Final Thoughts: In this class so far, we have done a reflection of 20-20. We have done a reflection of ourselves, right? We looked at our passions of IAS, our values, our strengths. We also talked about ideal day, oh, ideal life. And hopefully some of you have your vision board already. And then we're gonna, we also moved onto the Wheel of Life exercise where we looked at the six different aspects of our lives and we kind of, you know, rated it so we know which aspects we need to work on and wish aspects were thriving in. And then we talked about the stats stuff and continue exercise where we looked at our habits to kind of see, you know, which ones we would like to start Nicosia stop next year and continue next year. And we also set smart goals. So now I'm just going to share views, three tips that I pass me, belt that what, it worked really well for me and I hope they will work well for u2. So the very first tip that I have is actually the 5 second role by Mel Robbins. Now this is a whole book. You can definitely borrow it from the library of a, you know, pick a book up. Where she basically talked about how we can actually kind of like the feet out procrastination and inertia to actually get things done by counting backwards 54321 and we go. So when you actually do that, you're kind of not allowing your brain to think of excuses to give you time to think about, you know, why you shouldn't be doing it in the first place. The moment you count backwards, the moment he hit one, you need to take. So that's how the rule works. And in her book, she actually talks about how she used it or how she formulated the rule when she actually wanted to get out of bed. And I personally felt that it really, really helped. In her book, she mentioned that Imagine you were like a rocket about to launch off. So think of 54321, go. And when she did it in a mornings, the moment she said Go and her head, she got out of bed and that helped her do something that she couldn't do from many, many days, which is basically to bring herself out of bed because her life wasn't going so well in that period of time. This rule personally, I felt helped me quite a bit because ultimately for us to get to our goals, we need to take action. And I know sometimes we procrastinate quite a bit, especially if the actions are either difficult or challenging or they push us a little bit out of our comfort zone. But when I used to roll, I just push myself to kind of do it regardless of whether I wanted to do it or not. And he really helped me kind of move towards my goals a lot faster. And kind of, you know, just gives me less time to give myself excuses on why I shouldn't do it in the first place. So try to roll and I hope that works out for you. Now the second tip I have for you is to habit trek. So when you actually track your habits, First of all, you can actually see, you know, whether you're doing it or not, instead of relying on memory. And the other thing is, is to build momentum. So that was this. I can't remember who actually came up with this, but it's basically the chain theory where imagine if you have a calendar in front of you. And every time you do your habit, you're going to put a cross on the day itself and STDs go by. And as you do your habits, you're going to form a long chain of process. Does that make sense? So that would result in quite a strong momentum to keep you going because you don't want to break the chain. And also it kinda gives you that push. You know, you'd be like, oh yes, I have another cross. So that's the idea of habit tracking to give you the momentum you need to keep your habits going for you. So that's the second tip that I have is tip that I found on YouTube by Matt de valid. I think that's how I pronounce his name. I'm not sure, but what he actually talked about was to today roles. So simply is you shouldn't let today's you shouldn't break a habit for more than two days. That's all it is. So for example, if I do if let say my habit is to work out and I worked on a Monday, but I didn't manage to on Tuesday. I just need to keep to ensure that I actually start working out on Wednesday again. So I don't have more than two days where I break the habit. The reason is the moment you keep, you wait too long, it can be really difficult for you to start again. I know from personal experience tells me that once you actually the wheels stop turning, it gets very difficult for us to actually get into motion and momentum one more time. So today role is quite useful when you think about okay, life happen sometimes and we can't get our habits done today, but it's okay. I will do it tomorrow as long as there's no Today's consecutively where I missed a habit. So I hope these tree tips will help you. And you know, I hope this class has been useful for you. The questions that I asked, the reflection that you've done. And I really hope that you have a wonderful 2021 ahead of you and that you'll be more wonderful and less challenging than this one. So have been union guys. Thank you so much for joining me in this class. Take care.