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Heal Your Life from Childhood Abuse and Trauma

Jason Lee

Heal Your Life from Childhood Abuse and Trauma

Jason Lee

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5 Lessons (11m)
    • 1. Heal Your Life

      1:29
    • 2. Introduction

      2:35
    • 3. Let's Begin the Healing Process

      0:50
    • 4. What are Fear and Shame?

      4:26
    • 5. Moving Forward

      2:03
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According to the World Health Organization, 1 in 4 adults worldwide were physically abused as children. In the US alone, around 6 million kids are abused annually which results in a report of child abuse every 10 seconds.

Whether physical, sexual, emotional or verbal, the experiences have long term effects that we painfully go through as adults. It is often times the root source of many of our daily struggles and can affect us unknowingly in how we conduct ourselves in our relationships, with our family members, people at work and with friends. We often feel ashamed to talk about our past, but until we do so in a healthy manner, our struggles will continue throughout our lifetime and likely get passed on for generations.

Childhood abuse can have lifelong effects such as: Depression, Anger, Anxiety, Fear, Low self-esteem and Loneliness.

Many people who experienced abuse as children, are unaware of the impact it can have on us as adults.

This introductory workshop will provide you with:

  • Validation of your personal experiences with abuse.

  • Tools you can use to begin to undo the effects.

  • Insight to your current behaviors and how you can change them.

  • In-depth lectures on how the abuse affected your belief system.

Why take this workshop?

  • It's short! Your time is valuable and I want to make sure you get all the basic information needed to get you started in your healing journey.

  • My workshop is designed for anyone who wants to learn more about childhood abuse and the effects. My approach is by teaching through everyday lived experiences that you can relate to.

  • Taking the first step in acknowledging your past can be painful. I designed this workshop with a casual yet gentle approach to make sure you can hear the messages without feeling discomfort.

Anyone who has experienced abuse as a child deserves to be heard. Your experiences are real and you're not alone. Millions of adults (including myself) can relate with their own personal experiences. I understand how difficult it can be to address the past, and I also believe you deserve to unload the weight of your experiences so you can lead a more enriched life.

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Jason Lee

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Hello, I'm Jason.

I'm an Author, Speaker, Mental Health Hacker, Blogger and Instructor.

But most of all, I'm an advocate in mental health from Vancouver, BC, Canada. My goal is simple: I want to help improve everyone's quality of life by promoting mental wellness into their daily lives. I've worked with mental health organizations across the country, promoting awareness, reducing stigma and educating my audience through engaging discussions and meaningful conversations.

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Through lived experiences of childhood abuse, trauma and a family history of depression and schizophrenia, I struggled with managing my own personal well-being and mental health. After doing a ton of personal development work with  some exceptional counselors, along with my u... See full profile

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1. Heal Your Life: According to the World Health Organization, one in four adults worldwide were physically abused as Children in the US alone, around six million kids are abused annually, which results in a report of child abuse every 10 seconds. Whether physical, sexual, emotional or verbal experiences have long term effects that we painfully go through his adults, it is often times the root source of many of our daily struggles and can affect us unknowingly and how we conduct ourselves in our relationships with our family members, people at work and with friends. We're parents where students we have jobs way, do everything everyone else does. Yet there's something missing from our lives. Childhood abuse can have lifelong effects such as depression, anchor, anxiety, fear, low self esteem and loneliness. Introducing my workshop, learning to undo the effects of childhood abuse, this introductory workshop will provide you with validation of your personal experiences, tools he could use to begin to undo the effects, insight, your current behaviors and how you can change them in depth. Lectures on how the abuse affected your belief system begin to recapture the missing pieces in your life and discover an open world with new possibilities. Roll today 2. Introduction: I again, I'm Jason. Childhood abuse and trauma is a subject that doesn't get a whole lot of attention. It's not popularized by celebrities coming forward. It's not newsworthy for a lot of people, and it goes and recognize as one of the biggest challenges in the development of our mental health. But childhood trauma and abuse are riel. In the US alone, over six million Children every year are victims of abuse. It's staggering and a lot more common than people realize. So why is it not talked about? Well, victims of childhood abuse? Walk around, talk, laugh, get jobs, get married, have kids go on vacations just like everyone else. It's not visibly detectable that someone has gone through some form of abuse and trauma. Oftentimes, adults don't talk about it because it feels embarrassing and feel shameful. And how do I know this? Well, I'm an adult survivor of childhood abuse. Yet here I am today speaking to you about it, just like any other ordinary person you'll meet. Such experiences can be frightening as a child, but as an adult, there's consequences and after effects that most people don't realize, including myself. What are the after effects. It's well documented that Children who experience abuse grew up with a higher likelihood of things like depression, anxiety, anger and violence, other mental health challenges, poor coping and communication skills, alcoholism and drug abuse, addiction and even suicide attempts. I went through a very long time coming to terms with my abuse, and it wasn't pretty. I battled through things like depression, anxiety, anger, violence, poor coping skills as an adult, which resulted in relationship struggles and mental health challenges. When I finally found the answers, though, I wanted to help others out there with similar experiences. So I went out to write and publish my best selling book, Living With the Dragon, Healing 15,000 Days of a Beast and Shame That became a Mental Speaker, a blogger, instructor and mental health advocate. The material in my workshop is meant to be introductory if you feel like only getting your feet wet, learning about the effects of abuse. Yet this workshop is advanced enough to provoke some meaningful thoughts and engaging conversations along with some helpful solutions. I promise you will feel validated, which can bring a whole lot of healing. I understand your journey if you're an adult survivor of childhood abuse and trauma, and I want you to know that you're not alone. So when you're ready, let's begin electors and I look forward to your Q and A's. 3. Let's Begin the Healing Process: So why do we feel discomfort when talking about her past trauma and abuse? It's a signal fear, because talking about it brings up unwanted memories of the pain and hurt we experienced. The discomfort is also telling us that there's a part of us that wants to be nurtured and healed. It's an indicator that there's fractures in her belief system, and we need to app up our courage to face these fears. Otherwise that discomfort can consume us in the form of shame. Shame, as I'll talk about later on, builds walls and these walls hurt us in our development and prevents us from feeling hole. So when you're ready to continue an enlightening walk with me, click on the next lecture. 4. What are Fear and Shame?: did you know that one of the greatest fears people have is public speaking. I've done plenty of presentations at conferences and workshops, and to this very day, I still feel very nervous about the entire experience. Mean sweaty palms, rapid heart rate. I can't think clearly. Well, you get the idea. I'm also someone who's quite shy and introverted and find it difficult sometimes for me to approach a stranger and start talking to him out of the blue. But where is this fear coming from? And what am I so afraid off? Perhaps I'm afraid of feeling rejected. Fear prevents us from exploring the opportunities that surround us, were afraid of being judged and afraid of being alone or afraid of change. These fears keep us in her comfort zone. It keeps us warm and cozy in our cocoons, But fear keeps us from getting creative and learning new things hinders us from meeting new people on making new friends stops us from trying different foods or traveling to a foreign country. Fear prevents us from asking that girl out on a date and stops us from applying for a new job. In short, fear stunts are personal growth and does not allow change in her life. This is a problem, especially. We're stuck in a place of unhappiness and stress. And then there's shame. Shame is the cousin of fear. Shame is defined as the painful feeling rising from something dishonorable and properly done by oneself or another. Shame is the feeling that's buried in us. It typically exist in our subconscious because the dishonorable deed done is so daunting that we try to bury it away. This is what makes shame so deadly. Shame builds walls that deflect a lot of our inner challenges, doesn't allow us to tap into these dishonorable deeds, keeps building a wall higher and higher uniforms. What's called denial Shame also creates feelings of resentment and anger. It's an almighty and powerful feeling that blocks out happiness from our lives. Together with fear. These two feelings make a diabolical team of unhappiness and misery. Remember that iceberg lecture? I talked about the subconscious feeling center on the bottom 90% of that iceberg? Well, fear and shame are almost always existing in that space, Fear and Shemer, often created by difficult life events. Some refer to his trauma. I'm going to share with you the biggest weapon against both of these menacing feelings. And with this weapon, you able to kick out fear and shame and free up some of that space in your brain for happiness to move in, ready its compassion. Compassion is the biggest weapon you have against fear and shame. That's right. Compassion is the sympathetic consciousness of others distressed together with a desire to alleviate it. Okay, in layperson's term, compassion is to share. Accepting console the suffering of another person struggles. The self compassion is to accept and console the suffering in your own personal struggles. When you begin to open up the dialogue about your struggles to someone else, pay close attention to their feelings of compassion. What happens when someone is compassionate to you begins to feel a lot easier to continue talking about your problems, doesn't it? Compassion gives us a safe space to talk without judgment tells us that the events happen. You don't need to hide from the embarrassing pain and discomfort anymore. On the other hand, if the person is judging and critical of you, that wall of shame and fear remains intact, and you probably know a lot of want to talk about your problems with them anymore. Remembering workshop number to talk to a validation validation reminds the person that they're problems. Ariel Validation is a building block for compassion, and the objective with compassion is to expose, neutralize and put away shame and fear behind bars because they serve no purpose in the world of happiness. So remember, fear and shame exists in our subconscious state. Likely form from life changing events. Fear and shame build walls, the wall gets higher and creates minions of resentment, denial, contempt and anger. Compassion comes in and saves the day. Compassion breaks down the wall, and fear and shame can no longer sustain their powers. Our problems become addressed and healthy dialogue begins, and happiness moves in bit by that. 5. Moving Forward: in my trigger happy workshops, you've learned of riding different tools and fresh new perspectives on combating stress, creating positive habits and getting rid of old negative beliefs. You can customize and have what you've learned into your daily routine that's gonna make you more productive as a communicator and as an experienced manager of your mental health. By saying goodbye to old negative habits and beliefs, you'll be able to appreciate the time to do things that are more meaningful and enjoyable. Saying goodbye means letting go of how you perceive things need to be. So what if things become different? Your brain now has all the tools it needs to adapt to the different scenarios. Lifehouse to throw your way It's about acceptance of how things are not allowing our circumstances control how we think and feel. I was once told by one of my mentors small steps, trees. I carried that belief with me. Ever since change takes small steps and you've taken several small steps through my workshops. Collectively, the small steps are making big changes in your life. Someone also once told me it's a long life, Jason. We may have blips and speed bumps over the course of our lives. But in the big scheme of things, it is a long life with a wealth of opportunities for growth and new and wonderful things toe happen. You just need to be sure to get in for the ride, not miss out on living with the same old habits and same beliefs. Change allows for good things to happen in your life, whether it's in school, in your career, hobbit or even a new recipe for dinner. He's all add to your database in your brain toe. Learn something you didn't know before. It's exciting because you discover feeling of happiness that you've never experienced before. That's pretty encouraging. And let's face it, stress will always be there waiting for us. Life will continue to have its ups and downs beyond your control. But with your new tools and refreshed outlook, you've part of yourself to find healthy solutions and trigger happiness.