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Habits Mastery - How To Implement Bulletproof Habits!

Silviu Marisca, Fast Reader, LifeHacker

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7 Lessons (20m)
    • 1. The Ultimate Strategy To Implement Good Habits!

      1:48
    • 2. Goals or Habits?

      2:57
    • 3. Mistake no 1 - Not being specific enough

      2:22
    • 4. Mistake no 2 - Relying on willpower

      4:15
    • 5. Mistake no 3 - Doing everything on your own

      3:28
    • 6. How to Remember Your Habits

      2:11
    • 7. How to Increase Your Chances of Success

      3:04

About This Class

Habits Mastery: How to create bulletproof habits!

This course will help you establish solid habits both in life and work. At the end of this course, you will be able to establish:

  • Work habits like working on your most important projects, pitching new clients or writing
  • Health habits like eating healthier, exercising frequently or doing daily meditation practice
  • Habits for unpleasant tasks like cleaning your apartment, doing the paperwork for your business or answering e-mails consistently.

You already have many habits in your life that you are doing automatically, like for example brushing your teeth ot locking the apartment door when going out. And when you think about it, since you do these things automatically, they don't really take that much willpower and energy from you.

On the other hand, you need a lot of willpower and energy for tasks that you don't do automatically yet - especially if they are not very pleasant.

Inside this course, I will show you how to achieve consistent progress in life by automating some of your behaviors and creating habits that actually stick.

Transcripts

1. The Ultimate Strategy To Implement Good Habits!: hi and welcome to my alternate guide to creating good habits. This course will help you establish solid habits both in life and work. Once you are finished with this course, you will be able to establish health habits like eating healthier, exercising frequently or doing daily meditation. Practice work habits like working on your most important projects. Beaching new clients or writing and habits for unpleasant tasks like cleaning your apartment, doing the paperwork for your business or answering emails consistently. I'm pretty sure you already have many habits in your life that you're doing automatically like brushing your teeth were looking the apartment door while living were putting on shoes when going out of the apartment. When you think about it, since you do these things automatically, they don't really think that much willpower and energy from you. On the other hand, you need a lot off willpower and energy for tasks that you don't do automatically yet, especially if they're not blessed for you. Inside this course, I will show you how to achieve consistent progress in life by automating some off your behavior's in creating habits that actually stick. But before we jump into the strategies and tactics for doing that, we're going to start with our first lesson. What is the relationship between habits and goals? Should you focus more on goals or on habits? See you in the next lesson. 2. Goals or Habits?: I think that girls are a great thing to have together with a clear vision, because they help you identify the direction that you want to move in your life. If you don't have a clear direction in life, you will probably make it somewhere. But you almost definitely will not make it where you want to go and become really successful at something. If you're constantly focused on large, goes like having a bodybuilder body were building a $1,000,000 business were running hard marathon. It might just happen that you will do more dreaming than taking action because these girls are so far away. So instead of focusing on goals, you'll get better results by focusing on the process. Instead, instead of focusing on building a seven figure business, focus on becoming the person who is capable of building a $1,000,000 business by changing your habits. You can do this in a very simple way by asking yourself the following question. If I want to reach my goals, what are the activities? But I need to be doing on a consistent basis, right? The answer to this question down on paper and save it as you'll need it later on. In this guide, let's have some examples growing a business requires working on the client work X hours the day thinking about strategy and optimizing your business model X hours a week focusing out to acts new potential clients a week Were writing a book requires writing X amount of words every day. Were getting a six pack Requires eating in line with the nutrition plan Doing stretching exercises. Why type a week doing cardio exercises? Acts times a week? Of course, I'm pretty sure this examples are oversimplified, but you get the point in case you are still not able to determine which habits you need to adopt in order to reach a certain goal, even after asking yourself the previous question and looking at votes. Examples here is why to Kendall, find a person who has already achieved a goal that you want to achieve. Analyze them, were even better. Talk to them in person. Ask them whatever day looks like. And what are the things that we're doing consistently, but allow them to reach the goal that you want a rich. Once you do that, you will most likely be able to identify some of the habits that you don't have a right out , and when you identify this habits, you should adopt them and keep doing and doing them until you get the results you want to get. 3. Mistake no 1 - Not being specific enough: the number one mistake not being specific enough. The first mistake that people tend to make when it comes to have its is not being specific enough. I've seen this issue with a sawn off people in my past when I ask them which habits they want to implement in their lives, very responses usually were safing along with lies. I want to eat healthier. I want to exercise more. I want to be more productive in the mornings, whereas vote ideas might sound completely reasonable since they are so vague, it's extremely hard to matter, Van. And since they are hard to measure, it's also hard to say if you are progressing towards them or not. And what happens when you don't see any progress? You quit instead offsetting vag habits. You can try going ultra specific about the habits Vatican implement that will help you get closer to your goals. What do I mean by specific habits? Let's have these three examples. I want to eat at least three pieces off fruit every day, each working day at 6 a.m. I want to go out for a 15 minute running after I finished my breakfast on Saturday and Sunday. I want right 700 words off my book. Once you reframe the habits and make them far more specific, it's easier to measure your progress. Determine if you're doing good or bad, and also to identify the areas for improvement. Here is my task for you. Write down one habit that you want to form and be very specific. If you're not sure how to do that exactly. Here are a couple of questions to get started. How many times a week? So I want to do this habit. On which days do I want to do this habit? But what time do I want to do this habit? For How long do I want to be doing this habit? Is there any other measurable metric that will determine if I completed the habit for the day, for example, the number off words written No, please to this exercise. Thank you very much. 4. Mistake no 2 - Relying on willpower: The first mistake that you can make is to try to form habits alone without anyone holding you accountable. I've heard something like this many times. I'm sure I can feel all office out on my own. I don't need any help with it. And more often than not, I've seen the people who have said this stagnate in the future and break their habits. And more often than not, I've seen that the people who have service stagnate in the future and break their habits. Why? Because there is nobody there to hold them accountable. There is no one to help them out when they're stuck, and there is no one to give them another point of view that might help them get unstuck. I've experienced the same thing myself in the past. More specifically, when I redesigned my exercising habit in the past, I used to exercise together with my friends, and I would always look forward toa hanging out with them. So the habit was very easy to stick to, even when the times go stuff in other areas off my life. However, when I began to exercise alone at home, I realized that my habit became way harder to keep up when I got stuck. There are two ways in which you can prevent this from happening to you. The first thing you can do is to find someone to do the habit together with you. This can mean playing football with your friends running with your girlfriend were working in on office together with your business farmer. Just having someone who can care about next to you will make it easier for you to actually stick with the habit when times get tough because you will not want to disappoint Van. I do, however, realize that you will want to sometimes do the habits on your own like exercise at home or write a book. Because this might be more convenient for you. We'll allow you to avoid distractions. In that case, you can still get the accountability that you need to keep your habits going from another person like, for example, an accountability partner were an accountability group. To help me with my exercise habits, I've joined a very strict fitness accountability group that has weekly check ins. If you fail at your habits for two weeks narrow, you get kicked out off the group for a few weeks. Since I've joined this group a couple of months, I managed to keep my exercise going every single week, regardless off how I was doing in other areas of my life. Of course, you don't need to do something as radical as joining a student group like that. You could just find another person who has similar goals venue and do, for example, a Skype call with them once a week, where you can hold each other accountable for sticking with your habits during this cause. You can revere habits together, and also it rate through different solutions. Using this systems technique with talked previously, I'd like to point out one last thing. When you talk about accountability, vote from my experience. Accountability works past when you're meeting with a person or a group of people that you already have an existing relationship with. When you have an existing relationship with someone who believed in you, you will not want to disappoint them. You will not want to look like a failure in their eyes. That's where the true accountability comes from in my experience. For that reason, the accountability doesn't work so well. If you just joined a group basketball practice where you don't know anyone yet. We're joining on an accountability group of friend and people. On the other hand, if in that group there are a couple of people with whom you have an existing relationship and you think highly off them, then you cannot just afford to slack in front of them. Now, I hope this lesson my excess. If you have any questions, please open a discussion. Thank you very much. 5. Mistake no 3 - Doing everything on your own: Now you know we chart the most common mistakes that you should avoid while trying to form new habits. But I don't want you to stop there, so I want to give you more techniques and insights that will allow you to really bulletproof your habits. One thing that I've realized about half a year ago is that it's extremely hard to form a habit that you don't enjoy doing. That is why it was hard for you to study for a subject they do didn't like when you were a university. That's why it's hard for you to do the paperwork for your basis when you enjoy doing client work way more. And that is why it's hard for you to clean your apartment and wash the dishes consistently . Let's look at a couple of solutions for this problem. In order to steal, reach or goes, you can Ivor outsource the work switch. The habit were make the habit more exciting. Some habits that you hate can probably be outsourced like, for example, washing the dishes or doing the paperwork for your business, which can at least to some extent be outsourced by getting a housemaid, were an assistant But of course, we're also some habits that you just cannot outs. Worse if your goal is to get a six pack, for example, you have many different nutrition plans. Vatican follow as well as many different ways in which you can exercise. So if you find out that you don't enjoy jogging on your own so much, you can usually go and play basketball with your friends, which will help you get similar results. If you find it painful to calculate calories, were to strictly follow a nutrition plan from morning to evening all the time. You can explore our options like trying out the Palo diet, which can also get a good results. If there is a possibility for you to switch a habit toe are more exciting, one that will get you the same results. You should definitely do that, however. Sometimes you just will not be able to do this. Sometimes you will not be able to afford to outsource the habits, and you will not really be able to switch the habits. In that case, you should focus on making the habit themselves more exciting. You can do this by asking yourself this question. What can you do to make this habit more exciting by doing it differently? Let's look at a practical example, like starting for university example to find boring. Here are a couple of things you can do to make this habit more exciting. First you can get together and study with a group of friends were to enjoy hanging out with . Second, you can try exploring different starting techniques like using metaphors, work visualizations and fert. You can google the concept of it. You need to learn and find how they're used in real life and then starting an exciting project where you will be able to use those concepts in action. I hope you understood how to bring the fun into the habits. Think at this question. What can you do to make this habit more exciting by doing it differently? I'm pretty sure you are a creative person, so if you have any questions, please open a discussion inside this course. If not, let's move on to the next lesson. Thank you very much. 6. How to Remember Your Habits: how to remember your habits. One of the best ways off remembering habits is to create specific triggers for your habits . These figures can ivor bit existent habits or visual triggers. Existing habits are great because they will happen every day, and you can simply connect the new habit before, during or after the old habit. On the other hand, with some habits, you might want to use visual triggers in order to remember to do them examples off existing habits. After breakfast, write 500 words off a book After waking up, Go for running after the power nap, Clean the dishes now. Here are some examples off visual figures Placing running shoes and clothes next to your bed were placing a bowl of fruits on your desk for preparing project materials for the next day on your Worth desk before leaving toe work. Now, when you should do your habits, does it matter if you do a habit in the morning or in the evening? I think it does. And here is why we as humans have limited willpower and energy levels. Think about it. If you are tired and burned out off work, how likely is it that you will actually continue a habit instead of ignoring willpower and energy levels. Why don't you give yourself the best chance is off success by strategically positioning the habits At times when you have the most energy and willpower, you can drastically increase the percentage off times you managed to do. A habit as a rule fund during the habits earlier in the day, instead of waiting for the last second in the evening will be a good think. In fact, by doing sound the habits as a part off your morning routine, you can actually build your momentum to get even more work done after you are done with your habits. 7. How to Increase Your Chances of Success: Another thing that you can do to increase your chances off success is to decrease the amount of willpower and energy necessary to start an activity. For example, it will be much easier to get started with working on your most important work project in the morning if you prepare all project materials the evening before. Another example would be packing your clothes into the gym bag a day before, so that you can just take the bag and go when you need to go there. In general, the fewer the things that you need to do in order to get something started, the more likely you are to succeed, period. Now, how many habits should you form at once? Should you just try to create one habit that once, Where can you do more, and how long does it take to form a habit? Personally, I don't think that there is a definite answer to that question that will work for everyone . Why? Because I believe that creating new habits is a skill that you can get better at. That means that in the beginning it might take you longer to form new habits and wants to get better at doing it, you conform of them faster. On top of that, it also depends how big the habits that you are trying to build our writing for an hour. Each warning will take you far more willpower than building a small habit, like washing your teeth, because it requires more energy and willpower. In the end, it all comes down to testing and seeing how you are doing. By following this course, you should be able to add a new habit to your life every 1 to 2 weeks. However, you should always keep in mind that you will struggle with some habits. More van with offers. With some, you'll implement them quite fast, and with others, it might take you weeks before you make them work for you. A general guideline Vatican use is to start a new habit once you have successfully maintained the last added habit for seven days. Now how big the habits be should you create very small habits? Were can you create bigger wants right off the bat? I think there are different points of view on this topic out there, but I personally found it. The most effective is to start small with habits between 5 to 15 minutes long. Once you have successfully completed the small habit for a week, you can work on gradually increasing it by 10% each week and seeing how you are progressing with habits that are longer like playing basketball. We're going to the gym. You can start bigger, but in that case you shouldn't do the habits every day, since that will likely lead into burnout because off low energy levels.