Emotional Intelligence - Quik-Tips for Self- Awareness Practice

1. EQ101A Self-Awareness Practice Introduction: Hello and welcome to the emotional intelligence quick tips course for self awareness practice. This is I ness Jordan and I will be your instructor for this course. Emotional self awareness is the foundation on which all other scales of emotional intelligence are built. It is the necessary first step toward understanding yourself and identifying areas where you would like to improve. Obviously, if you're not aware of what you're doing or why you're doing it, or the way that it is affecting others, you will not see a need for change. Focusing on self awareness first is key. You must understand yourself before you can work toward improvements in any of the other areas of emotional intelligence. Individuals with high self awareness recognized negative feelings or thoughts and understand the impact that displaying those emotions may have on the people around them. They also have skills that we will develop in this course to figure out what caused the negative feelings and how to manage or diffuse those negative thoughts. So welcome to this quick tips for practicing self awareness. The course objectives are define self awareness, explore examples of high and low self awareness behaviors, complete several pause and think exercises where we will capture your thoughts in the personal project worksheet and then review and reflect on your findings. And finally, we will discuss negative thoughts and how to defuse them. I'm looking forward to working with you as we practise self awareness in Rome now and let's get started. Thank you. 2. EQ101A Self-Awareness Practice Definition: the ability to interact effectively with others. Build and maintain relationships is very important, so developing and using your emotional intelligence is key to your success. Everyone has aspects of their lives that they can improve. The key skills of emotional intelligence, like self awareness, can be learned by anyone at any age. However, it will take persistence, focus and practice. Emotional intelligence is a practice. It's not just a turn. There are several definitions of self awareness. Let's review a few and notice what they all have in common. Emotional self awareness is the ability to recognize your emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behaviors, know your strengths and weaknesses and have self confidence. Second definition of self awareness is emotional. Self awareness is the ability to recognize your feelings, differentiate between them, know why you are feeling those feelings and recognize the impact your feelings have on others around you. We've all noticed people around us who seemed to be out of control of their emotions. They're so caught up in their own rage that they do not notice the impact that their emotions have on the people around them. We can all think of situations where we've lashed out at an innocent person because we were upset about something that had nothing at all to do with them. By practicing better self awareness skills, we can recognize the symptoms of negative emotions like tension in the neck just being irritable or slamming doors or loss of appetite. In this course, we will learn ways to notice and manage our feelings before we behave or react in a way that we will regret later. Understanding ourselves is key. If you can become more aware of your emotions as they happen to understand the reasons behind your emotions and then understand the in fact your emotions have on your behavior and how you interact with others, you will be happier and more productive and had more meaningful relationships. Emotional self awareness is important for success in both professional and in our personal lives, because if we cannot recognize how we're feeling, if we cannot take our emotional temperature, we are at risk of behaving in demeaning, angry, belittling or belligerent ways that will turn others off our knowledge or like you will not matter if others flee from us, avoid us and view us in a highly negative light. Join me in the next module of quick tips for self awareness as we study several examples and complete the practice exercises. See you in the next module. 3. EQ101A Self-Awareness Exercises: the tables on the next two slides provide a snapshot of the behaviors of both of high and low emotional intelligence in self awareness skills. Take a look. Are any of these behaviors familiar to you? For example, a person would low emotional intelligence in the self awareness skill may have a hard time verbalizing their emotions, have difficulty recognizing their emotions or avoid acknowledging their emotions altogether . In this example, we take a look at the emotional intelligence behaviors off a person with high self awareness. This person relates their own feelings to the appropriate cause. They understand that emotions change, and sometimes there's actually a blend of emotions, and they're also very in touch with their own feelings. In the second example, ah person with low emotional intelligence and self awareness blames others for their emotions. You made me mad is a great example. This person is also surprised when someone reacts to their emotional flare ups or has a hard time sensing the emotions of others. In this example of high emotional intelligence. Let's make a quick self awareness observation. When you walk by a mirror, take a glimpse at your facial expression. What might someone who saw that expression. Assume about your feelings. Does your actual feeling match the expression on your face? You're positive thing. Exercise is to create an emotions journal. Take a few moments throughout the day over the next several days to log where you are, what you're feeling and what triggered the feeling. Capture your information in the personal project Worksheet. Now, for a bit of reflection, let's review your journal. How does the number of negative emotions throughout the day compared to positive Did you know that we produce up to 50,000 thoughts a day and 70 to 80% are negative? That's 40,000 negative thoughts that we need to manage as you review your journal entries here. Several questions to consider. Do you have more good days and bad days or vice versa? How do you think the negative feelings affect your mood throughout today? Do you notice any patterns or situations that trigger certain emotions for the next positive think exercise? Let's think about how you might counteract some of your negative thoughts and then review the defusing question list on the next slide. A key component to hi self awareness is understanding how to manage our negative thoughts on this slide. I've listed several diffusing questions that we can ask ourselves as we have those negative feelings. The first question is, is there proof that the negative thought is true? Could there be an alternative that you've not considered step outside of the situation? Could you be overreacting? How would you advise someone in a similar situation? Have you been in this situation before? How did you handle it? And are there lessons learned that you could apply? Did you enjoy this emotional intelligence? Quick tip. Keep practicing your self awareness skills. Thank you for taking the class and stay tuned for more quick tips for improving your emotional intelligence. Don't forget to follow me on skill share for notices on future courses. Thanks again.