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Embrace The Pain

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5 Lessons (31m)
    • 1. Intro

      3:15
    • 2. Day 1

      8:17
    • 3. Day 2

      8:59
    • 4. Day 3

      5:27
    • 5. Final

      5:00
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This is a hard hitting no-nonsense program to making transformative change

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1. Intro: Hi. How's it going? Are you where you thought you'd be? Are you sitting there wondering why nothing is happening in your life? Do you feel stuck wanting to move forward? But it seems that the parking brake is on and you don't know how to unlock it. Have you asked yourself, Why haven't I achieved my dreams? My goals? What's wrong? What's happening? Why didn't that motivation seminar work for me? Where did that motivation go? I want it so badly. But why doesn't anything work? What am I doing wrong? If any of these statements touched a nerve with you, if you found yourself saying these same very things late at night before you doze off, then you've come to the right place and this course we're going to examine what is holding you back from achieving the life you deserve and explore the main reason that people don't change When you understand the human psyche. When you understand how people go from nothing to something, you see one key factor. That key factor is not motivation. I think we all know highly motivated people. The key factor is pain because the transformative change you were looking for Onley happens in your life when the pain of your current situation is so great that you cannot stand another day, another minute, another our living that way. That's when you will change, not before we're going to understand the pain associated with your current lifestyle. The structure of this course will allow you to understand the ramifications of your lifestyle, and you will be made to feel the pain that comes from those choices. Then we will use that pain as you're driving force and make a concrete plan for achieving the change you are looking for. Over the course of the next few days, we will understand the theory behind the embraced the pain program. On Day one, we will tear apart that embraced the pain program. You'll understand how people change. This will include people natural association to stay away from pain and move toward pleasure. And we will also look at interesting examples. Have people living comfortable. I get painful lives. On Day two, we'll analyze our situation and identify the pain points. This day will be very difficult. We will see our life as it is now and start to feel things that maybe we haven't felt in a while. Those feelings will be our catalyst for change. On Day three, we'll put together a plan based on the pain associated with your lifestyle choices, and we will work that plan. We're all familiar with the term plan, your work, then work your plan. That's exactly what we're going to do. I am the conclusion we will go over, understand our lives and understand that there is pain associate with the choices that we make and that no amount of motivation, no amount of self help books, no amount of inspirational lectures will ever quell that pain. It's a pain that only we can fix. 2. Day 1: Welcome to Day one. Hope your day is going well. I hope you've had your cup of Joe or your tea as we sit down and start to understand, embrace the pain. When I came up with embraced the pain, it was after many years of going through the traditional self improvement circus. I had enrolled in the courses, attended the motivational lectures and workshops, and I was noticing that the change that they were speaking about was just not happening in my life. It was not that I had a lack of motivation. I wanted it and I wanted it very badly. But still the change wasn't happening. As I sat there in view, the other participants in these lectures and seminars, I started to understand a common thread among all of us. That common thread was that myself and the others didn't lack motivation. They were very motivated people, what they lacked with a sincere desire to make that transformative change in their lives. The epiphany for this methodology came one day right after I took a shower. I felt something burning deep inside. I had never felt before, of course. At first I thought, Oh my gosh, I'm having a heart attack. Well, this must be horrible heartburn from the night of drinking before. But what I quickly learn was that burning inside. That was the pain that I had been stuffing down. I was stuffing down the pain by doing what I wanted to do instead of what I needed to dio the moderate success I had achieved in the comforts that came from that success were only masking the pain. I knew at that point that I no longer wanted to feel this pain. So after many days of deep thought, I realized why I had not made that transformer to change. And it was so simple. I was disgusted. You see, I was living a very comfortable life. I had a nice income. I was in the six figure range. I had no problems with my relationship, so I was living very comfortably. A lot of people will look at my life and say, Why do you need to change? You seem to have it all. But deep down inside the six figure income, the social circles and the relationships, they were just covering up the pain that I didn't want to feel and that pain was associated with how unhealthy I was living. As I sat there, I realized what was painful for me was looking in the mirror. Seeing on hell hunt healthy. I was in terms of physical appearance in terms of my mental health, my emotional health and my physical health. And then I understood that pain was what was going to take me to the next level. So when we talk about the embrace, the pain, what I'm speaking about its understanding that there was paying associate ID with the lifestyle choices that we make. In my example, it was that I was living totally unhealthy, that I was your typical middle aged man, fat and out of shape, and I knew deep down inside that's not where I wanted to be. So that's what embraced the pain is about is about understanding the pain, whether you're trying to get healthier, whether you're trying to make the change that allows you to bump up your income, where whether you're looking to be more social or have a better relationship. So for the sake of illustration, I'm going to give you an example about understanding the pain of your current lifestyle choices. So what we see here is Jack. Jack is your typical middle age man living in the West. Here's a nice life. He's married, has 2.5 kids. He easily makes six figures with a nice bonus at the end of the year. Goes on vacations once a year. Nice car, Nice house in an upper middle class neighborhood. As Jacque sits in the bleachers of his sons or daughters sporting events, he thinks back to himself. How did I end up like this? How did I end up being fat, overweight on blood pressure cholesterol on a handful of other medications? How did this happen? And not that how did it happen and how that I allow it to happen for so long? It is. At that moment, Jack decides he's going to take a motivational seminar, get motivated to lose weight and to be in better shape, not just for himself but for his kids and his family. Jack takes a motivational seminar, has a great time and gets highly motivated. He has a plan to lose the weight and to get in better shape, and then three months passed and nothing happens. And Jack ask what happened? Where did the motivation go? I was motivated. Toe make the change. But what happened? Well, what happened to Jack and so many more people like him is that the comforts of his life helped him dole the pain associated with his lifestyle choices. I mean, think about it. He has everything that most people would strive for. So the pain of his situation being healthy and out of shape wasn't that painful for Jack. It wasn't enough pain for him. Toe. Want to change? Let's take a look at Suzanne. Suzanne is also a typical woman living in the West, married 2.5 kids. She has a nice lifestyle. Nice income. She lives comfortably. She wants for nothing. She pretty much gets whatever she wants. But one day, as she's sitting by, the pool reminisces about the days long ago, she asked herself the same question. How did this happen? And how that I let it happen for so long after Suzanne goes home, sits and ponders and start to feel a level of pain burning inside that doesn't go away, she wakes up the next day. The pain is still there, thinking that there is a problem with herself. She goes to come first with her friends and tells them about the pain that she's feeling and her friends. Being the friends that they are, they attempt a console. Horan teller Suzanne. You have everything that anyone would consider to be successful. So what, that you're not in shape or had the figure you had in your yesteryear's? That conversation doesn't quote the pain for Suzanne. Day in and day out, she tries to ignore the pain, but it doesn't go away. Instead of dying down, it just burns harder and harder every day, to the point where she wakes up in the middle of the night one day and says, Enough, I will no longer live like this ever again. Not once. Second, not one day. When you look at these two examples, you see the difference between the pain associated with their current lifestyle choices. You see that for Jack, there was paying associate with this healthy on healthy lifestyle, but it wasn't enough for him to want to change. It wasn't enough for him. Toe want to endure the hardships that come from change. Where Suzanne's pain was very tangible, she could feel it burning in her chest day in and day out, that no amount of consoling with her friends, no amount of going out. I could quote that pain, and that's what we're talking about. When we're talking about riel transformative change and these two examples, Susan Suzanne will make the change. Jack will not. So over the next several days, we're going to very methodically pick apart your situations and understand the deep rooted pain that come from those decisions. Just like when you go to the doctor and the doctor ask you on a scale of 1 to 10 how much pain are you in? We're going to do the same thing with those areas in your life that you want to see really transformative change. 3. Day 2 : welcome. Well, hope you had time to digest what we spoke about yesterday. And I hope that you understand that the journey that you have set forth on is going to be a little uncomfortable. But I can understand that the uncomfortable that you'll be feeling will be minimized by the intense joy and happiness that will come as you move along your journey to making the change in your life. So today we're going to go over your life, and I'm going to ask you the hard questions about where you are in life, just like I mentioned yesterday. We're going to assign a pain threshold to those choices, so you truly understand where change can happen. It's important to understand that transformative change does not occur without building upon prior successes, Just like when you were a child learning to ride a bike, you had your training wheels, and after you got comfortable with riding the bike with training wheels, then you were able to take off the training wheels and then when you were felt comfortable riding the bike without training wheels at a reasonable speed, then you got a little bit more comfortable and then you felt like you could accelerate things on your bicycle and you could start to two jumps or do races or wheelies because you felt comfortable and your ability to ride the bike. That's exactly what we're going to dio as we lay the groundwork for understanding the pain in your life. It was part of the embrace, the pain methodology. We're going to detail areas in your life that are painful for you. When you look at most people's pain, it can be associated with four areas. Your financial situation, your health or physical fitness situation, your social or happiness situation and, lastly, your relationships. When I say that there's four situations that people have pain in, those pretty much are the basis for what most people consider success. When you serve a people and ask them what is success in their life, they usually speak about health, wealth, happiness, relationship, others yes, but those four form the foundation for what I would say is 95% of the people out there if you're of that 5% please message me and I will definitely take that into thought, and I will modify the course to reflect that specific option in the downloads associated with this day, you're going to find the embrace, the pain template, therefore templates in the bundle associated for today and on East, one of the templates. There's a series of questions that you will be going through as you describe each one of your situations. It is very important that you give yourself the time to answer these questions. To gain maximum benefit from this step, you need to think deeply and substantially about the questions. It is important that you thoroughly fell out the template for yourself to gain the maximum benefit. I recommend that if you need to pause the course to go over each one of those situations, please do. Please don't feel hurried. So let's get started. Number one, your financial situation. Are you living paycheck to paycheck? Do you have a job that you like? And are you excited about going to work every day? Do you work with individuals that allow you to be the best person you can be at the office ? Are you paid what you think you're worth? Do you dread going to work in the mornings? And when Sunday comes around, do you fall into a deep depression. Thinking about it is Monday the worst day of the week for you? If any of these questions describe you, ask yourself, How painful is it? How painful is it for you to go to work in the mornings? How much pain do you feel on Sunday Knowing that you had to go to work on Monday, I want you to write down some of your thoughts associated with the pain that these questions might bring out. Ask yourself those questions from a scale of 1 to 10 and be honest with yourself. This is no place to fluff the numbers. Please be honest with yourself. Number two. Your health situation When you look at yourself in the mornings in the mirror, are you happy with the person that is looking back? Are you embarrassed to take off your shirt? If you're a man or a wear a bikini or a one piece? If you're a woman at the beach, do you find yourself making excuses for your personal parents? Your health se I'm just not that guy or girl anymore. I don't have that young woman or a young man's body anymore. Do you find yourself criticizing others who are on a path to taking control of their physical fitness and health. Does it bother you that when you're in the shower and you look down that your family the proverbial shower test? If you have Children, young Children do you find yourself continually tired and unable to keep up with your Children? Do you find yourself that you were having to sit out of family activities or social events because some type of physical exertion is required? Do you find yourself asking or telling yourself? I'm just to old I'm so out of shape. Are you on first name basis with your doctor? Are you want high blood pressure cholesterol? Type two diabetes medication For these questions, I want you to rate yourself from a scale of 1 to 10 again. Please be honest with yourself. Number three. Your social or happiness situation. How happy are you? Do you have a lot of friends in your social circle or of the friends that you have? Are they the type of friends that want you to succeed that want the best for you? Do you find that you have few friends? Do you feel alone in a crowd of people. Do you ask yourself what happened? Why am I so lonely? Why am I not able to make friends? Do you feel that you're on the right course? Or do you wonder sometimes what's going on? Have you straight off course and ask yourself, where is this leading to? Do you ask yourself, Why do these things continually happen to me? And why am I never able to catch a break in my life? Why do I have to suffer so much again for these questions? I want you to rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10. And again, be honest with yourself. Number four, Your relationships. Are you in a relationship now? If you are, is it the type of relationship you dreamed off or are you settling? If you're not in a relationship, are you asking yourself? Why is it why am I not in a relationship? Where have all the good men and women gone? I have a lot to offer a man or a woman. Why doesn't anyone else see it? Do you sit alone at nights wondering? Is this how it's going to be? Am I going to be alone for the rest of my life. How did you envision your relationships when you were younger? Did you see yourself married with a white picket fence and the 2.5 Children? Are you the token single friend among your married friends? Do you find yourself being the serial dater never actually having relationship? Are you scared of being in a relationship for the fear of getting hurt? Are you scared to go all in in a relationship? And if you are, how painful is that fear? Is it more painful than not being in a relationship? Lastly, for these questions, I want you to rate them from a Siris of 1 to 10. These situations are painful. The questions that I have asked you is toe spark, some type of feeling within you so that you can understand your life. Is it painful? Yes. But by embracing and understanding the pain that comes from thes situations on Lee, then can you make the transformative change that you're looking for? 4. Day 3: welcome. I hope you've taken the time to thoroughly complete each one of those templates associated with situations that we discussed in the last class. If you haven't, I would ask that you stop the course and go back and finish that. This is no place to pardon the expression to half asset. So today we're going to briefly go over some of the choices and the ratings that you gave the pain associated with your situations and going over those. We're going to focus our time and our energy on the area where we have the most pain. Like I mentioned yesterday, success is like riding a bike for us. You learn to rye with your training wheels. Then you get to take him off and go faster. And then the next thing you know, you're doing wheelies and jumps. That's how success works. You can't go from riding with training wheels or doing wheelies and jumps. You'll just crash and burn. So what we're going to do today is focused on the era. You have the most pain because once we were able to make transformative change in one area of our life, the other areas just fall in. After that, it's really that simple. So in looking at your templates, I want you to do this of the situations that are not at least a threshold of six. I want you to set those aside. You asked why six? Well, six is just at the level where the pain is something that you can no longer ignore. People are able to withstand a considerable amount of pain in their life. Just think about some of the areas that you've seen in your day to day. I can't think we all know people that smoke cigarettes yet have lung cancer and they still smoke cigarettes. But we know the person that lives in abject poverty but yet won't make the changes in their life to get them out of that poverty. And the reason that happens is because the pain is just not that bad for them. Realistically, we can survive with a pain threshold of five a lot. All of us do it every day. We have that nagging pain, maybe in our back, Arnie, and we just deal with it. It's just not that bad for us to take action to fix it. So what I want us to focus on is the pain that is noticeable and that pain usually start at level six. So let's take a look at your six and above pain. Of those areas that are six and above, take the one that is eight and higher. So we want to look at the remaining situations that are six and above, and we want to set aside the ones that are eight or higher. If you find when you look at your situations that all of your areas are six and higher, then I would ask that you stop the course and go through yesterday's material again and give it more thought, because there are very few people in this world that all areas of their life are in excruciating pain. So of your situations that are level eight and above, those are the ones that we're going to focus on. So in the template you highlighted pain points associated with that situation. For each one of those pain points, we're going to put a plan together. It's very easy to get overwhelmed when coming up with a plan to eradicate each one of these pain points, so I want you to focus on three of the five, and that will give you some momentum and resolving those pains that you can use to address the other two. I've including example in a lecture download to give you an understanding. What I'm looking for in this example I provide relates to how I wanted to change my physical fitness and health. As you can see from my action plan, my goal was to lose £30 have a more toned appearance. I put together a very basic way of accomplishing this, a way to measure my progress. I view the idea of gold setting as very basic and the embrace the pain program. Our goal is simple to quell the pain, so we structure our action plan. According to that idea. In my case, my pain came from unhealthy lifestyle and physical appearance, so my goal was easy. Eat better, exercise more and remove the habits that kept me from achieving that. The purpose is exercises to put you in a position for success. So we will be working on doing things in a slow and methodical way. So you're not feeling overwhelmed or underwhelmed and always remember successes like riding a bike 5. Final : welcome. How have you been feeling after going over this material the last several days? I know that this material in this course is not very touchy. Feeling as I mentioned, this is not a motivational course. This is a course to put you on a path to riel transformative change. So after these past couple days, you probably have a lot of things going on in your head, about your life and the pain associated with those four circumstances. That is good. It is common to feel worse before feeling better after thinking about these things. But in my journey to transformative change, I always felt great after leaving motivational seminars, listening to a lecture or podcast about change. But the rial change Onley occurred when I was willing to embrace the pain associate ID with my current lifestyle choice. And I can tell you that the choices that I made to fix my health and my fitness were painful, but they weren't painful in the same way. Was there pain and working out on a regular basis? Sure, there was the next day I was hating life. I was sore that was truly hurting. But that pain went away after a day and then there was no more pain associate with me working out as my body adapted and like you will adapt. And the pain that I felt when I looked in the mirror and stood there in the shower was replaced with an inner joy and happiness that I never felt in my life. When you start to look in the mirror and see the real changes that are happening in your body or in some people's cases, the rial change. You see when you look in your bank account or the responses you get from members of the opposite sex or the feelings that you get when you're at work, well, you will slowly forget about that pain. That pain becomes a distant memory and then you sit there and you ask yourself, Is this all it took? Is that it? That wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. The one last area that I want to speak about is the concept of discipline and routine now that you understand the pain associate with your current lifestyle choices, now that you have a plan to address those pains and to identify in the templates. It's necessary toe. Have the discipline toe allow you to achieve that change when we speak about discipline. What we're really speaking about is doing what you'd need to do, not what you want to dio when you look at the human psyche and how discipline and routine are cemented in people's lives, you understand this very basic concept you Onley need to do it for six weeks. Human psychologist shows us that if you do anything for a period of six weeks, we'll have formed a new habit. That new habit will be the foundation by which disciplined can fall back on after six weeks . You won't even have to remind yourself to perform that task for this task or the other task . You're gonna be on a form of autopilot. Are you gonna have some bad days in this journey? Of course you are. But I can guarantee you the pain that you have from those bad days are going to feel like nothing compared to the pain that you had when you first started. This is a slow journey. This is not a get rich Quick. This isn't lose £30 in a month. This is none of that. This is a path to riel transformative change, and that transformative change takes work. And that work is cemented in the discipline and the routine that you set for yourself. Because unlike other programs that are out there, your goals that you set forth in this program are cemented in riel pain pain that bothers you pain that you feel on a regular basis that is very real to you. So it's really simple. It's really simple to set forth goals to eradicate pain. That is simple. I wish you the best of luck in this program. And if you have any feedback from a please leave a nice quote for me, letting me know how I can be better or what your progress has been. I look forward to reading your updates, and I wish you best on this journey. God bless and take care.