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Double Your Social Skills & Communication Skills

Alain W.

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31 Lessons (2h 1m)
    • 1. Welcome

      3:23
    • 2. Day1: Remove Fear Of Approaching People

      8:57
    • 3. Day2: How To Approach Anyone

      7:34
    • 4. Day 3: Wining Mindset For Social Success

      3:09
    • 5. Day4: Be Liked Even Before You Approach

      4:16
    • 6. Day5: Join Group Conversations

      2:54
    • 7. Day6: What To Say In Social Interactions

      8:35
    • 8. Day7: Never Running Out Of Things To Say

      4:57
    • 9. Day8: Connecting With People Fast

      5:58
    • 10. Day9: Attractive Social Energy

      3:19
    • 11. Day10: Leaving A Conversation Politely

      2:30
    • 12. Day11: Confidence In Social Interactions

      4:29
    • 13. Day12: Being Comfortable Socially

      3:22
    • 14. Day13: Love Yourself

      5:21
    • 15. DAY 14 WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU

      3:25
    • 16. Day15: Being Shy Socially

      4:23
    • 17. Day16: Positive Body Language

      4:16
    • 18. DAY 17 CONFDIENT BODY LANGUAGE

      2:16
    • 19. Day18: Eye Contact

      5:10
    • 20. DAY 19 SMILING

      2:59
    • 21. DAY 20 MAGNETIC PRESENCE

      3:59
    • 22. DAY 21 MOST INTERESTING PERSON IN THE ROOM

      4:41
    • 23. DAY 22 MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU

      2:58
    • 24. DAY 23 POSITIVE EXPECTANCY

      1:40
    • 25. DAY 24 ENERGY EXCHANGE

      1:57
    • 26. DAY 25 BEFRIEND THE LEADER

      2:24
    • 27. DAY 26 VISUALIZATION FOR SOCAL SUCCESS

      2:58
    • 28. DAY 27 TALKATIVE MOOD

      2:29
    • 29. DAY 28 FEAR OF FAILURE AND FEAR OF REECTION

      3:09
    • 30. DAY 29 SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THE RIHT PEOPLE

      1:45
    • 31. DAY 30 ULTIMATE CHALLENGE

      1:52
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About This Class

Trying To Talk To People Can Be So Stressful - How Do We Know What To Say?

Most of us ramble, wonder what the right thing to say is, run out of things to say, don't know how to start a conversation with someone

Let me ask you 5 questions:

  • Do you want to be more confident & comfortable when you interact with people?
  • Do you want to learn the art of approaching anyone & becoming unforgettable?
  • Do you want to make new friends you can really connect with?
  • Do you want to be more charimsatic & be the most interesting person in the room?
  • Do you want to learn the art of having great interactions with people consitently?

You Will Learn The Art Of Approaching Anyone & Having Great Interactions Instantly

Your social skills will really impact the quality of your personal life and professional life. Experts say that socialskills & communication skills are the most important skill to master if you want to connect with people & have quality interactions with other people.

Can I learn social skills?

Everyone can learn social skills. It is like playing sports. You can hire a coach and he will help you to develop yourskills. Everyone can become socially successful as long as they have the best advices. My style is direct, to the point, no fluff and I only share what works & will give you the results you want fast. Obama learnt social skills, shy people learn social skills everyday. Why can't you?

Who is this course for?

This course is for people who would like to develop better social skills & become socially successful. If you aresocially shy, I'll go over the basics so you can improve your social skills. If you already have good social skills, I'll share many advanced concepts & techniques so you can develop even more extraordinary social skills.

What will I learn in this course?

You will learn how to start any interaction, exactly what to say, how to never run out of things to say, how to remove your fear of approaching, how to connect with people, how to make friends, how to be confident & comfortable in social interactions, how to be the most interesting person in the room & so much more!

Transcripts

1. Welcome: Hi. My name is removed and I am a social skills consultant who has already has more than 30,000 people, or I want the world to develop better social skills. Now, let me ask you some question. Do you want to drop amazing social skills? Do you want to be able to connect with everyone everywhere? Would like to make an amazing first impression with people around you. In other words, would you like to have all the social skills that you would ever need? It can be in your personal life or in your professionalize. Imagine that you could become confident and comfortable in any situation. How would that improve your life? We all have challenges talking to people and sometimes a lack of social skills. Can it really uncomfortable and stressful moments? We have all been there. That's why I created escorted course so that you will learn all the secrets that you will ever need to interact with people. You will never again feel uncomfortable or stressed socially. You will learn how to make an amazing first impression With people around you, you will learn how to have great directions with everyone that you meet. You re create meaningful connections and headed off with everyone. You will also become comfortable and confident in any social situation. But you will also remove everything that is holding you back social and we learn so much more. There is a 30 day money back guarantee, so you really have no risk. You can try the schools, see if it helps you and if not, you can get your money back. The only thing that you can gain from this deal is social. I know that some people would ask me, I can everyone learn social skills? The answer is yes, because it's a skill that you can block over time, social skills. I would say learning social skills is like playing sports. The more you play, the better you get that and it's not something that you're born with. It's something that you develop over time. So you that is watching this video, you can develop bear. The social skills is discourse from me. Yes, because even if you don't have a lot of social skills, I would go over the basics. But I will also share the advanced techniques so that even if you already have good social skills, you can still get an edge over other people. So by taking this course you really improve your social skills. Why should you learn for me? Because I spent the last 15 years learning how to develop better social states have interviewed the world's best experts. I've read hundreds of books I've attended seven hours all around the world. But even better, I applied everything. Then I started there looking amazing social skills. And then I started sharing that with friends our own. Another said, Why don't you share that with people? And now I'm here sharing that with you, sharing that, sharing the techniques that I have always used with more than 30,000 people or I want the world and it has already work for them. So if it has worked for them, it will work for you. So now it's a tight in morning the schools right now so we can start your transformation 2. Day1: Remove Fear Of Approaching People: the fear off approaching. Everyone has that. And I'm sure that unit is watching this video. Yes, you that is watching this video. You also had a situation where you had these negative feelings inside your body. You wanted to approach someone. You wanted to do something socially. But then you had this fear and it was holding you back. It's something that's natural. So in this video, I would like to give you keys. I would like to give you four kids so that you can try to decrease this fear off approaching. But before I think it's important toe learn weight comes from. And why do we have this year? So imagine that 1,000,000 of years ago, little Alan was in the tripe and he was in the tribe. So to survive, he had to find food. He had to be protected by the tribe. So he had to be in the group in order to survive. And what would happen if Little Alan was rejected from the tribe? He would die because back in the time we thought that we had to stay in a tribe in order to survive. And basically being rejected means death and what's really interesting is that we still have that ingrained in our brain. So we are to networking event. We have someone that we want to approach, and at the back of her head, we still have that. We're If we get predicted, we would die. And it's incredible because our brain is really powerful. But sometimes it's not serving us in this case. It's not really seven years that our brain shows us the negative feeling inside our body to prevent from approaching people. So that's why it's important to know that it's something that comes from 1,000,000 of years ago. So it's something that you will have and you have to learn how to deal with. Now I have good news, you know that is there, and you can learn how to deal with that so that at the end, it's not something that is really uncomfortable. Everyone has this fear for approaching even if you see someone that is really socially successful and that has high social skills and you may think maybe this person doesn't have the fear for approaching yes, dispassion has. But this person has learned how to deal with that and this is key here. You know that the fear for approaching will be there. But there are tools. There are ways that you can use to deal with it. You cannot remove it, but you can decrease it. And even with the techniques that I'm going to give you here, you will be able to decrease it to a level that you will almost forget that the fear for approaching is here. The first thing before giving you this keys I would like to tell you that it's important First toe except this fear. It means that you start having this fear. Don't try to say, Oh, I don't I don't have any fear for approaching. Say okay, I have I'm afraid of approaching. Have this fear for approaching you Accept. It is the first step to accept this fear off approaching because issue off is accepted. You can then deal with it Now The first key I would like to share with you here is try to approach as soon as possible. Let me expect you are in a social situation and then you have someone that you want to approach. The more you wait, the more the fear for approaching will build. Have you ever been in a situation? You wanted to approach someone and then you waited. You waited and you have this fear for approaching. That's what's building up. I'm sure it happened to you. So the key here is to approach as soon as you can. It means that you in a social situation and then you see someone that you want to approach and then you go as fast as you can. Don't worry. Later I would explain what to do, how to introduce yourself, how to get conversations. But today in this video, here is just you see someone you want to approach and then you start moving in their direction. Because if you do that your body doesn't have time toe have fear. Your body doesn't have time to build this fear off. Approaching The second technique is to think in terms off benefits. Because when we have a social situation and we have this fear off approaching, it's because we focus on everything that could go wrong. We say this person can reject me. This person can say that I'm a loser. This person can make fun of me we have all these excuses, all the things that we think that can go wrong. And if we focus on everything that can go wrong, what would happen? It's had the fear for 40 will deal up. But if instead we focus on everything that we can gain from an interaction, let's see that you are the networking event and you have to approach someone you can think in terms off everything that you can give to the other person and everything that you can gain from the other person. It's more powerful dancing. Oh my God, this person will see that I'm not a good negotiator. Oh, my God, my small talks I don't know if it's good and you start war, we start warring and it started building this fear of approaching. So basically, you have to show you brain that it's safe to approach and that you can gain something from the interaction. Let's illustrate that. Let's say that across the street there is a house on fire. If I tell you there is three bucks inside, would you try to go inside? There is only three bucks. 99% of people would say I don't want to try. And now if I tell you there is a briefcase inside this house that is on fire, there was $3 million. If you manage to get it, you can keep it. Will you try? And there are a high number off people who will try to get the briefcase. Why? Because the benefit was higher. It's the same thing here. You try to find the benefits, everything that you can gain from the indirection, and then the feel for approaching will decrease. The third technique to decrease the few off approaching is toe approach. As soon as you arrive in a new environment, because when we enter a networking events or room, our brain does not know if this place is safe. Because back in the days what happened is that we were in the tribe and we didn't really know if if we could do something because we were afraid that cave men would come and smash our head with a stone. These how our brain works. So if we arrive in a new place, it's a new tribe. We don't know what will happen, but if when you arrive, you immediately start talking to someone, it will prove it would show proof to your brain that it's okay to act in these environments . When I was at university and I had to give a presentation and there were students before me , I always had the habits off, just raising my hands and asking a question. The question was irrelevant, but what was relevant was that my brain knew that it was OK to speak loud in that class environment. So then when I had to give my class presentation, I was more teas. So use that approach. The first person that that you see in an environment, even if it's to ask basic question, it doesn't matter. The goal is to show your brain that you can act and you can speak in that environment. The last technique I would like to share with you here. It's the Force one. He's make fun of this year. Sometimes we give too much importance. We say this fears up, up, off approaching is incredible, and we make it a monster, but instead make fun of it. I have my fear for approaching who is gold. Carlos. I picture Carlos that callus is completely fucked up. His old. He is tired. He's not in a good shape, and I know that Carlos will be here. It's like having someone that you don't want to have. But you have to take care off this person because it it's a part of you. So when I am approaching people and I feel that I have this fear for approaching, I say Okay, I know Carlos will be here. I have to take care of Carlos. It's this person here and I make fun of it. And if you make fun off your fear, it will lose its power. So I really encourage you to name you fear. And don't take it seriously. You would see that you will be able to approach people more easily. 3. Day2: How To Approach Anyone: Okay, so how to approach anyone? So in this video here, we'll see three ways that you can use to approach anyone. Because I know that most people say, Alan, I don't know what to say. I have this person at this networking event. I have this person in a bar. I want to approach this person, but I don't know what to say. So in this video here, I really want toe handle that give you the three technique that you can use. The first technical life to gives you is toe compliment Someone. Yes. Giving compliments is awesome when you want to approach someone. But I would like just to hear give you a few words off caution. If you approach someone and you give a compliment and the compliment is not genuine, the person will feel something off about yourself. So if you want to approach someone and give a compliment, it has to be something that it's genuine and something that you want to say. OK, so if you want to approach someone and give this compliment, you must first observe around you observe the people that you want to approach, and then you can give a compliment. Now you may say, Alan, but I don't know this person. How can I compliment this person So you can compliment someone on their personality or the looks? If you have wanted to compliment someone on the personality, you can say hi. You look really friendly. I just wanted to say hi. Hi. You look really nice. You look really open minded. You look really happy. I just wanted to say hi. You try to guess the behavior that the person has in this case here. You see that the person is open minded. Friendly is in a great mood. You can use that to approach someone. You can a person say hi. You look really friendly. I just wanted to say hi. My name is Alan. You can see here that you can compliment on their behavior, so make the habit. Now off observing people around you and observing how the field and yes, don't approach someone and say, Hey, you look really sad or you look really never said I wanted to say hi. It has to be a positive emotion that the person is feeling. And then you can just say it and complement the person on it. The second way that you can compliment someone is compliment someone on their looks. So it's more in a subjection setting, I would say issue in a bar or if there is a casual setting and you want more to seduce this person so you can compliment someone on the looks so you can say I really like your dress. I really like the color off address and how it matches your eyes, or I really like your bracelet and how it matches your dress you can become. We can be creative with the compliments, so be careful because thes one here I won't use in a networking event. I will use it more when you're seducing someone, and as long as you want to give it and it's genuine, remember, it's going to be OK. The second way you can approach someone is by introducing yourself. Basically, you just walk up to someone and don't worry yet. We'll discuss later what you can say after that, but you just work up to someone and you introduce yourself. You can say, Hey, my name is Alan. Nice to meet you. You just shake hands your hands when you shake hands your hands, It's fear is confident. You just smile, you make eye contact and then you just introduce yourself and by the law off reciprocity the breasts and will also introduce themselves. So you just woke up to someone you introduce yourself and the person who say, Hey, my name is Mark. We'll see later how we can continue the conversation, and this one here is really a great one. I would say it should be your default opening white because then you want to approach someone. What's really important is that you express the state that you are in. It means that if you are shy and nervous, don't try to approach someone and be super confident and super energetic. What you want to do is really express what you have. So by just introducing yourself, you can't introduce yourself if you are sad or if you are really happy. So by using that you will always be right, so that would be my default open now. The third way that you can approach someone is by asking basic questions. Basically, you want toe, ask a question about something and there's something does not really matter because when you want to approach someone, what you want to do is to start the interaction. I always illustrate that with starting the car in the morning, you have to start a car. You're not Oh, my God. I have to start the cup. He just go. You put in that, you put the key and then you start the car and then you drive, which is leading the conversation. But basically, approaching someone is just starting the cow. So don't focus too much on starting the car. Just focus on starting this interaction because you will see that it will really remove a huge weight off the shoulders. If you just say, Oh, I just have to start the car, Alan said. I just have to start the car because most people focused too much on the first few seconds off the interaction. Instead, you just go your approach, and then later you lead the conversation and you build your social value later. But if you ask someone, if you approach them on and then you ask someone, what was the first thing that the person said most people don't even remember. They would remember how you felt how they felt. Theo Energy that you had your smile, your eye contact. Most people don't remember about what you said when you approach them, so don't focus too much on that focus just on approaching you can. So let's recap. You can compliment someone on their personality or the looks. If you compliment on the looks, it's more when you want to seduce someone. And if you want to compliment someone on the personality, you can say, Hey, my name is Alan. You look really friendly. I just wanted to say hi. The second way is to just introduce yourself. It's simple, and this should be your day foot opener. You default away off approaching people because it will be congruent with the state that you are in. And the third way that you can approach people is by asking a basic question. Just ask a question. Do you know when this bar closes? Do you know when is the next conference? Do you know if this food is good? Do you know what time is it? Just ask a question. The question doesn't matter. What really matters is that you start the interaction, and most people will never remember what you used to approach them That would just remember how they felt. So if you compliment someone and the person had great emotions, this person will remember the emotions that this person had, not what you said. So that was It's for dissection here on how to approach people. See you in the next one. 4. Day 3: Wining Mindset For Social Success: Now let's discuss the best mindsets for social success. If you think that people are bad, when you will approach people, they will have these weird vibe that you think that people are bad because whatever you feel, whatever you think about people will manifest itself. If you think that people are bad and Egypt's guess what the people that you will be interacting with, we'll have this feeling that you consider that there are bad and Egypt's, because the belief that you have about people will manifest itself. So if you have a negative mind set about people, people will have a negative feeling about you. Now you may say island, but people are really bad. I don't want to be a positive thinker and just think that people are are good and people are friendly. I don't want to be realistic. Let me tell you that you don't know who is bad and it was good. So if you consider everyone bad, you won't be able to connect with the good people because you will reject them Instead. I really encourage you to consider that people are good. People are friendly so that you will have this vibe off friendliness and openness And it will really serve you if you have this mindset off. People are friendly, people are good. So if you want to add something on that, you can say that everyone on Earth can teach you something. So it means that my mindset when I am approaching people, I say Oh, people are good, people are friendly and everyone on Earth's can teach me something So we always have these curiosity. I will have this mindset off. I want to uproot this person. Maybe this person is friendly. Maybe this person is good and maybe this person can teach me something and you will see that it changes the mindset from oh, people about people are not friendly. I don't want to approach people. They have nothing to give me. Basically you change your my said form value taking to value giving. If you want to have a mindset for social success, have a value giving mindset, it means that you will give value to people and it is the next step here because you already have. People are friendly, people are open minded, people are good, everyone can teach me something. And now, if you want to add? On top of that, you say ho, I'm going to give value to people. If you do that, you will become a social success. So I really encourage you now too. Think about the mindset that you have about people. You can even write it down. You take a piece of paper and then you write down the mindset that you have about people. And if it's not serving you changing, you can be inspired by my mindset and maybe take a piece of fetal. Say, Alan, I don't like this kind of mindset. I want this one instead. But it has to be positive. Don't forget that. And you will see that it will improve you also shining directions. See you in the next video. 5. Day4: Be Liked Even Before You Approach: So would you like to be like just before you approach someone? Most people think that the social interaction starts when they approached someone. No, the social direction starts before because the state that trying the posture that you have , the emotions that you're feeling, the mindset that you have, everything that you are thinking in your head, we'll have an impact on how the interaction is going to go. So I encourage you focus on your emotions, focus on what you're feeling because if you Assad, if you're stressed, if you're in a negative mood and you will approach people people, we have a negative feeling about yourself. But if instead you control how you feel, you control the feeling that you have before you approach someone and you make it a positive feeling. People will feel positive vibe about yourself, and people will like you more So, Alan, how how do you do that? First you have toe. Remember a time when you had positive feelings, positive emotions, so it can be a great memory. It can be a moment where you really felt good emotions and you just close your eyes for a few seconds and you imagine this positive memory, and then when you have the positive emotion in sad Julie, you just amplify it so that it reaches your entire body. It should do that. You would see that it will instantly change your positive emotions. It will instantly fuel your body with positive emotions. And you know what? Whatever you feel the other person feels, if there is something that you should take from this course is whatever you feel the other person feels. So if you put yourself in a great mood just before you approach someone, your social interactions will skyrocket, because what most people do, they just worry about approaching someone, and they have this negative feeling. But what to do instead is that you have great emotions because I want to reveal this secret now, and I will be explaining later. In the schools, the communication between two people 93% is nonverbal and only 7% uh, words. Most people focus on boards. What you should do instead is focus on how you feel because the non verbal is the voice that enough your voice, the energy, your body language, all of that. So if you focus on feeling good before approaching someone. You're already covering a huge part of the interaction even before it starts. It's amazing. Also try to have positive expectations because let's imagine that you want to approach someone so you have these great emotions and I would like to you toe imagine that you approach this person and it goes well, because if you do that, it will start showing your brain. That's, Oh, this interaction can go well So you can see here that if you think about the interaction going well before it goes well, it has a higher chances off manifesting itself and going well. It's something that is really powerful. So in this section, I will. I wanted to cover here these two techniques. The 1st 1 is have positive emotions in your body before approaching and you'll be fight. And then the 2nd 1 is what is the 2nd 1? You have positive expectations. So you visualize yourself having social success in this environment. If you apply only these two techniques here, you won't need my course. Yeah, but go go along and follow. My advice is, but if you apply these two years, you will see that it will really change the way that you interact with people and the quality off interaction that you're having and also what people are telling about you. So try it. Try today, go out and apply this to take this year before approaching. 6. Day5: Join Group Conversations: how to join group conversations. Maybe you want to approach someone, and this person is with other people. Most people will say, Oh, it's more complicated. No, I don't think it's more complicated. It's just a little bit different. Let's see that you want to approach someone, and this person here is with one person to personal a group of people. What you should do, and what I encourage you to do is to approach people toe approach, this base, this person here in this case, when the person is having a light conversation, it means that if you see that the person is having a really serious conversation or sad, or it's getting really intense between the group don't approach because maybe that's not the right time to do it. So first observed the dynamic in the group, and you look for a light conversation, and when you have these light conversation, or if there is a blank, it's even better you can approach Polly approach first. I would say Be polite so you can say sorry for interrupting, and then you can say, I know that you were having a conversation, but I just wanted to say hi because you look friendly. Let's break it down first. You are polite. Sorry for interrupting. I know that you were having a conversation. It means that it shows that you are socially smart. You know that they were having a conversation and you say it so that it makes okay toe approach. So you say it and then you see. But I just wanted to say hi, or but I just wanted to introduce myself. But I just wanted to ask you a question and then you are you basically it's not more difficult. I think it's even more fun because if you approach someone that is alone, you I can only talk to this person. But if you approach a person that is with other people, you have a little bit less pressure because you can talk to the person the other person can talk with the other person. You can see there's a group dynamic here, so I even encourage you to approach people who are in groups. You used these three step technique here. First you say I'm sorry for interrupting. Then you say I know that you were having a conversation. It means that you show empathy. And then the 3rd 1 is. But I just wanted to. And then you use one off the ways toe approach that I give you in the previous video, so it's not really difficult. Don't make it a big deal, but make the habits off approaching groups because it's fun and it's socially great to be able to approach people who are in groups. See you in the next video. 7. Day6: What To Say In Social Interactions: Now let's discuss what to say. Most people really focus on what to say. They think that they have to find the perfect words. They have to find the perfect sequence, the perfect thing to say. But let me tell you this. It does not exist. The perfect sequence off words does not exist. What really matters is that you are the one saying the words did you know that? And maybe it would shock you that only 7% off the conversation between two people is words . And then you have the 93 other percent, which is your nonverbal, which is your posture, your energy, your body language, how you feel. So if people focus on, what should I say, Alan, the only focus on 7% in a new direction. And then you have the 92% which is how do you feel, which is all the non verbal? So don't focus too much on what to say, because if you have good intentions, is what you want to say does not hurt people. If you want, you have good intentions. You want to share something with are people you want to ask questions. You want toe make the conversation going is not something that you should be really obsessed about and most people are. But as you must say something, let's discuss that because if I don't give you what to say and you will, you will approach. Even if you ever create energy and you don't know what to say, that can be a problem. So let's discuss, what can you talk about? Most people think that the only thing that they can talk about is me and the other person. So in my case, let's say that I'm talking to you. The only thing that I can talk about myself and the other person, but there is more than that. Don't forget that there is the environment that is around us. That's we can talk about your past, your present, your future. We can talk about my past, my present, my future. We can talk about what we have in common so you can see here that there may be dimensions, and most people only focus on why they have in front of them. So it means that you could ask questions about your past, your present, your future. You could ask questions about what you're going to do tomorrow. You can ask question about what you did yesterday. You can ask questions about where you will go on vacation. You can ask questions about you. See, there are many dimensions. You can talk about the environment. You can talk about many things. So now let me help you with that. When you approach someone and you introduce yourself, you ask a question or you give a compliment. I encourage you to exchange name. So in true, introduce yourself. You just say, Hey, my name's Alan and then the other person says, Hey, my name is Mark By the law, off reciprocity. You can also give compliments because if you didn't give a compliment during the approach, you can just compliment someone. It's OK to compliment someone. As long as the complement is genuine, you can say, Oh, it's really nice meeting you. You look really friendly. You can just give a small compliment. It doesn't hurt. You can also ask the question. How do you know each other? If you approach a group of people, you can ask this question. How do you know each other? And it's great because you will be able tow? No, the group dynamic toe. Understand the group dynamic that you are interacting with. So you introduce yourself. You ask a question or you give a compliment. Then you can introduce yourself. You exchange names. You can ask the question. How do you know each other? You can also ask the question. What brings you here? It's a great question to understand why this person is here and what the person is expected off the night off the day off, the work environment off the networking event you can. No, you can understand what the person wants and why the person is here. Then you can also talk about the environment because, as I said before, sometimes we think that we can only talk about what is in front of us. But there is the environment. The environment is also here. So it could be talking about how great the music is, how good the music is. You can talk about, for example, the food, the wine you can took up about everything that is in the environment because it's something that you have in common with the other person. So you can talk about that then off course. You can also ask the basic questions, such as, Where you from? What do you do? All these basic questions are okay. Toe ask. But most people would say, Alan, you shouldn't ask the boring questions And most people don't really understand that. It's not about the questions that you ask, but it's a bite ice about the 93% which is the energy that you have your body language, your smile, your your eye. Contact all of that. Because if I ask you this question, way form, if it's a way from it, changes everything. The energy behind the world changes everything, so you can. You can meet someone that is socially successful, and that will ask the boring questions, the same questions as everyone but the energy level, how they feel what they feel will be different way. Know how to maintain eye contact. Do we know how to smile that? We know all of that and we'll see later in the course how to do all of that. But for now, let's focus on what to say. So it's OK to ask the basic questions, and for now you have more than enough. You can also add some humor. I don't want to give you sentences about How about humor? Because I want you to develop your own sense of humor. But underscoring toe give, you hear the basics. It means that. How does humor work? How how does it work? If you had to summarize this in one sentence, how does it work? Humor is when you say something that the person is not expected. If you think about the jokes that you laughed about, the situations that you laughed. The common thing is that there is something that you were not expected that either happened or the person said. So I really encourage you to go now on YouTube and watch some videos about people that you like. And I have a great sense of humor because there are so many sense of humor out there. I would like you to find your own style. So go now on YouTube and watch one video off someone that you like and try to see how the person does the jokes and how the person show gives you something that you don't expect and you will see that you will be able to develop your own sense of humor. So with this video here, I wanted to show you that don't put too much focus on what you say because it's only 7%. As long as you are the one saying that as long as you have a great energy, a great smile, you know how to maintain eye contact and have a great body language. You can see anything you could really, You could talk about anything to talk about tomatoes, about everything. And I tried that. I have approached people and I start talking about nonsense about things that didn't really make sense. And I was able to great amazing results socially just because I had the 93% that were in place. So really words don't really matter. Okay? So focus on how you feel. It would be more effective and use what I told you here. You can ask a question. So it means that when you approach, you can ask a question. You can give a compliment. You can introduce yourself, then you get exchange names. Then you can ask the question. What brings you here? How do you know each other? You can talk about the environment, you can ask the basic questions. You can say statements. You can talk about yourself. Basically, there are infinite possibilities. It just about finding your own style. But remember, words are only 7% so it's not a huge weight in a conversation. So if you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask me. 8. Day7: Never Running Out Of Things To Say: how to never run out of things to say again. We have all been there. We were in the situation and there was this blank. It's less uncomfortable for all of us. But let me tell you that there is a way that you don't run out of things to say again and that you make it comfortable if that happens. So the first thing I would like to tell you here is that if there is a blank, if you run out of things to say, be comfortable with that, it means that having a blank in a conversation is not a big deal. But what will make the conversation go downhill? It's if you start being awkward and not comfortable with that, because most people that I know that have a blank in a conversation, they start freaking out. They start increasing the stress level, they start worrying, and the other person feels that because remember in social interactions, whatever you feel, the other person feels. So the first advice here is if there is a blank in a conversation, just be comfortable with that. Just accept it and then you can reinitiate the conversation. I will show you later. So now let's discuss why we run out of things to say it's simple. Most people think that what they have to say is not good enough. They have lived so many things in their lives. They have stories to share their things to say. But they have this filter here, their criteria for what to say and it's really high. So it means that they have something to say and then they have the Cretier. It's not good enough. No, it's not good enough. It's not good enough. So at the end, there run out of things to say. So if you want to never run out of things to see again, you should lower your criteria for what you say. Because remember words only 7% in any direction. It means that if you are share words, you exchange words with people. What you say basically is only 7% so you shouldn't put too much focus on what you say. Put focus on how you feel and your body language, because disease, the 93% okay, so low over the criteria for what you say as long as you have good intentions and you don't want to hurt people. You can almost say anything. You can say anything. You can share who you are. Be proud of who you are, express who you are now. If you lower the criteria for what you say and you still have these blank that happen and it will happen because it's something that is natural. You should find ways to really shape the conversation. So let me tell you this. You can almost say anything because you are taking the pressure off the other person's shoulders. It means that let's say that we are having a blank here. I can almost see anything, and the person will accept it because the person will like you for starting the conversation again. So I included you to have the question toolbox. Basically, it's three questions that you have, which you can ask any time that there is a blank. So I have three questions, which is what you like to do for fun. Where you going on your next holidays? I have also what you like to do. What are your passions and interests? So these are the three questions that I have that I can ask if there's a blank in a conversation. So I really encourage you to also find three questions. Three default question that you could ask someone if there is a blank, so that when there is a blank, you know how to initiate the conversation. You can also talk about what happened before. Let's say that we are. We're having a conversation and you were talking about Barcelona. I can initiate the conversation with Barcelona. I can ask a question about Barcelona. How code is it? What are you going to do in Barcelona? I can ask. I have a lot of questions that I can ask about Barcelona, so you can just think about what you said before about what the other person said before. And then you can reinitiate the conversation. Then you can also ask a question to the other person. Or you can talk about yourself. Or you can also talk about the environment, how loud the music is, how great the atmosphere is, how great the wine is, how great the food is. You see, really shaped dress really shape, and the person will like you for that because you are taking the pressure off their shoulders so It's really not a big deal. If you run out of things to say, just be comfortable with that and then initiate the conversation without one off the techniques that I gave you. 9. Day8: Connecting With People Fast: how can you connect with people fast? So the question that we should ask ourselves is, How do people connect together? If you think about the people that you hang out with, it's because you have something in common. If you think about the if you think about your colleagues, you have the work that is in common. If you think about the friends that you go out and have beer with, you have the experience of having a beer together. There is something that you have in common. If you play tennis with someone, you have this common thing. So if you want to connect with someone, you must find something that you have in common because I'm sure that if you think about that, the people that you hang out with is because you have something in common. So the goal here is to after you approach someone to look for commonalities, so you should focus on what you have in common with this person and then talk about it. So let's say that we are having a conversation. I would start looking for commonalities. The first thing that we look for is where we are if we want the networking event. We can start talking business, so I will. I will share this commonality with you, and I will start talking about business. If we are, for example, at the gym, I can start talking about the gym because it's something that we have in common, and I'm sure that if you are the gym, you are interested in health in nutrition. So these are all the things that we can talk about. If I meet you when we are playing tennis, we have the We are playing tennis together. It means that we have something in common. So try toe, look for the activity and where you are, the activity you are doing and where you are and try to talk about that. And to find this common ground that you have with the person, you can also ask questions. It can be any question, and maybe you can find something that the person likes doing the best. The best question that I have is what do you like to do for fun? Because if I can find the commonality with the other person based on what the other person likes to do for fun, it's amazing because I will be able to connect with the other person. But I will also be able to talk about something that the person likes. So the person will have great emotions and the person will remember me and say I really had a great time with Allah, So I encourage you to find commonalities now. Sometimes you cannot find commonality with someone. And so how do you connect with this person? So if you cannot find commonalities, you can try indirect commonalities. Let's say that you are talking about Barcelona saying that you are going to go to Barcelona and I have no idea where personal is. I don't know about Salon. I know nothing about Barcelona. I can say I have a friend who went to Barcelona and he enjoyed it data. So it means that it's not a direct commonality, but it's an indirect criminality, which is I have a friend who went there, and it's not as strong as a direct commonality, but sometimes you cannot really find a direct commonality with the other person, so you can use an indirect commonality. Now I would like to share with your technique that is a little bit more advance. It means that if you already found the commonality with someone and you talked about it, that's awesome. You were able to connect with the person fast. Now the other technique that is a little bit more advanced, it's toe match the energy level off the other person. So we extent energy between two people. And what I will do is that I will approach someone and then I will match the energy level. It means that I will open. I would open a channel here between me and the other person, and I will just match the energy, the energy off the other person. And then I would increase it. Because also, if we connect with people, it means that we we matched our energy and we are on the same. And that Jill ever Okay, so what I do is that I first match of the energy level of the other person and then I increase it. It means that I much the energy of the other person. And then I start increasing it by thinking about positive things about by room by reminding myself off positive memories and by being excited about what I'm saying and passionate about what I'm saying, so that my energy level will increase, and so will the energy level off the other person. So the other person will think that you are amazing because the other person faith, really great emotions. And on top of that, you connected by energy. If I could say something like that now, don't use this technique. If, for example, the person is really sad and depressed because you don't really want to open yourself toe being sad and depressed and then to increase it because you will also feel the feelings off sadness and depression. So used this technique with someone that is not in a really bad mood, but it in okay, mood and you know that you can increase it. Just try you much the energy level. By opening a channel, you just imagine that there's a china here. You match the energy and then slowly you start increasing your energy. Even if it's just a little bit, you just want to lead an increase a little bit off energy, and then the older person will also increase their energy level and will match with you. It's something that works every time. It's incredible, so you can connect with commonality and you can also connect by energy 10. Day9: Attractive Social Energy: how to have an attractive social energy. Remember words only 7% in a human interaction, and then the 93% is the norm available. So there is a way that you can develop an attractive social energy in a few seconds. So let's do this exercise together. Just close your eyes breath. And now remember a time when you were really happy. Remember a memory, a positive memory where you had positive emotions. And then when you feel these emotions in your belly, I would like you to amplify it, toe the entire body. So if you were able to do this exercise with me, you feel now positive energy in your body. Just by focusing on something positive, you will have the positive emotions so you can change your energy level in a few seconds. What most people do is that they want to approach someone and their start warring. They have the stress level and they have negative energy inside them. So whatever you feel, the other person feels so instead, if you do this exercise here, you just you can close your eyes or not. It depends on how comfortable you are, So you just for a few seconds. You remember a positive memory empathy. You feel the emotions here in your belly, and then you amplify it so that it reaches your entire body. You can do that before approaching, and you can also do that when you are in an interaction with someone, because the goal here is to have the positive emotion that is always there. That is always in your body when you're interacting with people, because then people will love you. For that, it will happen. And if used is exercise correctly, that people will be asking you. Something has changed. Alan. Something has changed. You look more positive. You look more outgoing. There's something great about you, but I cannot say what it's the energy level that you have because remember, 93% is nonverbal. So focus on that. It's more important to focus in on how you feel rather than what you say. So focus on that, and also you can do this exercise many times during the day because you want to be used to be in this positive emotion. You can do that when you wake up. You can do that when you go to the toilets because when I go when I give a conference, I do that before I go in the toilets and then I I feel dispositive emotions. I feel that all the time. When I am on stage. When I am working, I always do that. I close my eyes and I have this positive emotions because positive emotions are awesome. If you can feel positive emotions during your day, your whole life will improve your interaction with your co workers with your boss, with your family, with everyone. If you have the great emotions inside you, your social skills and your social life would really improve. So remember this advice here. Focus on how you feel and amplify the good emotions with the technique that I gave you. 11. Day10: Leaving A Conversation Politely: how to leave a conversation. Politely. I got so many emails about people that asked me, Alan, I approach someone, and I see that I don't click with this person. How can I leave this conversation politely? So my first advice here would be toe really seek if you want to leave the conversation, because that can happen, that people are so stressed socially that sometimes there are mean and they're not really comfortable and friendly to you. It's not because they're bad people, but it's because they are stressed and they don't know how to act social. So I encourage you toe sense with your interest in If the person that is in front of you, it's comfortable. And if you think that there is something that you can get from the interaction I mean by that, if you can click with the person that you can connect with the person and if you can find a business partner or you can find a boyfriend or girlfriend or you can just have a great time or you can make a new friend, try to judge, try to see it with your intuition. Beef. There is something that can happen between you two. So if you see that you cannot click with your the other person, you can't leave the conversation. So how do you do that? Most people don't know how to leave a conversation politely so they don't leave. And they spend the entire night entire day entire networking event with someone just because they don't know how to leave. So let me give you hear a three part technique that will help you live a conversation polite. The first part is to say it was nice meeting you and then you shake hands. Then you give a reason for why you are living. I just have to see all the friends. I just want to talk to other people. I just want to get a top. And then the third part is, let's talk later. It means that you say it was nice meeting you. Then you give a reason about why you are leaving, and then you say it was Let's talk later with this three part technique here you can use it anywhere, and you can leave a conversation politely, and people will still have a great impression about you. Now I really encourage you to take my three part technique here and then write down your own sentence, because next time that you will be in a social interaction, you will then know what to say so that you can leave the conversation politely. 12. Day11: Confidence In Social Interactions: so if you want to boost your confidence in social interactions, it's important that you focus on what you can give two people. Okay, and also it's important toe. Be aware that you can give something to people, but you can also gain something from people. If you have this win win mindset, this is what we'll give you confidence. Let me illustrate that with you I was in Sydney, I was giving my conference and then I had this girl who raised her hands and she said that she was a crowd funding person and she was on the streets and she was trying to raise morning and she was really not confident. Then I asked her, What's why do you do this job? And then she said that she really wanted to help people, and she started listing me how she could give value to people. I think this is awesome now focused on that. And now let me ask you another question. How do you help people when you raise money? And then she starts talking about how the homeless people were able to have a meal and how they were able to have a place to stay for Christmas and for the cold winters. And I say This is interesting now do you want to go and approach? People say, Yeah, I want to go in approach people. What has changed its She thought that she was taking value from people and that she was serving something that was not really important. But when I reminded her off the value that she had to give to people, that she could raise money so that it could help people and that it would also boost hair and because she was so passionate by that it was to the hair self confidence. So I encourage you, you that is watching this video. Think about the value that you can give in any environment. Let's say that you have a networking event. Think about the value that your product that your company has and how it can improve or the people's life. I don't think in term off. Oh, I have to approach. People have to interact. I don't know if it's going to go where No, you say I know that I have value to offer and I know that people can also give me value. It's the win win situation. Let's go. Unless interact. This is a really powerful mindset that you can have and that will really boost your self confidence. Now I would like to also give you a hack because it's a hack that I always have. It is your posture. The posture will change, how you feel in a matter off seconds. If you adopt a posture off someone who is not confident. Let's say that I have a posture like that. And then I tried to say I'm confident you can see the motivation that I have to say that I'm confident. But if I adopt a posture off someone who is confident and I see I'm confident, I'm confident you can see here that my level off confidence just improved. And what happened here is that I just changed my posture. So if you want to have a posture off someone who is confident and boost your confidence instantly, you should put your shoulders back. Open your chest. Your head is straight. You're looking at the horizon and you try to relax your face. Issue do that instantly. It will boost your confidence level. If you don't believe me, try dizzy glasses right now. Just think about someone who is depressed and try toe copy their posture. So in your mind, just picture someone who is depressed and tried to copy the question. You will see that you will also be depressed, because if I have a posture of someone who's depressed, I will be low confidence and depressed. But if I have a posture off someone who is confident, I want to do things that I want to be confident. I want to interact with people, send you posture. Be away off your posture through the day. It means that when you wake up, be used to have a great posture. When you're sitting at your desk, have a great posture when you stand up. Have a great posture because it will impact your confidence level. So with Zach here, the confidence level hat, you can become confident anywhere in any situation. So there's something I really encourage you to do 13. Day12: Being Comfortable Socially: How can you become comfortable? Socially? So this is a question that I get a lot because most people put too much pressure on themselves when they aren't social interactions. The thing that it's a big deal, they have to master. They have to say the perfect world, the perfect behavior. But most people are not perfect, like no one is perfect. Everyone is perfectly in perfect. So even if you have the perfect behavior that does not exist, If you had the perfect behavior, the perfect word, it would freak people out. Because people are not used to perfection socially. People I usedto have a human in front of them, so don't put too much pressure on yourself. Try toe. Relate from one human to another human. So most people arriving an interaction and anything that the first interaction has to go well. Instead, see it another way. Just wall MMA. If you want to relax, just warm up. Just say that when you arrive in a new environment, you're just going to be there. Relax and talk to people to be in a talkative mood. So maybe don't start with the interaction that should really go well for example, with a boss or with someone that is really important. Warm up with other people with your colleagues with your friend. Try toe warmer before even before a nev ent. If you have no one to talk to, just call your friends and talk to him. It will start getting your in the in this mood in this talkative mood, and then it will decrease your stress level and you will become more comfortable. Also, when you are somewhere, try to relax. It means that try to see what you have tension in your body and try to let it go. Let's see that you have, for example, a tensed shorter. You just imagine that you the tension is leaving your body and you try to relax. You try to let the tension go, and you will see that it will relax you instantly. You can also focus on briefing. Most people don't breathe. It's incredible. The stress and then the stop breathing instead what you should do, breathe deeply so that it can relax. You you can really breathe. It means that you inhale like the nose, and then you can exceed. If you breathe with you. Deal with your belly, it will be even better because it will be really able. It will really relax you in the air. We really go through your entire body. So try to do that before approaching. You can breathe a few times. And also even when you are in a new direction, remember to breath deeply. Because when you are stressed, will always try toe block our briefing. So remember toe with and you will see that it will relax you. So with this advice is he I encourage you to select one that you think will really improve your confidence and so that it will make you more comfortable and go out today and apply. Try this advice is and see how they work for you. 14. Day13: Love Yourself: Now let's discuss how we can love yourself. So if you want to love yourself, there is one aspect that we should take care off, which is are you comfortable in your own skin? So if you're indecision in direction, you're you're interacting with people. Are you comfortable with the way that you express yourself? Are you comfortable with your body? Because if you're not comfortable with your body when you are in a social direction, it's not something that will really help you socially. So let me explain the reason exercise that I would like to share with you here that will make that you will be 100% comfortable with your butt. So I included you to go naked in front of the mirror. So don't do that. If you at work, I don't want to be responsible for anything. You do that when you're home or somewhere quiet. You are 100% naked in front of them. Your and then you have a look at yourself. You have honest look at yourself because this is the body that you have. This is the body that you have right now. This is how you look how you express yourself to the world right now, so I know that there may be uncomfortable feelings, but just have a look and just accept who you are right now. Just see who you are. Then I would like you to ask yourself three questions. The first question is, What do you like about yourself? Because you want to start boosting your self esteem and self worse. So start asking this question. What do you like about yourself? Is it your hair? Is it your eye color? Is it your muscles? Is it the fact that you are that you are a toll? What do you like about yourself? And don't tell me, Alan, have nothing that I like about myself. Try to find at least three. If you're 5 10 20 The more you have, the better it is. But let's say three minimum. And then I would like you to ask yourself another question. What are the thing that you don't like about yourself and that you can improve? Let's say that you think that you are overweight, so and it's something that you don't like about yourself. You could say, OK, I don't like that about myself so I could improve it. And I would like you to take notes off three things that you don't like about yourself and that you can improve. Maybe you don't like you here. Maybe you don't like that data. You try to find three things that you're not really comfortable with and that you can improve. And then you take action to improve it. Because what's really great here is that there are things that you don't like and you can improve. Let's say that you don't like your hair dressed school. You had dresser and book an appointment. Let's say that you want to lose weight. Just say OK. From now on, I'm going to eat healthy and I'm going to go to the gym. Try to take action after you have decided what you want to improve, and you would see that even if you take daily improvements or small improvements, you will become a better version off yourself every day. Now, the third question is, what are the things that you don't like about yourself, but you cannot improve. Let's see that you don't like the shape off your nose if they if it's something that you cannot improve. Accept it because there is no point off leaving your whole life with something that you're not comfortable with and something that you cannot change. You cannot do something about it. Why don't you accept it? Because if people can make fun of your give you an uncomfortable look is because you still have not accepted the things that you don't like about yourself and that you cannot change if you accept the fact that maybe you have a knows that you don't like you will become a comfortable except the things that you cannot change. So with this Muir exercise here, the three questions here are making you a better of Russian off yourself. You boosted yourself force by asking, What do you like about yourself? Then you are improving yourself by asking the question, What don't you like about yourself and what can you improve? And now you are taking action to improve yourself. And the third question is, what are the things that you don't like about yourself and that you cannot improve so that you can accept them and finally be comfortable in your own skin? So this is an exercise that I really encourage you to do even if it's for a few minutes. Just go do it. Even if you don't want to do, you can say, OK, I don't want to do with my whole body. I just want to do with my face. Do it, do it, try it and you will see the fact that he has. Because next time that you will be interacting with people, you will be comfortable. You would be comfortable in your own skin. You'll have accepted what you had to accept your improving what you want to improve and you will know yourself worse. See you in the next video. 15. DAY 14 WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU: what people think off you. We all have this fear. We are always wondering What is this person thinking off me? What we this person say If I do that, it's a fear that everyone has. But let me tell you this. You cannot control what the person is going to think about you. It's sen illusion. What? Alan? I thought I could control the people thought of me. You can't let me explain why. Let's see that we're having any direction. Most people think that I can control what you will think of me. But that's not the case because I don't control 100% off the interaction. I only control 50% so I can control my 50%. But that cannot control your 50% which is how you're going toe interpret what I said what I did. I cannot control that. Let's say that tonight I go to a bar and then I approach again and I give her a compliment . One girl can say, Oh, I love you think amazing and the other person could say, Go away. I don't know how the person is going to react, but what I know is how I can express myself. And yes, there are things that you can express yourself with. That we'll give a better result socially. But most of the time we don't really know how people are going to react. What I know is what I have in my 50% is my 50% of the direction, which is my charisma, my communication skills. What I say, what I do, my passions, my interest. And then I walked through the world with that. I'm walking every day with my 50%. I cannot control how people are going to perceive me. Let's say that someone wants you to do something and then the other person wants you to do something. Then they you know the person. I want you to do another thing. What do you do? You cannot please everyone. You can't focus on what you really want. Focus on your 50% okay, because that's what will really send your life. And you will see that if now you just think about the 50% you go when you approach someone or you have an interaction. You see, what can I control here? This interaction Oh, it's only my 50% and then you relax and you start focusing on things that you can control. So maybe you improve your communication skills, your social skills, your jokes. You don't know how the person is going to react. You know that there are some jokes that work better than other. OK, so then you remove the one that don't work. But still, you cannot control how the person is going to react. Let's say that you have to give a presentation you cannot control if everyone is going to like your presentation, but you can give the best that you can. You can give the best presentation. You can maximize your 50%. You can maximize the way that you deliver the presentation, the content, the body language and everything, and then let the other person decide how your presentation waas. You will see that if you do that, it will really decrease your stress level. Focus on what you can control and focus on your 50% because it's an illusion to think that you can control and micromanage what people would think of you 16. Day15: Being Shy Socially: how to be less shy socially. So let me tell you this. Sadly, there is no magic people, but I want to give you a process so that every day you can become less shy, social. Let's take the example off the popular kid. When he was a kid, he was always testing things. He was always testing communication skills and social skills, so he was able to get the social references that he needed the positive social reference rinses that he need. That's why now the popular kid is not shy anymore because he was able to understand how to behave socially. So if you're watching this video and you are still shy socially, it means that maybe you didn't have enough so shut experience or you had bad social experience. Now how can you get this social experience here if you're an adult and you are watching this video, don't try to get experiences that are too far away from the comfort. So let's say that you are shy and you say Okay, I want to approach the table off 15 CEOs and make it amazing. There are high chances that you won't be able to handle it So if you do something that is to outside of your comfort zone, it will then give you a negative reference off. Oh my God, I would never do that again. What you want. Instead, it's to take small action, small daily actions that are a little bit outside. Off you come photo. Let's say that you are shy and you cannot approach people. Maybe tomorrow you could go on the streets and just ask for direction. Or then the day after, you could ask for the time. The day after you could ask someone an opinion you can see here you want to take daily actions so that it will improve your confidence and give you the social references so that you don't need to be shy anymore. Now there are two questions that you must ask yourself after every social interaction. The first question is, what did you do well in the It isn't direction, and the second question is, what can you improve next time? Because we don't want to tell ourselves. Oh my God, it was awful. I did. I did so many things wrong. That's not how you will build confidence and build a shy you must focus on the positive and what you can improve, because basically, the what you can improve is the what you did wrong. But in the positive Wait. So ask yourself the question. What did you do well and what can you improve next time? After every approach, after every networking event, after after every socially direction that you have after every presentation that you gave, Ask you seventies two questions here and they and take small daily actions because at the end, after one year after one month, you will add all the small actions and it will be a lot off actions. And this a lot of questions. A lot of actions off positive references will make that you will be less shy socially, so there is no magic peel, but there is a magical process that you can use and that you will become less shy. So don't be afraid to experiment. Don't be afraid to try things out. That's how you will become socially successful. And don't put too much pressure on yourself because if you are shy socially, try to start slowly. Don't press yourself. Give yourself the gift of failure that sometimes will happen, you will try something, and it will be a little bit awkward just right, as you didn't have the experiences or the good experiences when you were child. Now it's time to get them. And if you is, the advice is that I'm giving with the schools. You will be able tow, minimize the failures and minimize the awkward moments so we'll be able to build yourself your social confidence and become less site. 17. Day16: Positive Body Language: So now let's discuss how you can have a positive 40 language. So first I would encourage you to have your hands open. I don't have a closed posture. Have an open body language, which is your arms are here. You hands are here. You are talking and you are relaxed. You see the difference here. It's not crossed. He's the first advice. The second advice is tried to put a smile on your face. Try to have a great energy inside your body, and then it will manifest itself here with a smile so you don't need to be smiling like that. But just have a small smile. Will really help when you interact with someone and try to have a relaxed face. Because sometimes people are really stressed here and there just interact like that than to say I am. I'm Alan. Try instead to have fashion expressions and try to have a small smile when you interact with people. Now let's discuss about the feet, so if you're a woman you can cross your legs or not. I think it does not really make a difference. But if you are man, I don't really encourage you when you are standing up to cross your legs Instead, try toe, Have them the lengths off your shoulder. Okay? If it means that if my shoulders are here and if you draw a line to my feet that would be here. There will be at the shoulders lengths. OK, so then you can really be stable than it can really talkto people now also try to have the gesture that are not really like that. Yes. You see what I mean? Try to have control dressed that are always positive. Don't talk and be like that. You know what I want. I want to be here today to try to have the hands that a little bit open When you talk, always think about giving. If you think about giving it will open your body language and you will open up and you will have a positive body language Because you cannot give and be like that They I want to give to people You can't say I want to give it immediately. Your body language changes that it can become positive Now I would like to share with you a taking here that you can have a positive body language because even when you are at social situations, sometimes that can happen that you don't really know you are a little bit uncomfortable or you think that there is something off. You feel that there is something off with your emotions. So first you change your emotion, you change how you feel, how you first focus on something that was great on positive emotions. You can remember a great memory, and then when you have this positive emotions in your belly, you amplify it through your whole body. Then you would see that you cannot have a negative body language and have great emotions in your body. You see how where it is now? I have great emotions in my body, and I have, ah, negative body language. Do you see how bizarre how weird it is? You can so you can send your body language and it will change how you feel. So it means that you can use the advices I gave you here to send how you feel. But you can also change how you feel, and then it changes your body language and I encourage you to change first your emotions because then all the micro expressions. Everything will be aligned with your positive emotions. So basically, if you want to have a positive body language, feel positive emotions first and then you you body language will become positive. These the secret feel good emotions first. And as you are seeing almost every video, I say, feel good emotions and everything will happen. That's the case when you feel good emotions, your fashion expressions, your smile, your eye contact, everything will be aligned with the good emotions, and people will feel this. Good emotions and people will like you for that, so feel good emotions and you will have a positive body language. 18. DAY 17 CONFDIENT BODY LANGUAGE: So now let's see how you can have a confident body language. So if I ask you to picture someone who is low confident, how would you picture this person? I'm sure that you picture someone like that. So how did I know that you picture someone like that? Because we know how someone that is low, confident looks. We know how this person looks. And if we know how this person looks, we have the emotions that are associating with that. It means that if you want to have a confident body language, you should do the opposite off someone who is so confident. So if I ask you this question, how would your self confident self behave? Imagine that you had 100% confidence. How would you How would you post your baby? And I'm sure that you will answer that your shoulders are back. Your chest is open your head straight. You have great facial expressions. You express yourself with your face and it's incredible because if you ask yourself this simple question, how would my 100% confident posture be? Imagine that I have what I waas 100% confident. Hold my post to be, and then you immediately change it to a confident posture and you will see that you will also have the confident feelings because the feelings, the emotions that you feel come with the posture that you have. You cannot disconnect the to the come together so you can sense your confidence level dressed by asking you said this question. How would my confidence self behave? What would his supposed to be? And then you adopt the posture of someone who is confident and you will see that your confidence level would increase. I also requires you to use dispatcher this confident posture all the time when you wake up when you are walking down the street, be used to have this confident posture because you would see that it will really send your confidence level. 19. Day18: Eye Contact: Now let's talk about eye contact. Let's say that I'm talking to you and I'm sharing a story about yesterday I was in London and then it happened. You see how uncomfortable it is when I not maintaining eye contact with you and it is really uncomfortable because you may think that I'm not caring about you. I'm not interested in what you are saying. I I'm bored or you are boring. You see here that if you don't maintain eye contact with people, people can have a really negative feeling about it. We say that I contact. We say that eyes is the windows off this out. It means that you can see anything through eyes, but you can also communicate emotions. You can communicate yourself. You can communicate for your eyes. Now I know you may say Island, that I'm not really comfortable maintaining eye contact, So let me give you this technique. It actually it's my girlfriend who gave me this technique, she said. Instead of looking directly into the eyes, you can look at the eyebrows and you won't be able to see the difference. When she told me that I like that's not possible and then we tried. So it means that she looked once in my eyes and once in my in my eyebrows at my arrows, and she didn't tell me when she was looking at my arrows. And when she was looking at my eyes, I was not able toe say the difference because you cannot perceive the difference if someone is looking at your IRAs or if someone is looking at your eyes. Yes, it's better if you look at the ice. But if you are shy and you like toe, get used to maintain eye contact, you can look at the eyebrows and the person won't see the difference. Now should you stare. How long should you maintain? Eye contact is a question that I always have. So when you are talking, I encourage you that 75% of the time you just look directly into the person's eyes. So it also not sure if your eyes are go up down on the right. On the left, it's your eyes are accessing different areas off your brain, so it's not sure that they go here. Here. Here. It's natural, but I would say 75% of the time you look into the person's eyes and then, naturally, you will see here that my eyes will go up and down to just think about what I want to say. But most of the time I'm looking directly into the person's eyes. Now when I'm listening, I really included uto. Look into the person's eyes. Yes, all the type. Most people can get a little bit uncomfortable with that. So there is a ticking. If you were just listening to someone and you're looking directly into the person's eyes and you see that the person is a little bit uncomfortable, it can be either because your face is a little bit. How would I say that the expression on your face can before the creepy or are stressed? Just try to have a relaxed face and a positive and outgoing face, or it can be also that the person is not used to have someone that is as confident as you. So you just look a little bit to the side. Let's say that you are talking, so I'm just listening. I'm just looking into your eyes, and then if I see that you're a little bit uncomfortable, I would just look to the right break eye contact and then come back. Same thing here you can do to the right or to the left. Now don't look down because it's a sign that shows that you're not really confident if you look down and shows that the other person dominates you, so it's not a re great direction to look at. So do that. Try that with a friend, because sometimes it can be a little bit awkward if you're not used to maintaining eye contact. So try that with a friend. Try this technique. You look at the IRAs and instead of the eyes, and you see if your friends can notice the difference. Then when you talk 75% of the time you look in, tow the person's eyes, and then you have 25% where your eyes go up, down, let them go where they want to go. And when you are listening to someone, you can maintain eye contact all the time. And if the person is not really comfortable, you just look to the right and to the left or to the left and to the right, and that's it. That's how you can maintain amazing eye contact and how you can share your good emotion. Share who you are with the other person because there are a lot of information that you can get just by looking into someone's eyes. So if you have great emotions inside you, if you have great energy, a great vibe, great emotions the person will be able to perceive that. 20. DAY 19 SMILING: smiling. So it's just smiling social interactions. People will think that you're open minded. That's what warm that you are friendly. They would have really great feelings about you. But now there is the right way to smile and the wrong way to smile. If you want to smile because you want to make an impression, you want to micromanage the impression that someone is going to have. If you want to get something from the other person. Let's imagine the cheesy salesman he wants to get something from you, so he'll be smiling at your jokes. He'll be always smiling, always trying to make an impression. Is it attractive or not? Not really attractive, but now you may say Yes, Alan, But you did. Smiling is great. Smiling is great, but you must be careful because if you smile because you want to make an impression, you want to micromanage things you want toe. Get something from someone you want to be like. You have this forced smile on your face. It can come across as something off if instead you focus on smiling because you want to smile because you want to express your your inner smile. That you have because you think that a joke. It's funny because you are happy to see someone because you're just happy. If you want to smile just because you want to smile, then the your smile become authentic and people will think that you're really charismatic and open. Mind it. So you see here the difference. You can smile, but once mine is forced because he's trying to get an impression and the other smile is just an expression off yourself. So I encourage you to develop the smile. That is the expression off yourself. So next time that you are smiling, ask yourself this question. Are you smiling because you want to smile? Are you smiling because you want to make an impression and get something from someone and be like, Why are you smiling? Okay, now the people who we say, Helen, I don't like the way I smile. I say, Okay, friend off. Just go in front of a mirror and smile and smiled to see if you like your smile or not and try to find the best mile etiquette. So maybe you don't like to smile like that. Or maybe you want to smile just like that, or maybe in between. Try to find a smile that you like and that you are comfortable with, so that next time that you will be in a social interaction, you will know how you look and you will be comfortable with your smile. So it's important toe be at ease and be comfortable with the way that you smile and then express yourself freely. Express this mind because you're happy not because you want to make an impression and you will see that people will really have this feeling off warmth and friendliness that comes from you. 21. DAY 20 MAGNETIC PRESENCE: How can you have a magnetic presence? So maybe you have already been in a situation and you went directing with someone and there was something special about this person. There was something that you were drone into. You were really amazed by this person by the energy. And we were something that waas clicking something that you said, Oh my God, discretion is interesting. There is something interesting about this person, and it can be, and most of the time it's because the person waas 100% presence. Let me explain nowadays, when we're interacting with people were always worrying about things. We're always thinking about so many things. We have this one here that makes us that we multi task a lot. We are always focusing on too many things. So when we have an interaction, we struggled to really be with the person to really be aware, be 100% present in the direction. So what most people do is that there are not fully listening to what the person is saying. But there are worrying about how the other person is going to perceive them. There are worrying about what to say next and they are not listening to the conversation. They are thinking about the laundry. They are thinking about something else, and we can for if you that there is a distance between the people that are talking if they're not fully present. So if you want to become charismatic, you must be present. It means that you must fully listen to the conversation fully. Listen, it means that you must listen to what the person is saying. Don't think about what to say next. If you are worrying about what to say, next is because you're not fully listening to the conversation. If you fully listen to the conversation, then you will get the information. We get information that you can use toe. Continue the conversation, so be 100% present. Fully present and listen fully to what the person is saying. You know the words. You must be 100% there with the person. Also, if you struggle toe, be 100% present. Try toe. Bring the sensations back into your body. You can do that by feeling the weight off your tongue. Let's try that right now. Feel the weight off your tongue and try not to be present. If you feel the weight of your tongue, that's almost impossible not to be present. So next time that you are directing with someone just for a few seconds, you feel the weight off your tongue and you bring the sensations back in your body and you will see that immediately after that you will be 1% present and you will have a magnetic presence. So try that next time you will see that it will really help you. Now, if you want toe become even more present, you can meditate daily. I encourage you that you meditate for a few minutes, even if it's one of two minutes. But eight. That's good. It will help you just sit on a chair. You close your eyes and you focus on your breathing. Your focus on your sensations off your body and you try toe empty your mind. If you gets used to have an empty mind, which is when you are present, it will really help you social, but if you don't want to meditate, that's okay. Just apply the advice off, feeling the weight of fit on when you are in social directions and be full present. Listen to what the person is saying. Be there with the person. Imagine that the person is the most important person on the world. How would you treat this person? You would listen to what the person is saying. See you in the next videos. 22. DAY 21 MOST INTERESTING PERSON IN THE ROOM: how to become the most interesting person in the room. There is one thing I think that I would like to share with you here, and that will completely change the way that you interact with people. Most people, when they are interacting with someone, they ask the questions. Where you from? What do you do? All the basic questions, and then they will get basic answers. It means that they will get automatic answers. Because if I ask you this question, where are you from? What do you do? I'm sure that you have generic answers that you give to everyone. So if you give the answers that you give to everyone, you can see that it's not great to stand out. Even if you have a great energy and you ask the basic questions, you would still have the basic answers. So it's great. But now, if you really want to be really interesting and be the most interesting person in the room , you should trust some your questions in tow statements. Basically, it's a guessing game lets me explain. Instead of asking where you from, you could say You look like you are Swedish, you look like you are German. You look like you are from South America. So instead of ST where you're from, you can say you look like you're from South America or you look like you are from Germany. I'm all right. The person will then say, Oh, yes, you are right. How did you know? Or the person would say, No, I'm from this country. Why did you think that? And what's really great is that as you are not giving the generic questions, you won't get generic answers and the person will be intrigued. Will be curious about why you said that. So even if you found weather where the person is from or you didn't, it doesn't really matter. It's what matters that it's a challenge. Games, a guessing game. So if you use that issues sentences instead off questions, it will really help you and bring another dimension to the interaction. Let's say that you want to ask, What do you do? Instead of asking, what do you do? You can see you look like someone who works in a creative environment. I'm all right. You can see it brings another dimension, and as long as you are saying that you are guessing and you don't have bad intentions. You only have good intentions and you don't want to hurt people. You can guess, and people will interpret it positively. They will say, Oh, yes, you are right or no, you are not right. But it's always with great energy, and it will add your social value. Okay, So I encourage you to try to transform the the questions that you ask the basic question that you ask and transform them into guessing sentences so you could transform everything into you look like you look like you look like you're Spanish. You look like you work in a creative environment. You look like you data and then you write, you can even write down sentences. You think about people that you would like to approach, and then you can write down the you look like instead of the questions. You can practice that home and then you transform them into statements and, yes, off course, don't use three sentences. Don't use a long time the sentences in on interaction. Maybe it's better to ask the basic questions and then one or two times in the interaction you use these guessing sentences, but it will really add another dimension to your interactions. Also, if you want to become more interesting, become more interesting. It means that try to learn a new skill. Try to network with people that have high social value. Try toe. Have more passions. Try to have more interest. Try to learn new skills everyday. Try toe goto away wine tasting degustation. Try to go to an art exhibition event. Try Tau Bay like James Bond. Try to learn many skills and be curious about the world and try to improve yourself daily. If you go and you try to improve yourself daily and you go to bed a little bit smarter than when you woke up, you want you really become more interesting so he can use his advisers to become more interesting. 23. DAY 22 MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU: how to make people like you. So what I want to share with you here is something that I use all the time, and it really works. When you ask someone how an indirection waas, they will remember how they felt about the direction, not what was said in their direction. In other words, they would remember the emotions that they felt during an indirection, not what was said in an interaction. So you can use that at your advantage instead of talking about everything that is going wrong in the world right now, you could ask questions that we trigger a positive emotion in the person's. But let me explain, you could ask, What do you like to do for fun? But are you passions and interest what you like to do when you have free time? All it? These questions here well, trigger a positive emotion in the other person's body. So if you ask that question, that positive question and then you talk about what the person is saying, you will be able to generate positive emotions between you two, and then at the end, the person will remember how they felt in their interaction, not what was said. So when I approach people, I always ask a question, such as What do you like to do for fun? But what are you passionate interest? Or what do you like to do when you have free time? And then I talk about that and I amplified it. Let's say that the person says that the person likes to play tennis. I will talk a little bit about tennis, but yes, if you really don't like playing tennis, don't be inauthentic and talk about tennis. You know, you must also use this technique because you want Tito have a great interaction with someone. Don't manipulate someone because you say that. Okay, the person explained. Tennis. I don't like playing tennis, but I'm going to talk about playing tennis and say that I like playing tennis just because I want to generate positive emotions. Be careful with that and then you talk about it. You try. You ask this positive questions and you talk about it, and that's how people will remember you. People will remember how they fet everyone lives, talking about the passions and interest and what they were, what they like to do when they have free time. Everyone likes talking about that so they will generate positive emotions. Try to use that and let me know how it goes, but I'm sure that the results will be amazing. People will really love hanging out with you because you see the difference between someone who I only ask the boring questions or will only ask questions or negative questions. Then people won't really have emotions, but if you trigger dis positive emotions, people will remember you. 24. DAY 23 POSITIVE EXPECTANCY: now the technique I would like to share with you here. It's called positive expectancy. So it's something that will really boost your social success. Basically, it means that just before approaching someone, you're not going to say, Oh my God, I will be rejected all this negative stuff. But instead you are going to visualize for a few seconds, the interaction going well, so it means that you will have a positive a sense off, positive anticipation in your body. So next time that you are the networking event that you have a job interview that you want toe interact with someone just for a few seconds, you imagine the interaction going well. You close your eyes if you want for few seconds, or even with your eyes open, you just imagine it going well. We imagine the person lighting you. Imagine the person saying great things. You imagine the person laughing at your drugs. You imagine it going well and getting what you want, because that's what makes the difference between someone who is socially successful in someone who is not the person that is not socially successful. We just approach, and the person that is socially successful Well, just for a few seconds. Imagine and visualize. It's going well, and for a few seconds it changes everything because it will give you a get regular a signal to your brain that you're in. The direction is going well. So then it has higher chances off going wept. Try that and let me know how it goes. 25. DAY 24 ENERGY EXCHANGE: Now let's discuss a little bit about energy exchange so you could really make yourself memorable. How do you do that? So when you're interacting with someone, the reason energy exchange because we will exchange energy between two people. Now what you can do is that you can consciously decide to have a white energy positive energy in your belly. And then you just imagine that the channel between you and the other person that opens up and then you throw this white and positive energy into the other person and the other person will feel this energy, this white and positive energy. And the person will be really amazed and will feel different feelings. Different positive feelings because the reason Energy extension and country three it means that if you interact with people, energy will be extent. But if you consciously do that and throw would energy good, positive energy, the person will receive so much good and positive energy that the person can even blush. It's incredible to see that either person can't even brush and and then you become memorable because remember people who will remember how they felt in an interaction, not what was said so try that. You can try that with your lover, with friends, with your family. Try that you have the white energy here, the white and positive. You just imagine it the white and positive energy. New belly. You have a channel here that you open. You imagine that China opens and then you throw this energy to the other person. And then the person will be really pleased by this energy. Try that and you will see that you will be able to really stand out and become memorable. 26. DAY 25 BEFRIEND THE LEADER: befriend the leader and ask to be introduced. So it's something that you can do is tow. When you arrive in the room you dressed. Try to find the leader. You try to find the person that appears to know everyone, because if you approach, then this person look. This person has higher chances off talking to you because you see that it's a social person . But also you can then ask this person toe, introduce yourself to other people because it's easier to start interaction with someone if someone introduced you to a person, or if you say that you know someone in the environment because it means that you are someone that is safe. You are someone that know someone here. So by default you should be safe. Because if you approach them on and no one knows you and you don't know anyone, it will be a little bit more difficult. You will have a little bit more resistance at the beginning, but if you don't know anyone in an environment, it doesn't have to prevent you from approaching. I thought I want to illustrate here that sometimes it's better toe. Ask someone to introduce yourself to other people or to even say that you know someone in this environment you can say I'm Marc's friend. Oh, I'm here because I know Mark and I know him. Sometimes it's better to say that at the beginning because it will be the more trust between you and the in the person that you are interacting with the you want to make your life easier. So try that. Try to find the leader, the connectors, people who? No, almost everyone. And don't be afraid to ask them. It's normal, Toe asked someone Hey, can you introduced me to disperse it? It's really normal. People do that all the time. And then you woke with the person to the person that you want to talk to. And then the person to just stay here is my friend Mark. He's from the marketing department or he is my best friend. I would like to introduce you to him. I'd like to introduce him to you. You can see here that it really it really works and it will make your life easier if you are introduced rather than just you go and you approach without knowing anyone. So try that. Let me know 27. DAY 26 VISUALIZATION FOR SOCAL SUCCESS: there is a powerful tool that I really wanted to share with you here. It's cold visualization. In other words, you could be laying on your bed. You could be sitting on a couch and you could be having social success. How great is that? First, I would like to tell you something. Our brain cannot see the difference between an experience that really happens and an experience that you imagined, because it's a powerful tool that we have up here. But in terms off experience that we have lived, if we imagine something in our brain, it will also count as an experience. So why don't you sit at our advantage? I encourage you to visualize your social success. Let's see that you have a situation where you want to improve your social skills or you want to become more confident. You just sit down in the chair. In the quiet environment, you close your eyes and then you visualize. You serve in that environment, a new visualize. Visualize yourself having social success. It means that you visualize yourself approaching. You visualize yourself making jokes and people like it. You visualize yourself getting what you want. It can be a new friend, business partner, girlfriend, boyfriend or whatever it is. You just imagine the complete sequence. You imagine the social interaction when you have you close your eyes close, and I also want you to feel the emotional intensity, the positive emotional intensity, because what you want here is tow wire. Rewire your brain toe. Focus on the positive emotions on the positive interaction that you are having. So that next time that you will be in a social interaction, you will remember that you already leave this interaction 10 times, 20 times 30 times and your brain will become more confident. So it's important to do that and to think positively. Don't think about the negative things. I think about the positive things and think about it going well. If you do that, you will see that visual ization is powerful. You have a presentation to keep. Imagine yourself giving the presentation. Imagine it's going well. Imagine that you are confident. Imagine that you know what to say. Imagine that the content that you have. Good. Imagine that you're charismatic. How would you behave? Imagine all of that. Imagine people liking it. Then you do that many times And then when you have to give the presentation, you brand are already leave the situation many times and as it waas positive, your brain will give you more confidence that you will be more confident when you will be in the social interaction. 28. DAY 27 TALKATIVE MOOD: how to be in a talkative mood in why is it important? Because if you have a social event and you haven't talked to someone during the day, it may become difficult. First, yes, you can still start approaching people in that environment. But what I want to encourage you to do is to talk to people during the day. It means that put yourself in a talkative mood during the day. You can call a friend. You can extend jokes with the cleaning lady with the bouncer with the waiter, with everyone just being this talkative mood because if you spend all the day on your computer, you don't talk to anyone and then you go out to a social event, you will be stressed. You will be in your head. You will be in the negative mood because how the associative have the social mood works is that you start talking to people, you talk to people and then you access a social mood and you know that to access the social mood here, you must start talking to people, and you should talk to people as much as you can during the day, even if it just to ask a basic question even if dressing high goodbye. But try to be social, the most of shell you are, the easier it will be for you. Toe access a state off. So shall success, I would say, because people who don't have social success it's most of the time because they are too much in the state. They spent too much time in a state where they are in their head. They're stressed, they're not confident. Instead, try talking to people and you will access this social success state. It's incredible. It will become more talkative. You will have more energy. You will be almost open, knighted all by talking to people and starting talking to people. Now, if you greedy, can't talk to people during the day and then at night you have a social event. Try to, for example, cola friend before one hour before you call a friend so that you I This talkative mood is something that you should really get the habit off developing the social dis talkative mood by talking to people through the date. Try it and you will see the energy that you would have, and it will completely change the way that you interact with people 29. DAY 28 FEAR OF FAILURE AND FEAR OF REECTION: now like to discuss the fear off failure and the fear off being rejected. Everyone has these two fears the fuel failure. Instead of seeing that as a failure, try to see it as a learning opportunity in the next time that you will be trying something socially. I don't see that as a failure. If something bad happens, see that as a learning opportunity so that you won't be afraid to failing more because you will be learning and you will want to have social interactions because you really want to learn. Now, with the fear off being rejected, we all would have that. We want to be loved. We want to be liked. We want to be accepted. But sometimes it's great to be rejected. Sometimes it's great that the person says no. Sometimes it's great that the person says no. Why? Because first you cannot please everyone. We think that we have to be accepted by everyone, but there are people that we don't have an affinity with. It means that we don't click with this person, or maybe that's not the right business partner. Or maybe that's not the right boyfriend or girlfriend. So rejection is good rejection is good, in a sense because it make you save time. If that's not the right person for you but also rejection. I know that it can hurt. I know that it can hurt. And what I want to tell you with that is that sometimes you shouldn't interpret it personally because you approach someone. The person rejects you first. You cannot control 100% of the interaction you control your 50% and then the other person controls. There are 50% so don't take it personally because you could have amazing 50%. It means that you express yourself freely. You have good communication skills, social skills, and then the other person is maybe not in a great mood. Maybe it's not the best day. So what end up happening is that they don't reject you, but they reject you because off their personal situation. So if someone reject you, don't take it personally. Now, if someone rejects you and you see that you have many rejections and it's always when you say something when you do something, maybe you should take that into account since see that maybe you can improve it, because rejection is also kind of a feedback. What I wanted to show you here in this video is that rejection is something normal. Everyone gets rejected and dejection can be good because it can save you time. And sometimes rejection is not about you, but it's about the other person. Maybe the person is having a bad day. Or maybe the rejection is to give you some feedback about something that you are doing wrong. So you should see many times that you get the same ejection after you said or did or did something. Maybe you should improve it. 30. DAY 29 SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THE RIHT PEOPLE: who you surround yourself with will have an impact on your social success. A few years ago, I was surrounded by friends by people who were not really supporting me. I wanted to approach someone. I wanted to do something socially, and then there were not trying to support me. They were trying to put me down there, were laughing. They were making fun of me. So as a result it was really difficult to improve my social skills. And then I changed my friends, two people who were really like supporting me, and as a result, I was able to develop better social kids. What I want to encourage you here is to try toe, find people that can really bring the best out off you. There is a quote that says that we are the average off the five people that we hang out the most with. But if there are people that you cannot really change, it is that you have to spend time with your boss or you have maybe to spend time with people that maybe are not bringing the best out of few. Try to find friends, try to find people that can support you and try to surround yourself with those people. Try to get as much people as you can in life that can support you because that's how you will be able to develop better social skills and have an environment that will help you. There is no point off trying to develop better social skills. If you have negative people around you that are always trying to put you down, you are losing your time. Try to find people that will bring the best out off you. 31. DAY 30 ULTIMATE CHALLENGE: so welcome Here is the multi mate challenge. So the challenge of like to give you here is to approach five people that you always wanted to approach to interact with people that you were afraid off approaching or that you wanted to start an interaction with but didn't know what to say, how to approach. So your challenge here is you have one week toe approach, at least five people that you always wanted to approach and start an interaction with. Because with this course here, I wanted to give you all the tools, all the social skills that you would ever need. So now it's time to put that into action. Because you bought this course, you wanted to get some results. So I really want to be sure that what you learned she discourse, you are able to apply it. Or maybe there I think that you still struggle with Let's say that you still have this fear off approaching or you don't know what to say in a situation. Just contact me, and I will help you because I really want you to get the results that you want it to reach the goal that you set when you enrolled in this course. So let me know. How is it going approach this fight? People use the content that I gave you here. If there is a video that you really liked or that's you really are intrigued by, it means that you really want to watch it again. Watch it again. I encourage you to watch it. But apply it applied so important to apply it in the real life because that's how you will get the results that you have always wanted. So let me know how it goes. Approach the five people that you always wanted to approach, starting in direction and let me know how it goes.