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4 Videos (25m)
    • Trailer

    • The Past: Relationship Audit (9:53)

    • The Present: Dating Canvas (8:52)

    • The Future: RFP (5:28)


About This Class

If you’ve ever felt like dating (or design!) is like magic, too complex, or a complete mystery, Dating by Design can help. This multi-disciplinary course will teach you a solid foundation of tools and techniques to help you start designing your ideal relationship.

We spend a lot of time perfecting our craft at work - striving for that 10,000 hours. But when was the last time you spent dedicated time on getting better at relationships?


Fig.1 The Diverge/Converge model of design applied to relationships

Perhaps because designers are often tasked with solving “wicked”, complex problems, the language of design provides many useful metaphors for exploring the complexities of modern relationships. By using design as a language to talk about dating and relationships, the conversation becomes more objective, and less subjective (aka less awkward).

This class will guide you through a design process to:

observe your past recognize your present challenges start designing your future relationships.

You will gain a deep understanding of your own relationship knowledge (your needs and wants), and the confidence to put your own strategy into practice and start designing your ideal relationship.

This course consists of 3 independent self-reflective mini projects. I’ll also share tips and inspiration through the video lectures. By the end of the course, you’ll learn how to:

-Identify your needs and wants
-Recognize your patterns
-Imagine a better relationship
-Close the wrong doors and open the right ones

Warning: This class is not for the faint of heart. You must be ready to consider your relationships with an open mind and an open heart. If you’ve ever tried speed dating, online dating, or blind dating, you’re definitely ready for Dating by Design.

4 of 4 students recommendSee All

homework asks you good questions for investigating where you're at and what you need
Enjoyed the instructor and ino. Also liked the interaction between students.
This class was really enjoyable and provided lots of food for thought. It also equipped the class with useful tools and techniques that I will certainly be taking forward in my life and relationships.





Ayla Newhouse

Creator, Dating by Design | Co-founder, 1THINGapp

Ayla Newhouse is a Communication, Interaction and "Attraction" Designer with 16 years of relationship experience ranging from misalignment to creative brilliance. She is the creator of Dating by Design, and the author of The ABC's of Dating by Design, which has been featured in the October, 2013 Design Issue of GOOD Magazine, and as the Pecha Kucha presentation of the day on July 1st, 2013.

Previously, Ayla co-founded a social gratitude journal that helps people recog...

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