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Beyond Goals and Good Intentions - Building Resolutions You can Keep.

John Starmer, Teach better, learn better.

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10 Lessons (45m)
    • 1. 1 Course Intro

      4:37
    • 2. 2 GoalvsResolution

      1:53
    • 3. 3 Mindset

      4:17
    • 4. 4 Failure

      1:43
    • 5. 5 Accountability

      3:15
    • 6. 6 Project Overview

      1:52
    • 7. 7 Project Resolution

      6:07
    • 8. 8 Project Objective

      5:14
    • 9. 9 Project Plan

      7:48
    • 10. 10 Project Retrospective

      7:45

About This Class

Have you ever set a goal or made a resolution (think back to last New Year?) with a solid conviction that this would be your time to change the course of your life for the better?

Perhaps you even shared this moment with your friends, loved ones, coworkers...

Then a few months later have you had the opportunity to wisfully, regretfully think back to that exciting moment of resolve only to shrug it off and carry on with life as usual? 

Believe it or not, its not you. Rather it is the approach that you learned about how to tackle challenges is getting in the way.  The idea that good intentions, high motivation and doing the things that are clearly (logically) in our best interest is a strange veneer that covers a seething psychological tug of war between short-term gratification and the long-term uncertainly of many of the goals we set for ourselves.

Even though things like improved health, learning, relationship building or finishing the unfinished are often truly in our best interest, it is also frequently remarkably difficult to start and often if we start, we find the momentum of that optimistic start is so hard to maintain.

In this class we will build short resolution cycles that side-step the psychological pitfalls of inherent in long term plans. Instead we will leverage our built in psychological preferences for the excitement around (little) new things and use that motivation to generate a habit cycle that will actually get us to our goal.

Transcripts

1. 1 Course Intro: a goal without a plan is just a wish. Wise words from Antoine de Saint Exupery, who you may know, is the author of the little Prince. This, to me is really the reason that many of us fail at things like New Year's resolutions and other big goals that we know, um would be really beneficial, possibly even life changing for us. Ah, and yet we just somehow lose that initial excitement and motivation that is present when we make that goal. Ah, and kind of see the whole thing fall apart. My name is John Starmer. Thanks for coming by and checking out this course that I'm teaching. Ah, I've been interested in the field of productivity and, um, personal performance and just basically, you know, how can I make myself a better person for a good eight years? I would say was, since I really started diving into this and I was really motivated when I was finishing graduate school, realizing I had done some cool stuff, I travel to some cool places all around the world on research expeditions. I'd, um, you know, gotten degrees. I done some neat things, and yet I was seeing people around me who were better at it than I was. Um, I felt that I had that capacity within me, and yet I wasn't living up to my full potential. So what was it that was making me missing the mark less consistently than some of my other friends and colleagues after diving into this for a number of years? Ah, one of the things that struck me is, although there's all sorts of awesome advice out there often, it's just sort of ah sound bite. It doesn't give you a real framework toe hang things off of. And the point of this class is to help you build that framework. One of the reasons that goals air hard are like the quote says They're lacking a plan. And to me that and through the course of this class, we're gonna build a plan and structure things so that you set yourself up for success. Um, without a plan, you're just sort of wandering around. You're not sure what's What's the next target? You have to hit. You're not measuring things. You don't know how far you've gone, and it becomes very easy just to get frustrated, feel like you're not making progress and drop things. It's also difficult to achieve goals when they're sort of frivolous. Often will will say, I wanna, you know, travel to Europe or I want to lose weight. But if you're not specific about things, um, the target isn't clear. You're not sure where you're headed, and that makes it just you're setting yourself up for a frustration. So the point of this class, like I mentioned, was to give you a framework that will set you up for success. And in the context of what we're gonna do, it's gonna be short. We're gonna go kind of get you started due the first week. But we're going to come up with a resolution which for me, is a goal plus commitment, and we'll get more into that in class. But you're gonna put some thought into it. You're gonna make sure it's the right goal. You're going to make sure it's something that's life changing, important audacious, that you can really get behind that lights that spark of excitement, Um, and that will carry you through times when things do potentially get difficult. Once you have that resolution, your big audacious goal ready to go. We're going to start chunking it up into smaller pieces. And that's one of the other keys is don't bite off more than you can chew. Figure out what you can do over the course of a week. Get really clear on that. Make sure it's the right thing to do the right thing to start with. And once you have that little objective for the week very clear in your mind you know what the target is. Then you're gonna make sure that you have a plan for the entire week. You're gonna knock out where and when and with who. Um, you're gonna connect to make sure that you achieve the task that you've set out for yourself for that week, repeating that process, taking a certain number of tests from this bigger goal. Um, getting clear on what they need to be, and then laying them out over the course of the week is really the process. And you're going to cycle through that over and over and over again. Um, until you finally get to your goal. So hopefully that makes sense. Hopefully, that's of interest. Um, and I would love to share what I've learned over the years with you. Ah, and and help you achieve your goals in the same way that this process has helped me achieve mine. So I hope I see in class. 2. 2 GoalvsResolution: Ben Franklin had, ah, personal diary that he used to keep track of 14 different virtues that he thought were the hallmark of a good individual, somebody that was meeting their potential. He was also frequently surprised or disappointed by how often he didn't meet his his goals on a daily basis. However, Richie for is he really gonna apply to what we're doing here? Resolved to perform what you ought perform without fail? What you resolve this to me is the difference between a goal in a resolution. Goals are very often those wishes that Antoine Exupery referred to. There are things that would be nice to do, things we'd like to do, but we don't really put them in the context that make them things that we have to do. So in the context of this course, we're gonna focus on resolutions which are similar to goals. However, in my mind, a resolution comes with a commitment. It may simply be a commitment to yourself, which is fine. It may be something that you share with others, but it is a statement of fact. It is. I will achieve this goal. I commit to achieving this goal. I will work my darkness to make it to the finish line. So with that in mind will talk less about goals and more about resolutions. But just understand that a resolution in my mind and in the context of this course is going to be a goal that we've committed to that we are driven to finish. 3. 3 Mindset: Now I'm going to come back to failure in just a minute. But this quote by Grant Cardone, who incidentally, went from being kicked out of his house and, ah, consistent drug addict through most of his late teens, early twenties to becoming a very respected and successful multi millionaire on his way to becoming a billionaire. Um, really grasped that the past while it can hold you back, if you treat it incorrectly, should not hold you back. Quit blaming your past for your current condition. Yesterday has nothing to do with today or tomorrow unless you decide it does bring a positive mindset. Realized that yesterdays failures are in the past, you're not going to relive them or make them better. They happened, but don't use them as an excuse for your future potential. Use them as a learning experience turned them from failures to teaching moments. I just realized that once you've made that failure, I made that mistake. You don't have to do it again. Learn from it, grow past it, do better. So bring a positive mindset. It might be difficult it might be challenging. It might be scary that this this goal this resolution you're setting for yourself. But if you come into it with a mindset that you're not sure you can do it or you don't think you can do it, you've kind of cut yourself needs at the beginning. Maybe you can't do it right now, but with practice with effort with learning, you will crush excuses. Get rid of those excuses. Some of the ways that we managed to fail when it comes to meeting our New Year's resolutions is we get to a point where we start making excuses, often blaming past failures, Um, blaming the business in our life for us not being able to make progress toe to meet our own obligations to being true to our word. So get excuses out of the way. You always have a choice. It might be that your your buddies come over and want to play basketball after work. Well, if you've made a commitment to yourself and you're gonna learn to play piano or you're gonna practice French and you have set that time aside to do that, stay true to your commitment. Don't sell yourself short on the easy thing. The fun thing that's there right now, and a lot of the things that make us busy, really in the big picture aren't that important. You don't need to make everybody happy. Make yourself happy first, and then you can make other people happy. So make the choice. That's best for you, not best for other people. And make the choice that's best for your long term. You not the immediate. I just wanna have fun. You make it for the U That sees the value of what you're embarking on. Really make that commitment to yourself. Be serious about it. If if you take it with a well, I don't know, we'll see how it goes. You have the wrong attitude. You have the wrong mindset. You really want to come in here and say, I'm going to crush this. I am going to do it. It might be hard for me. It might be outside my comfort zone, but I will give it my best. And I'm not going to let little things in life that I have control over that. I have choice over, uh, Dr the outcome of my resolution 4. 4 Failure: I said I would come back to failure. Failure to me is something that we under out undervalue and underestimate. Henry Ford said that failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently. Most people fail and truly fail because something doesn't work out and they give up. They start to use that past experience as an excuse for not trying again. There's there's the proverb of, you know, fall down seven times, but get up. Eight. Keep getting up. And as long as you've learned from those previous mistakes, you can embrace failure. It failure is no longer something to fear. Failure is no longer something to to avoid. Um, certainly we don't want to fail. We want to want to be successful. But if we can learn from the failure, say this is something I don't need to do again or, oh, now I understand the situation better. We've learned something and it turns into a positive. It might be unpleasant. It might be painful. It might be costly. I'm not saying that we want to fail. Let me be clear about that, but turned that failure to your advantage turn it from a net loss into maybe breaking even . Maybe something that turns out to be a net positive game and has always commit to your success. Don't use failures as an excuse. Um, say even in the face of failure, I will fall down seven times. But I'm going to get up that eighth time. Try again, and that's when I will succeed. So keep pushing towards you Go. 5. 5 Accountability: It's almost a fun fact that if you share your resolution with your friends family on social media, often it undermines your resolve to actually complete the task. And there been, um, some really solid studies done. They've been repeated. And, um, it seems like you're mind sort of feels like the positive feedback that you get from just sharing this intention, Um, is almost as good for your subconscious as saying, Hey, this is I did it. I don't really need to actually do the real thing. I got what I wanted out of it. Is people making me feel good and that's that's good enough. And it makes it that much more difficult to to actually achieve your your resolution, especially if it's something that's challenging. So I suggest you don't do that. Accountability, however, as Bob Proctor said, is the glue that ties commitment toe to the result. So internally you're committing to a result you're committing to get through this next week with a task that's going to move you towards your larger resolution and a really good thing , not just for this week but for the long term of this project is to get an accountability partner. Now, some people that have the money to spend on it, we'll get coaches that will serve as somebody that holds you to your standards. Um, but it's just a Z z to find somebody in your circle of friends that we'll serve in that role. Now, this might be your life. It might be your best friend, but often you will find people that care about you. Um, are perhaps not as hard as on you or as objective with you as you might need. So it doesn't hurt to kind of go down the wrong of friends and acquaintances a little bit to somebody who you comfortable sharing what your resolution is with. But at the same time, you feel will treat you as more of a client than necessarily as a good buddy. And you know, we'll take it easy on you. Um, in the course of this class, at least over the first week, I'm going to encourage you to share your resolution, your objective, and then come back and share with, uh, with a group how you did, and we will provide you with feedback and accountability. Um, and I hope you take advantage of that. Because this this will be a process where even if you can't get ah, outside accountability partner over this first week as you're getting started, Um, over the longer term, I hope you do track somebody down and avail yourself of that. Uh, because it's just one other little trick that will help push you towards your goal. You can be your own accountability partner if you if you feel you have it under control. But, um, this is a great way to get that extra little arm to make sure that you get to where you want to go. 6. 6 Project Overview: always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing. Abraham Lincoln. Now, you know that at this point that I feel that, you know, having resolve is super important. And the first thing that we're gonna tackle is that resolution we're going to get really clear on what your goal is. Why this is the right goal for you. Why, this is going to make a difference in your life on be life changing for you. Um, and really get at the why we're gonna end up with a thing a what you're going to do, but we want to dig into that. Why, First on get really clear that this is the thing for you to tackle. The next thing that we're gonna do is we're going to get at that objective. This is the thing that you're going to do or things that you're going to do over the course of the week that this course spans and you're going to get really clear on what that means . Is it the right thing to start with? Um, what are the pieces that you need to have in place? What are some of the logistics. Ah, just so that you are clear that, yes, it's the right thing to do. And I haven't been off too much from my big goal. And we'll get into the details that you can stretch a little bit, but we're going to do something that sets you up for success over the course of the week and then finally knowing what it is that you're doing, you're gonna create a plan for the week, and you're gonna get really clear about where and when and with who you're going. Teoh, tackle you this objective. How are you going to make this happen? Ah, and make sure things are very clearly laid out again. You don't You're not leaving things to chance. Um, you're planning things in advance. You're gonna look for some contingencies in case things don't go as planned. But that's just Sochi at being able to meet your goals over the course of the week or finishing up that objective. Okay, so that's an overview. Let's dive into it. 7. 7 Project Resolution: all right. Finally, it's resolution time. And I love this quote by Goethe was a German philosopher and poet and writer. Ah, Hugh. He who is firm and resolute and will molds the world to himself. Now think about this for a moment. Um, if you have a resolution, a goal, plus your commitment, that is really the right thing to do, it will be life changing and and through changing your life, your view of the world, your skills, your capabilities Ah, your knowledge. You can actually change how you interact with the world. The world actually changes to meet you. So learning a language can open up whole worlds of being able to connect with people that you just never thought you would before learning music or art can be transcendent. Um, changing your physical capabilities just becoming more fit, losing weight, learning a new, uh, sport or skill, and can open up doors that just were closed to you before you reach that goal. So I really want you to put some thought and foot to it. Be bold. Don't don't sell your short self short in this exercise. Think of something that will matter to you um And then finally, I want you to be specific. So don't just say I want to play guitar. Say, you know, I want to be able to play, um, heavy metal guitar, electric guitar and be able to play these three Metallica songs or something like that. Um, you know, be as specific as you possibly can so that you have a very clear goal about or clear understanding of what the goal is. Where is the end point? What are you gonna try and achieve here in terms of making sure that it's the right thing to do? I always go through this process that I call the three Wise, realizing that you may actually have a couple more wise in there. But it's basically the process of saying after you've put some thought into it. Why? Why is this the thing to do? Why is this the goal to aim for right now for me? Um and you should get an answer and then go through that again. Why is that the case? What? And once more, why is that the case? Hopefully, at some point, you get into something fundamental. Um, in my case, a time I'm recording this. I decided that I would go and run a marathon. And initially, when I asked myself the wise in this process, it was Well, um, you know, I haven't been running for a while, and I sort of want to get back into shape. And this seems to be the target. I've never done a marathon before. I've done five K's intent gaze. So this seems like the next logical step. Um, And then the next question, the why was Well, why? OK, so why start running? You know? Okay, you've answered the why the marathon. But why? Why start running now? And it came back to Well, I I don't feel like I'm in as good a shape I could be. Um, I'm overweight. I want to get more muscular and half a little more stamina. Um, okay, well, why Why does this matter? Um you know, obviously, I let myself get to this state for whatever reason and why. Why now? And, um, at that point, we started getting a little bit more riel because it was like, Well, you know what? Why do I want to be healthy? And, um that came down to me than thinking about my family and my kids. And, um, knowing that not being in shape is gonna impact my life span, Um, that I want to be around for my family was really what it came down to. And at that point, there's there's really a spark because you realize, wow, you know, I'm not just doing this for myself. I'm doing this for myself and my family, and there's nothing more important in the world to me than that. So that also, um, we'll help you as you get into situations where maybe your process becomes difficult and you're not sure that you want to continue on being able to look back and say, Well, look, you know, I have made progress. I'm feeling good about this. It's hard. But the reason that I'm continuing to go on is my family. Um, that's a lot more motivating than just saying, Hey, I've always wanted to run a marathon, right? So do this exercise. Um, I would encourage you finally to, um, in the very least, share your resolution again. Try and be specific about what exactly it is you're doing, and then go and look at other people's resolution in the forum and, you know, provide some feedback. This doesn't have to be negative. I hopefully you know how to do positive feedback things. Um, but if you think it's an awesome resolution, let people know that that pumps folks up. If you have something that you see is improvement provide solutions? Don't don't say, Hey, it's it's no good for this reason, think about how it might be improved, how it maybe it's not specific enough. Maybe you could say, Hey, this part could be more specific. It seems unclear. Something like that is always welcomed. Um, and then I would expect that folks would return the favor and provide some reviews for you as well. I will try my best to look at everybody's, um, resolutions in the course. I can't guarantee that I will always get to you, but I will certainly do my best to provide you some feedback as well. All right, so go ahead and do the work here When you are ready, post your resolution up to the, uh, up to the forum if you want to, Uh, you're more than welcome to post your wise as well. If you want to share that process. But you certainly don't have to understand. That might be something that that's private for you. We'll see you in the next lesson. 8. 8 Project Objective: divide each difficulty into as many parts as is feasible and necessary to resolve it. Grenada car from his discourse on method. Now, you've probably heard, um this idea in attributed to a number of different people I'm sure of Rene is not the first person that came up with it. Um, but this is a pretty fundamental idea. Breaking up a big problem Ah, into little pieces makes it much less scary. And you have much better visibility into something that small and manageable. Um, I mean, think about saying, Hey, I'm going to climb this mountain and not being able to see the top because because there's clouds. Goals are sort of like that. You don't necessarily see the entire path. You don't necessarily know the end goal. You might know it's out there, but you're not sure exactly what the path is, However, saying, Hey, I'm gonna walk from here to that tree is a much clearer and well defined sort of thing that it shouldn't be scary. Say sure, I can do that. That's not a big deal. It's very clear. I see there's a clear path. There's nothing in my way. Um, so this approach really makes it less scary to tackle your big goal. You don't have to worry about what's down the path. You'll get there and deal with it when you get to it. When it comes into view, um, and really focus on what's what's the next step for this week, and this is really what we're going to tackle. This objective. Ah, as I like to call it, is the set of tasks that you're going to achieve over this week. And like I said in the introduction, your week might be a five day week. It might be a six day week. It might be a seven day week. I like Teoh kind of take my resolutions by the throat and and hammer him the you know, every single day to the best of my ability and stay consistent. But understand that people have, ah, different definitions of what a weekend's consistency means. So what that is for you is up to you. But in terms of once you've defined the number of days that you're dealing with, figure out what you can achieve in those number of days, be really specific, OK, this is important is what makes your objective work for you rather than against you. Um, once you've come up with a set of tasks, give those tasks a reality check. Um, you know, why is this the right place to start? Have I for gotten anything? Is there something that actually needs to happen before I tackle these things? Um, what is it that I'm going to do? Hopefully you've sort of already addressed that. But then look at the how where, when and who? Um, if you're planning on doing some sort of Jim based training and you don't have gym equipment in your, uh in your house, maybe you need to figure out a gym that you conjoined or have access to it at school or something like that. Figure out, you know it. Is there a place that's accessible? If you're going to start participating in some sort of a team sport that's maybe requires a swimming pool or ah, sports field or sports court. Um, are those available in the area? Um, in terms of who, If you're doing a team sport, maybe you need to join a team. Is there one available in your area? Um, if you're starting on something which is maybe technically difficult. Maybe you need a coach. Uh oh. Are running, partner? These are all sorts of things to keep in mind. And don't forget about that accountability partner, if you're going to do that, and I would encourage you to find one. Um, even if you don't have one for this first week, maybe that's one of your tasks is to figure out the who that person is going to be, Um, and we'll get into the wen more. But also make sure that whatever you're proposing to do is going to be logistically possible in the context of what you have going on in the coming week. Um, if if you're looking at, ah, an activity that really takes four hours Ah, and you don't have a four hour slot in your week that's going to take some work in the planning section to figure out how that's gonna happen. OK, eso Same idea is we're we're gonna kind of figure out how this objective fix into the week in the next session. But for this, uh, exercise, we're just trying to figure out what are the tasks that you think are manageable over the course of your week, however many days that ends up being and put some thought into what the logistical requirements are gonna be. Is it really something that's feasible for you to achieve in this next week? Same deal. Once you have that a objective, defined feel free to share it in the forum. Look at other people's objectives. You might see some ideas of how they've structured it Or, um, how they thought about putting their objective together. That might inform you. And then, of course, I would expect that other students also give you some feedback on yours that will hopefully improve it. Okay, so have at it, and we'll see you in the next module. 9. 9 Project Plan: All right, We're almost there. It's time for the plan. In preparing for battle, I have always found that plans are useless. But planning is indispensable. Dwight D. Eisenhower. He was a famous World War two general end an American president, And he was certainly familiar with situations, not ah, going as planned. War time is certainly a very fluid environment, and you just you can plan as much as you want. Um, things probably aren't going to be play out the way you expected them to. So as you look at your plan, you already have an objective. You know what you need to fit into the week? One of the most important things to do is make space for this. So, um, you're taking on something new, so you're going to need to make sure that you have some time where you can focus on meeting your objectives day after day after day. And this might mean you need to wake up a little bit early, right? Ah, wake up half an hour early. Maybe before the kids start waking up and you need to break make breakfast on things like that. Um, it might be that you Ito shorter lunch and, you know, don't sit around the volunteer table on chitchat, but, um, used that time to move towards achieving your commitments for the week. Ah, perhaps you rearrange your schedule after work or you wait till the family has gone to bed and give yourself some time after that to focus on your objectives for the week. The important thing is that you make sure that this is a non negotiable Tell people look, this time is a blocks aside for myself. I'm not doing anything else. I'm not available, period. Um, I'm not gonna go play basketball. I'm not gonna go watch a movie. I'm I just cannot help people during this time. This is really time for myself. And that's that's super important. Ah, in terms of. But looking at the quote from Dwight Eisenhower realized that that life will quite possibly get in the way and mess up that plan. Um, you know, the reality is that the even if you set it in stone, somebody might come along with the chisel and change it for you. So have a backup. Um, you know, if you get up early, say well, if the kids woke up early and just got in the way. Um, maybe I can fit it in during lunchtime, But But think it through. What happens if if that time gets, um, you know, derailed for whatever reason. Or, uh, you know, maybe you're doing something online and the Internet's down think of of some backup plan so that Ah, you don't get sort of caught with standing there and uncertain about what the next step is taking. Taking time now where you're not under pressure is the best time to make those back up plans. The other thing that I would really encourage you to do. And like I said, I like to hammer my goals at least to some degree every single day. And that consistency is part of making that commitment to yourself and the commitment to achieving your goal A habit. Um, there you get to a point. If you can do this, that it won't feel right if you don't make some amount of progress on achieving your goal. Uh, so, like I said, I do seven days a week. Um, you can do however many you want, but if you can make it every single day, even if it's a stretch of five days during the week or what have you That's really going to make such a difference in terms of you staying engaged and not forgetting about it. And this is often one of the things when you just have these, um, goals without planning that you sort of start forgetting about it and you forget about it more and more and more. Um, and next thing you know, you've totally left it behind when it comes to what you're going to achieve, making it a little bit uncomfortable for this first week maybe isn't so important. This this week is really about building that the start building the consistency, being able to do something that you achieve and you can look back on Ah, and feel good about. But when it comes to next week in the week after in the week after that, I would encourage you to basically have two objectives. Um, have the objective that you are committing to and say this will happen this week. Regardless, I will make this happen. This is the the thing that, uh, I need to achieve to keep moving forward on my goal and then give yourself a stretch goal. Make it a little bit uncomfortable. Say, this is this is what I would like to achieve, Um, maybe with a little bit less. Ah, urgency. But getting outside of the comfort zone is really where you start accelerating your progress forward and it if you start hitting that more and more consistently, that will become your new normal, and then you can push yourself again. So, um, I would encourage you to do that for this week. Like I said, make sure that the pieces fit together, that you just succeeded being consistent. That's the most important thing. After this start pushing a little bit harder. You'll get to your goals faster. You'll see progress faster. And obviously that will keep your motivation up. Um, and your dedication to continuing down the path. The last thing I want to touch on is, uh, it's just a little bit of a hack, but it is born out by psychology, and that is give yourself a reward Every time you finish one of these sessions, Um, it can be simple. Is just thinking mentally to yourself. Oh, yeah, I did it. You know, Give yourself a little fist pump. Um, it could be saying OK, cool. I'm gonna, you know, watch uh, a few minutes of YouTube. I'm gonna read one of my favorite books. Um, I'm gonna go for a walk. It doesn't have to be a big thing. It doesn't have to be anything that costs. It's just something that reinforces the fact that you feel good about what you just achieved. And that reward is something that you will both look forward to. And it helps you say yes. I want to. Ah, it finished this task today so that I get my little reward. But it also then reinforces you that Hey, I did a good job. Even if it's self reinforcement, it still works. So just something to keep in mind. It might seem a little hokey to go and say, Oh, yeah, at the end of ah, workout session. Ah, that you are, you know, guitar practice or whatever it is, But it does help. It's been borne out by psychology. So just a little recommendation that I wanted to throw in here. Okay, So that same deal, um, work out your plan. Figure out when you're going to do what? Share it in the forums. Um, look at other folks. Plans provide them with some comments and hopefully folks will give you comments back. And with that, um, I'm actually going to cut you loose after this because you're ready to get started. So over the course of the week, like I said, focus on consistency. Follow your plan. Um, hopefully you've got those bake backup. So if things do go a little bit wrong that you can kind of manage them. And I look forward to seeing you in the next module in about a week and we'll go on, do a retrospective to see how it all went. 10. 10 Project Retrospective: Okay, so welcome back. I hope your week went absolutely perfectly that you hit all your ah goals for consistency for ah doing what you wanted to achieve and that you can look back and just say, Hey, this isn't that hard. I can continue on and make progress towards achieving this goal, which, in and of itself might be super audacious. But I know I can make these little steps that are gonna add up. Get me to my destination. Um, I realized that this may also have not been the case, and as a reminder that failure is not bad. I just wanted to start off with this quote. Failure holds the seeds for greatness. So long as he water those seeds with introspection. They can be the root of your successes. Wise words from Daniel Lubetzky. And this is really the key. A failure without introspection. Without reviewing and saying Well, why Why did this happen? How can I avoid it? That's a failure. But if we go back and look and say what failure isn't that bad? What? What? What did I learn from this? That's where failure becomes an asset and you know you will never make that mistake again. If it's out of your control, you're gonna figure out a way to get around those situations. In the future. It is in your control. You're going to say, Hey, look, you know, this was silly. That's something I could have changed and didn't. I'm not gonna let that happen again. Um, it's There's really an attitude towards um being willing to say that I am going to do this . I'm going to be dedicated. I have that integrity that's going to carry me through this regardless of what gets in my way and and failure. Having the right attitude about failure is one of the biggest things you can do to make yourself successful. Um, also, often I've heard of and seeing people that drop something because they failed. I've seen it in little kids. They try and shoot basketball on. They try once or twice or three times, and they can't make it because they don't have the arm strength yet. And they're like, Oh, I suck it basketball and they leave it at that. And I see adults to that as well. You know, it's like you. You haven't given it a proper try. You haven't tried to figure out why Couldn't I do that? You know, Did I not have the physical strength for that? Uh, and if you can identify, that is the problem. You can solve that. So again, have the right attitude. Um, realize that even if you failed in the past as a elementary school kid who couldn't shoot basketball, that doesn't mean you can't. Now, as a teenager, as an adult, um, shoot basketball or you that you don't have the ability. So remember, the past has nothing to do with your ability. Now the past is in the past. I realized that if you dedicate yourself to it, have the right attitude, you can achieve what you want to achieve. Hopefully, you learn some things about the path to your goal and yourself and your abilities. This past week, hopefully they were positive. Um, again, if they weren't positive, treat them is learning lessons and try and see how you can, um, deal with those in a way that allows you to carry on. Not all of this is going to be easy. Not all of this is going to give you, you know. Ah, quick fix sort of thing and carry on. Some of it might be yet another goal that you're going to have toe to tackle. Um, either now, if it really is an impediment or down the road, But, um, you know, be clear about what's going on. Do that period of introspection and see well, what happened. If it's good, Great. If I could have done better, how could I have done better if I had problems? How do I fix those problems? Um, at this point, you're basically ready to be cut loose. You've gotten the fundamentals of what this whole process about really the only thing that you need to do is go through and come up with another resolution. What is the task or set of tasks for this next week? Based on that, change up your plans if you need to, it might be that you're on track and you can just reuse your plan. Um, depending on your process, it may be that, you know, this first week was really set up on getting the pieces that you needed to actually start on the activity. That that's really the focus. So it may be that your plan really changes up, Um, feel free to share your experiences and ah, your insights from what went right and what went wrong this past week in the forum. Always love to see that and where I can I love toe, you know, provide encouragement or feedback on those sorts of things. And, um, feel free to share this second weeks plan in the forum as well and review other folks, uh, plans as well on day. Expect to see some reviews back. But this is the process, and it's just repeat. Repeat, Repeat, till you finally achieve that goal. I know you can do it. And I hope that after this first week, you're feeling confident you have the right attitude, um, to be able to achieve it. I think it's a very powerful framework, and I really like I said, it's worked for me. I actually built this class using this framework. Um, and I continue to use it to achieve my own goals. So thanks for putting some trust in me here, Um, and trying this out. I hope that you see the promise in it for you. I hope it's interesting. Um, don't leave it at this feel, you know, do continue to read and improve yourself. Um, there are other layers of self improvement that you can put onto this. There are other little hacks that you can make your process better. But I think that you have the foundation now that will carry you on from the start. That just happened. This packs a week all the way through to the happy achievement of your big resolution at the end. So I just wanted to leave you with a final thought. And these were just awesome words by Winston s Churchill. And I think they really encompass what I've been trying to get you to understand over the course of this class. Success is not final. Failure is not fatal, and it is the courage to continue that counts. Um, I hope that you will not just achieve this resolution, but the resolutions that are going to come after it. There's always that, um, desire to improve yourself and prove your world. Make yourself a better person. Ah, so so keep striving. Keep coming up with those audacious resolutions and making the world a better place. Um, I hope by now you have a much better appreciation of failure as not only not being fatal but not being a bad thing. So take failure, learn from it, make it make it your ally, make it something that you can benefit from, and really, it's It's just having that commitment, the courage, the consistency to not stop ever. That will really take you to the end of your goal. So I've tried to provide a framework that makes things easier and gets rid of some of the stumbling blocks. But there there is that in her commitment that needs to be there as well. And that's why we spent time trying to make a resolution that was meaningful and hopefully that that spark will carry on through to successful completion. Thanks again for joining me in this class, and I write little block posts and share articles and other interesting tidbits about kind of personal productivity and performance and things of that nature at my website. So I encourage you and welcome you to join us over there.