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3 Simple Ways To Make Small Talk With Anyone

Patrick Dang, International Sales Trainer

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3 Lessons (11m)
    • 1. 3 Simple Ways To Make Small Talk With Anyone Intro

      1:21
    • 2. 3 Simple Ways To Make Small Talk With Anyone

      8:48
    • 3. Next Steps

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About This Class

Sometimes it might be a challenge to navigate social situations at parties, networking events, or even if you’re trying to start a conversation with a stranger.

You may have good intentions and want to get to know other people…but it can be difficult finding the right words to say.

Or even to say something and start the conversation.

And for most people, they end up asking the same old boring questions and get a plain 1-word answer from the other person.

Now when I was younger, I often found myself in these types of situations quite often.

And over the years, I developed an easy way to start conversations with ANYONE just by following a few simple steps.

So if you’ve ever struggled with “small talk” and would like to learn how you can start a conversation with practically anyone, this is the video for you!

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1. 3 Simple Ways To Make Small Talk With Anyone Intro: now, no matter who you are, what you do, you might find yourself in social situations, whether it's a party networking event or you see someone and you want to start a conversation with them now. The problem a lot of people have is that they don't know how to start these conversations and make small talk and move these conversations into something more deep. And I know for myself someone who, you know at one point in my life was not very good with my communication skills. When I would try to start conversations with somebody they would just answer with. One word replies in the conversation just ends there Now. Over the years, after a lot of trial and error, I found some of the most simplest ways that you can use to basically make small talk with anybody and essentially start a conversation with anybody and lead that into a real relationship and to really break down what this course is all about. I'm going to show you my three step formula when it comes to making small talk wolf anyone and for our class project. What I want you to do is I want you to share what you found most valuable in this course and what you feel you can apply right away in the real world so that you can start getting results and really start making more conversations in your every day life, whether it's your personal life or your professional life. So if you are excited to learn about how you can make small talk and start conversations with anybody, make sure you enroll in this course now. 2. 3 Simple Ways To Make Small Talk With Anyone: everybody. What's going on? It's Patrick staying here now. Sometimes you might find yourself in a social situation whether you're at a party, a networking event. Or maybe you see a total stranger and you want to start a conversation with them. Now, you may want to talk to them, but you may not know exactly what to say in exactly how you can make small talk. And I know for myself I was in this exact same situation where, you know, I wanted to have these conversations with people. But I always ended up just asking boring questions where the other person would just answer with one word answers. And maybe sometimes the conversation would die right there. And they would say something like, Oh, I see someone I know. And then they would, you know, totally go off. Now, if you ever found yourself in a situation like this, you understand how frustrating it can be to not be able to make small talk, which eventually leads to deeper conversation. So what I'm gonna do in this video is I'm gonna show you three simple ways you can make small talk wolf anyone now to get started. Let's go ahead and dive right in the first step. When it comes to making small talk with anybody is actually to introduce yourself effortlessly. Now here's the problem that a lot of people have, right. The first step, when it comes to making small talk is that a lot of people don't know how to, you know, start the conversation and approach another person. Now a lot of people may not even have the courage to go up to someone and start a conversation, and they may overthink it in their heads, and they may end up not talking to anybody. And so you do not want to fall into this camp. Now here's the easiest way that I found you can use to introduce yourself in any type of social scene. Whether it's a party, a networking event, Expo doesn't matter what it is. So what you want to do is if you are at one of these events and you see someone that may maybe you just want to start a conversation with them, all you have to do is go up to them and say, Hey, I don't think we've met yet. I'm Patrick Great to meet you right, or Hey, I don't think we've met yet. My name's Patrick. What's your name? Right. So essentially, what you're doing here is that you are just approaching somebody. And the first line that you are going to say is, Hey, I don't think we've met yet. Why this is so powerful is because if you go up to someone and you start having conversation with them, they might be thinking in their heads. Do I know this person how we met before? Can I trust you? Right. All these things are subconsciously going through someone's head. But if you upfront, just tell them Hey, we don't We haven't met yet. And you want to introduce yourself so that you can start a conversation. It makes people a lot more relaxed. They know what to expect. And, you know, that's essentially how you can pretty much start a conversation with anybody. So, in the situation where you don't know what to say, definitely use that line. Now, in other situations, you may be able to use context that things that are around you two star conversations okay , so let's say, for example, you are randomly at a coffee shop and you want to talk to the person sitting right next to you or across from you. Right? And I used to spend a lot of time in coffee shops working over the weekend, and I have tried his myself a ton of time, so I know it's gonna work for you. So here is how you use context. The first thing you want to do if you want to start a conversation with the person who is sitting next to you is you want to take a look at what they're working on, right? Some people are working on their laptops. Maybe they're writing something, and basically, you want to make the conversation contextual. When you start these conversations, so are you gonna do is look at the person's computer screen glance it don't don't stocked up. And you just say something like, Hey, that looks pretty cool. What are you working on, right? Simple as that. Now, what usually happens at this point is that the person is going to think in their heads. Oh, you're talking to me and you seem like you're interested in what I'm doing. And then they're just gonna answer you about exactly what they are working on. Right from there, you say something like, Oh, that's pretty cool. I'm Patrick, by the way. And then you shake their hand. So very simple, right? All you really do is using contacts, your environment and saying something like, Hey, what are you working on? They answer your question, you say, Oh, that's really cool. My name's Patrick. Shake their hand and boom, you basically started the conversation out of thin air. Now, secret behind this is that you want to make sure you have the right intentions when you are conversing off another person, right? Because people can feel if you are genuinely interested in what they have to say if you're just trying to make random small target, you know I can feed you whatever lines you want to hear, But it's not gonna work unless people feel like you're interested. So the best way to do this is to actually care about the people you want to talk to and trust me. People will notice. Okay, so now that you've got the conversation going, the next step of the process of making small talk is to ask questions to learn a little bit more about the person you want. Talk to now. You definitely do not want to ask questions where the person can easily reply with one word answers. You want to make sure you ask questions that really provoked thought and get people to share their opinions on something. So, for example, if you are at a networking event, you could say something like, Hey, what brings you to this event? Right? And then people will share about you know what company they work out or what they're doing at the event and what they're interested in seeing. And the other example. If you are at a coffee shop and the person you talk to is working on some type of design, you could say, Hey, how did you get into design? And they're going to tell you the back story of how exactly they became a designer. Or you could say something like, Well, you know, I'm just curious. Where did you get your inspiration from? And, you know, that can open the whole box of dialogue right there. So those are some example questions you can use, but I'm gonna give you a couple more tips when it comes to asking questions, right? The thing is, people love talking about themselves. So all you gotta do is you ask these open ended questions that allow the opportunity for another person to talk about themselves and the things that they really care about. In fact, I would say that most people are craving for the opportunity to talk about themselves. You just need to open up the dialogue for them to feel comfortable in sharing their stories . And again, if you ask these born questions that solicit one word answers, that's not really having a conversation. But if you ask these questions, I get people to share about who they are as a person. Then you're making riel conversation. Now we're going to go one step deeper when it comes to small talk, and that is really getting the other person to share their emotions and their feelings. Right? So you might be doing an OK job so far, asking questions, starting the conversation. But let's really take it to a deep level. So you actually build report and maybe a friendship with another person, right? So here's exactly how you're going to transition. You want to ask something called a fueling question and all that basically is is just asking the other person how they feel about something a specific topic or interest that is contextual to your conversation. So I'm gonna give you some examples based on what we've been talking about in this video. So if you are at a networking event or an expo, all you gotta do is say something like, Hey, how do you feel about this event so far? Or in the event where you're talking to a designer, you could say, How do you feel about your experience being a designer so far? Do you see yourself doing this for the rest of your life? These air, some real powerful questions that can get someone to really think about what they're doing and really share their opinions, right? And a very simple question that you can ask, and in any type of situation, no matter what context you're in or what kind of environment you're in is you could say something like, Hey, you know, how do you feel about that, right? Whatever that is, it's contextual to what you were talking about earlier. But if you just ask some hey, what do you feel about that? And they're going to share their feelings with you. So what's gonna happen next at this point is the person is going to talk more about the feelings about a certain topic and share their opinions with you. So instead of just talking about surface level things like fax and things like that, you want to switch it into how people feel. What do they think about certain subjects? What's their emotion? Are they angry? Are they Saturday frustrated? These are the emotions that you want to get to really build a connection with another person, right? Because if you really think about it, the only time we really share our opinions about something is one. If we really want to express it. For some reason or two, we are talking to a friend that we trust. So if you are able to follow these steps, start the conversation, ask a few questions to go deeper and then asked is fueling questions, you're gonna be able to turn the small talk conversations into something deep, more emotional and allows you to build a relationship with another person. So with that said, that is pretty much the three steps you need to take when it comes to making small talk wolf anybody. And if you want to go ahead and make sure to subscribe to my email newsletter, all you gotta do is click the link in the description to subscribe to that newsletter. Finally, let me know in the comments what you thought about these tips and what kind of videos you want to see in the future. Because I'm always open to your suggestions. And, you know, I'm happy to make these videos for you now with that said, Thank you for your attention. I really hope you guys learn something today, and I'm going to see you guys in the next video. 3. Next Steps: Now, if you're getting any value out of these courses, make sure to leave a positive review. Sharing your experiences. I read every single review, and I really do appreciate your feedback. And if you want to see more videos like this, make sure to follow me on skill share so you could be notified on when I release my latest courses.